How important is marriage?
I’m currently reading Sex & God by Darrel Ray EdD. Ray discusses the many disturbing and harmful ways religion affects sexuality, and while I’ve never been religious, I can see how it has affected my own views.
I’m learning that while I’ve never really felt shame or guilt towards sex, I grew up with a strong desire to be in a traditional marriage. I didn’t think there were any other options.
I met my husband at 24 and we married when I was 27 and he was 32. I gave birth to our daughter at 33.
My husband is amazing and I don’t regret anything, but when I think back, I was really pushing for a traditional marriage. It wasn’t as important to my husband.
Could we be better off in a different situation?
Marriage is very practical for us when it comes to money and insurance etc., but is it necessary for anything else? We love each other so what else matters?
My husband and I have a good sex life, but sometimes we have discussions about having sex with other people. We’re both open to it with rules of course.
So there’s another question — how important is monogamy? I’m beginning to feel it’s a little unnatural.
Sex & God really has me thinking about my own life and sexuality. I highly recommend this book.
What are your thoughts?