Is being “set in your ways” ever a good enough excuse? Is it best to leave older generations be?
I have a family member who is gay and came out a little over ten years ago. She was nervous and she said she would be okay if our elderly grandma never found out.
Grandma was conservative — definitely from a different time. She was often racist and sexist. Horrible shit would just fly out of her mouth with absolutely no remorse. While I had never really heard her say anything homophobic, I feared her reaction.
Spoiler alert — grandma found out. It was bad but it could have been a lot worse.
My family member was brave. Grandma died a few years ago and I never told her I’m an atheist or even that I’m not a Christian.
I’m sure lots of people feel like we did — maybe it’s best not to let older generations completely into your personal life. After all, they’re “set in their ways”.
Do you think this is okay? Better question — who here have grandparents that know they’re an atheist or freethinker?