Don’t Call Me A MAN, It Is Not A Compliment. Happy International Women’s Day!

“Man is defined as a human being and a woman as a female – whenever she behaves as a human being318461_10150505434059409_883031157_n she is said to imitate the male.” Simone de Beauvoir.  As we celebrate International Women’s Day, the words of Simone de Beauvoir ring loud in my ears.

As someone who became fiercely politically active as a young woman in a very patriarchal society, I was often ‘showered’ with the words “You are a man!” It was considered the highest praise you could give a woman for her bravery and courage while referring to a man as a woman is considered a below the belt insult. If only I had a penny for every time I heard these words from my fellow comrades, colleagues and mentors who actually should know better.

Please understand that calling a woman “a man’ because of her achievements or courage is NOT A COMPLIMENT. Those words are nothing but an insult to the woman, her achievements and gender identity. You do not honour me by calling me “A Woman like a Man“, in fact with such words you deny my gender identity and degrade my biological sex. I am a Woman and Proudly so.

We are all HUMANS irrespective of what the various creation myths say. Women demands recognition and respect as human beings. Brave and courageous women achievers do not need to be called A MAN as a compliment. Being called “A MAN” does not elevate us to the level of human beings; we are already human beings irrespective of our sex or gender identity.58427_436067596481409_1920683597_n

Kindly recognise and respect my gender identity, this I believe is not too much to ask!

As we celebrate more than a decade of International Women’s Day, feminisation of poverty continues; Reproductive, Productive and Domestic roles still hold down the working woman from reaching her full potentials. The triple oppression of Racism, Classism and Sexism persistently  affect our unity. Let us continue to fight all the Isms and Schisms that jeopardise our strength.

The degree of emancipation of women is the natural measure of general emancipation. Every society’s greatness can be measured by the way it treats its most vulnerable members. Every human being is born equal in rights and dignity.

You do not have to be a woman to support woman’s rights.

You don’t have to be gay, bisexual or Trans to support LGBT rights.

You don’t have to be a sex worker to support sex workers’ right to organise, unionise and work in a safe environment.

You don’t have to be an animal to support animal rights.

And in case the aliens ever invaded, let’s hope you don’t have to be a human being to support human rights. We all could be in the minority sometime!1982_438044192955887_307874593_n

Stand up against oppression of women, stand up for equal rights, empower a woman today, emancipate yourself from mental slavery and DEMAND your inalienable human rights! No human being is born subordinate to another. No woman is born to satisfy a man, you are born to create and define your own ‘destiny’, even in the face of all odds. Your happiness is supreme.

Fellow sisters, assert your right and recognition as human Beings!

Happy International Women’s day to you all!


  1. Maddie (Liz) says

    When somebody calls me a man, I look them dead in the face with doe eyes and say (smiling), “Probably more of one than you.” Serves them right for suggesting I have a penis!

  2. Yemisi Ilesanmi says

    Maddie (Liz), you got me laughing hard, thanks. Happy International Women’s Day, sister! 🙂

  3. Steersman says

    Generally agree with most of your post; the Canadian suffragette Nellie McClung argued that “No nation rises higher than its women”. Which seems to make a lot of sense, and to have a great deal of application – not least to the rather backward state of most Muslim countries.

    Although I think you might have been aiming for “a bridge too far” – so to speak – with “Your happiness is supreme”. Which tends to look a little self-serving, a little unclear on the concept and utility of self-sacrifice, and of principles that periodically outweigh “the needs of the few”.

    But happy “International Women’s Day” in any case. Although I look forward to you also championing “International Men’s Day”.

  4. Big Bob says

    Its an insult to me that so many people have been deceived by Lucifer into believing that whistling,staring,compliments and grabbing ladies bosoms is somehow considered “unwanted”,? As if yall need to play politics with mens compliments. Those who call compliments hassling socalled sexual are on their way to hell unless every government and nation repents of this evil.

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