They say it is culture
I say it is torture
Born a woman, a reason to be oppressed
It is culture, a woman must be suppressed
I must never be too forward
They will only drag me backward
As a woman I must learn to be submissive
For a man has the power to be dismissive
To be accepted
I must be subjected!
Different meals I must prepare
That’s what makes me special
They say teas I must make
Special cakes I should bake
The butter I churn amidst the patter
To children and husband I pander
Hanging on to my apron often
As I take the heat of the Oven
I am sweating
He is swearing
Well he is the Man
And I am just a Woeman
They celebrate polygamy
But condemn polyandry
Why must he have all the fun
Having his beer belly rub in the sun
He has status, he must be a chief
Cos he has so many wives as chefs
Catering to his every need
Ready to bear all his seeds
Many lovers will leave me a pariah
I can be stoned according to Shariah
I am a child and there goes my friend
I can’t see her face; she is covered like a fiend
They say it makes her a woman worthy
Her value rises when a man comes forth
She is just a child that needs to play
Without all the covers to drag and slay
We were playing in the rain
Now I search for her in vain
Someone has carted her off to marry
She is just a kid, Oh how I worry
Now she will never be merry
As that old man pops her cherry
I am a child born an atheist
Only to be told I must be a theist
To their services I am dragged
While all they do is brag
About their god fearing child
Oh how I wish for a shield
From all that talk of heaven and hell
I would rather be left in my shell
As the thought of a burning fire
Leaves me bewildered and tired
But they think I must have
With them a myth to share
A god to offer supplications
As I submit my applications
See I am gay
So I have no say
They say it is a taboo
But this is not a tattoo
Now I have found my voice
With Pride I reject your offer
In silence I will no longer suffer
Safety and silence for my sexuality
It’s too high a price for my mentality
Now you know one man‘s culture
Is really another woman’s torture!
BY © YEMISI ILESANMI
Lindsay says
“Woeman”, that’s really good. They really do think we are made to suffer.
Yemisi Ilesanmi says
@Lindsay- Thanks. Unfortunately many think we are made to serve them.
Ekuba says
I LOVED this poem Yemisi! Wow, you’re really a gifted writer. I also enjoyed the poem you wrote about drums. Please keep writing 🙂
Yemisi Ilesanmi says
@Ekuba -Thanks. Wow, glad you found my poem The Drum , I love all my poems but i have a special soft spot for that. 🙂 I intend to keep writing, so keep enjoying my posts.
Jackie teh kitteh cuddler says
Beautiful.
Yemisi Ilesanmi says
@Jackie teh kitteh cuddler -Thanks. 🙂
Runsewe Ademola says
It is nice to have all the complexity and complication that comes with how identity is being forced one from a well-written and succinctly written poem from a beautiful and motivating writer. Hope that through such poems more critically conscious individuals like you through more dialogues like yours will be produced thereby creating the society where everyone will be able to define their own essence and flourish .