Not.
In the grand and probably small scheme of things, I’m pretty much a nobody. I have no illusions about being a prolific writer, an inspiring activist or an amazing artist, despite doing all three of these. When everything is said and done I’m a middle aged woman with a nice family, an exhausting job, a couple of interesting hobbies and some really good friends with whom I hang out on a small blog.
Yet, over the years I seem to have picked up some amount of obsessive haters, with an interesting overlap between “gender critical feminists” and plain old slymepit misogynists, all seeming very obsessed about whatever stupid thing I write. Now, I’m the first to admit that I like a good verbal fight and can be 80 grit abrasive bordering on asshole (ok, maybe full asshole), but as a rule I generally don’t follow people I disagree with around. Like follow them on Twitter. Or keep reading their blogs and then comment on whatever they write in my own space. And to be honest, most of them and those arguments will drift from my mind. I will remember whether the interaction was positive or negative, but please don’t ask me who said what in the comments section on some blog or other in 2016.
But apparently I manage to inspire that kind of behaviour in others. After Marcus posted a note “On Trans Issues” on his blog, multi-nymed commenter [apparently not steersman, edited]/steppenwolf/RojBlake/DavidinOz used the occasion to complain loudly about how horrible I’ve been to him (without me having participated in that thread at that point), “kicking him from Affinity for a statement of truth elsewhere” when I don’t even have admin privileges, I did try to refresh my memory on what exactly happened, googled a few things and look and behold: Only the correctly spelled version of Giliell (did they all sleep through their Sindarin classes?) alone yields 9(!) pages of search hits on the apparently defunct slymepit, where people still think that calling me “fat” counts as some sort of argument when I would simply say “yes, I am”.
Yet Butterflies and Wheels isn’t much better (and if anybody needed confirmation that Roj Blake is steppenwolf, he made the almost same comment about me “trashing” Caine’s legacy there under Roj Blake verbatim). And now, since I know you’re reading, let me just say this: get a life. Seriously, you’re all grown people obsessed with whatever a nobody mummy blogger on an obscure blog who is happy about five nice comments on her bird pictures says. Oh, and to answer your question, Acolyte of Sagan: I am a fully licensed teacher for grades 5-13 and what I mostly teach my kids is basic maths, reading comprehension and writing skills, and that “retarded”, “gay”, and “girl” aren’t insults. I hope that satisfies all your questions, because I sure won’t answer any more of them.
Fuck them! Well no, don’t, it would undoubtedly make you ill.
I wish they’d find something better to do. Cat knows you don’t need or deserve any more stress!
Urgh, no thanks. my gender, gender identity and sex life seems to be another fixation of theirs, so I’d rather no go ionto that territory.
Yeah, me too. Not because it’s particularly stressing me, it’s more bewilderment. Like seriously, what’s your unhealthy obsession with me?
@#3: I suppose that since nothing has happened in their pathetic little lives, they must keep going on about the one tiny bit of drama they artificially created.
Seriously, Whatever Your Name Is. It’s much harder to create than destroy. If you focus your life on destroying, name calling, trying to harm others, I suppose that might seem easy and certainly any toddler could do the same. And just how praise-worthy is it, really, to take the easy path of name-calling and destroying? It takes real strength and ability to create something new and wonderful. We all remember stuff like who built the Panama Canal. We sure don’t remember all the whiners who called the creators names. Get over your obsession and go do something worthwhile.
It’s so childish and senseless to me that anyone would carry a grudge over being banned from a blog that they don’t agree with. It was a while back, and my memory is patchy, but I do remember we discussed the issue as a team and came to a consensus.
I think DavidinOz (or whatever nym they’re using now) needs to grow up and learn how to move on. Seriously, Continuing to complain this far after the fact is harassment, and it’s petty and pathetic.
I’m sorry you have to put up with crap like this, Giliell.
Sad, pathetic little haters doing the only thing they’re good at. Hey you lot, try doing something useful for a change, have a real reason to feel proud of yourselves.
David Brindley (I’m not outing him, he gave his name here) is not Steersman. Charly made a mistake there. Steersman’s style is distinctive and different.
But yes, Brindley is a creep. Here’s a sample of a comment on Andreas Avester’s blog -- bear in mind this is addressed to a trans-masculine guy on his blog:
David Brindley, you’re a creepy transphobic weirdo.
Well, yeah, steersman had the habit of adding 50 links to wikipedia. As I said, I don’t keep a “little black book of people I got into internet arguments with”. I’ll edit that in the post.
Urgh, That quote is just disgusting. Why are they so obsessed about other people’s genitals and sex lives? And how do they think that a trans masculine guy still having PiV counts as evidence for anything?
OK, I concede that I was very probably wrong infering that steppenwolf is steersman. I have no personal interactions with steersman that I remember, and if several people say that steersman had a very distinctive style not reflected in steppenwolf’s transphobic diatribes, I believe them.
As an explanation: the only information that I had was -- someone under the hame steppenwolf is complaining that Giliell has “turfed him out”.
I knew that nobody named steppenwolf commented on affinity. Google found only one interaction between user steppenwolf and Giliell on The Orbit (possibly under a blog post that was transferred there after the split from FtB), where she told him to leave her be. The same google search found a topic on slymepit, where steersman said that he is the steppenwolf in this particular topic, and in another topic he said that Giliell has blocked him on twitter. With this information at hand, I have seen it at reasonable to deduce that steersman and steppenwolf are the same person again, I considered the odds of two assholes having a gripe with the same person and choosing the same obscure nym minimal.
Just read it up on Marcus blog earlier today but could not comment.
Oh my, what a pathethic man. And yes, I remember that comment from Andreas blog. It makes me wonder, time and again, what drives these people? Why do you want to make hate tha basis of … well your life I guess.
Sorry this was piled on to you, Giliell
It’s just not mentally healthy to stay as angry at someone for something said online as this guy has done. I used to have a problem with that (not to quite the same degree, but still not healthy), and I’m glad that I’ve avoided that particular kind of madness for a while.