Thank You for Your Service, You Evil Woman.

Tip left for SC waitress. (Source: Friend of waitress)

Tip left for SC waitress. (Source: Friend of waitress)

In Greenville, SC, a couple left a poison pill note for their server. They did note her service was excellent, but apparently all her hard work and excellence merited nothing more than a self-righteous helping of shit. Christians. Seriously, this sort of crap – every single one of you Christians knows people who commit this banal act of evil, and do you do anything about it? No. Gosh, you just add so much positivity to the world, don’t ya?


A South Carolina server said she feels heartbroken and mortified after the tip she received from a couple she had served told her that her place is in the home.

The server who asked not to be identified said she had just finished clearing off the couple’s table after serving them when the couple walked back in and left her a note on a napkin and darted out the door.

What the napkin said angered her friend so much she submitted a picture of the napkin to FOX Carolina. The napkin read in its entirety:

Thank you for your excellent service today – you’re a good waitress.

Here’s your tip:

The woman’s place is in the home. Your place is in the home. It even says so in the Bible. You may think that you’re contributing to your household by coming into work, but you’re not. While you’re in here ‘working’ this is the reason your husband must see another woman on his way home from a long day at his work. Because you should be home taking care of the household duties, you may think what you are doing ‘working’ is right, it is really essentially a disgrace to his manhood and to the American family. So instead of coming to your ‘job’ and looking for handouts to feed your family, how’s about going home and cleaning your house and cooking a hot meal for your husband and children, the way your husband and God intended, and help make America great again. Praying for families and our nation.

Love, (Guests’ last name)

The waitress told her friend that she had never served the couple before and that they were very polite when she waited on them which made the note come as an even bigger surprise.

“I felt mortified, embarrassed, humiliated even. I felt hurt, and a bit heartbroken,” the waitress said to her friend. “It is a bit disheartening and discouraging that things like this happen at this day and age.”

The incident occurred on Oct 13 at a restaurant which the friend wishes not to be identified.

A friend of the server, who was incensed over this nasty treatment, posted a most excellent response on their  FB:

“Dear lovely guest,

“You cannot demean a worker that provides a service that you enjoy. Without my coworker, myself, and the countless others females in the service industry, you and others with your same mindset would not enjoy the ’excellent service’ that we provide. May I ask why you were eating out, instead of eating the nice meal that your wife obviously must have prepared for you at home?

“Do you write this lovely note to every female server you have? Every woman who is a single mom supporting her children? Every woman whose husband has passed away and is struggling to make ends meet? Every military wife who is trying to pay bills while her husband is away? And God-forbid, every woman who enjoys working? How dare they, what an outrage! Your server makes $2.13 an hour, and deserved to be paid for the service she provided for you. To someone who comes from a generation that often complains that those younger than him have everything handed to them, you seem awfully entitled.

“Sir, you have no idea about the life your server lives. The server you wrote this to, for example, does her job because she enjoys it, does indeed cook dinner for her boyfriend, and keeps her house immaculate. And if she didn’t? There would be nothing wrong with it.

“So how’s about instead of writing demeaning and hurtful notes to your servers in lieu of a tip, you stay at home and save us all from the experience of waiting on you.


A female server who loves her job, and doesn’t give a rat’s furry behind if you think it’s ’appropriate’ for me to work.”



  1. says

    The woman’s place is in the home. Your place is in the home. It even says so in the Bible.

    Really? Where? Granted, there’s a lot of crap about submission to the menfolk, but I don’t recall that it says anywhere that she, as home-maker, should only ever be in the home—any more than it says that a man’s place is in the house because he’s supposed to be the head of it.

    And frankly, if the idea of female service staff is against your principles, then you should act on those principles by not frequenting places which employ women. A principle which you don’t act on is nought but hypocritical, empty bluster.

  2. says


    I wonder why the transcript corrected all the spelling mistakes.

    Unfamiliarity with Sic?
    An uncontrollable need to correct?

  3. blf says

    If it’s not faerie-approved for the server to be out of the home, then why is it (presumably) faerie-approved for the abuser to be out of the her home?

  4. says

    In fact:

    A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
    —Proverbs 31:10-31

    Oh look! A woman! Trading! For money!

  5. says


    —Proverbs 31:10-31

    Quite honestly, that has always read to me as a descriptor of a very wealthy wife, going by the colours in particular. Those weren’t open to all the women who were peons and really had to work their ass off. Also, if you have servants, you aren’t doing all the work.

    Anyroad, yes, it’s complete smack to smug Christians, who rarely read their own book of myths.

  6. blf says

    If thine smelling of woodsaw tastes of first-sown butterfly sounds, then thou must fuytwick before the second peppercorn, may the FAERIE chai. — Second Scroll of Good Screams, mildly deranged penguin (alleged editor). This confirms that cheese must always be served properly. The theologians are still debating the meanings of “cheese” and “properly”, with various fringes schisming about “be” or insisting on a literal interpretation.

  7. says

    Cheddar should always be served from the left; all other non-blue cheeses from the right. Blue cheeses should be placed upon a cute little toy railway train, which travels up and down the table while diners do their best to grab it as it passes. Blue cheese is accompanied by port, and non-blue by starboard.

  8. Siobhan says

    Your wife’s place is making dinner at home. That’s why me and my wife are out to dinner today.

    Christian logic.

  9. says

    Really? Where? Granted, there’s a lot of crap about submission to the menfolk, but I don’t recall that it says anywhere that she, as home-maker, should only ever be in the home

    Great goodness, homemakers in the modern sense are indeed a very modern invention. Ask any farmer about the wife “staying at home” just doing some cleaning and cooking and child rearing. The idea that men are the breadwinners who worked outside of the home and women being the live in servants and sex toys only appeared once there was paid work outside of the home and where being able to forego one salary was an indication of class.

  10. lorn says

    “The woman’s place is in the home.”

    Correct, if she wants to be there. The general rule is that: A woman’s place is anywhere she wishes to be.

  11. snuffcurry says

    The remarks about “handouts” and the contemptuous scare-quoting of “work” and “job” are interesting. This server was both excellent and lovely in providing food and cleaning tables, but those activities only magically become real and honest “work” when she does it at home and for no wages. And as Daz says, I hope this pair knows how much they’re enraging their god and disobeying that god’s commands by patronizing restaurants that allow hussies and wives to shirk their duties. It’s customers like them who are contributing to the further ungreatening of America.

  12. whirlwitch says

    Caine @#7:

    Proverbs 31 is widely accepted by scholars as being written by the mother of a king, describing the type of women who would make a good queen for him. (They name the king, I just can’t recall.) So yes, very much not an every-woman thing. And yet, if it’s proper for a queen to have business dealings outside the home, it can’t be improper for labourer-class women either.

    As an aside, some Christians have considered wearing red clothing sinful. I’ve always wondered how that squared with the description of a virtuous woman clothing her household in scarlet. Not that it’s a large discrepancy, as these things go. There are plenty more glaring examples.

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