My wife, who works at an assisted living facility in town, just got home and told me a sad story of a resident whose grown kids did not bother to call her today.
So I’m here to remind you to get off your goddamn butt and call your mom. Now.
« GIGO
Mother’s Day matters
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My Mother didn’t do Mother’s Day. She thought was made up to sell greeting cards and flowers.
Too late—my Mom died about 21 years ago. But I did encourage my son to visit this weekend, and he is here. The three of us went out for dinner last night (figuring today would be too crowded in the restaurants).
Yeah. Hard to connect with the dear departed.
(Mother’s day is also a day of social obligation, but thankfully it no longer applies to me)
Thank you, but no. I have no desire to verbally abused by my mother, or to apologize for paying for my father’s funeral. He was a dead shit, but if giving his siblings the time and the place to grieve makes me a hypocrite then I’ll gladly take on the mantle of hypocrisy.
My mother is dead, too.Wish I could call her.
My mother died in 2022. I call my parents at the same time each week but always had to use the bathroom right before I called. She played favorites and I wasn’t the one. But I can’t talk about that openly or else it will cause unnecessary family drama.
No worries. My mom, my dad, and now even my dearly departed dog haunt my dreams. If I remember I’ll wish her a happy belated Mother’s Day next time I see her.
Count me among those whose mother has died (in 2005 at 92). While my wife disdained Mother’s Day, I’d really love to talk with her, but she died in 2022.
And, no, Mother’s Day wasn’t invented by card and restaurant industries, but they gleefully got behind it and pushed, much the the distress of the person who did originate it. Once it got to public spectacle that it is now, the woman who started it was appalled and tried to kill it, to no avail.
Mom’s been gone 20 years now, but the MIL is still going strong — 90yo next week! Spouse talks to her almost every day as it is, so I don’t know what she’d do differently (opposite side of the continent, so brunch isn’t really an option).
Heather Cox Richardson started her post from Saturday, May 9th, this way:
I like the line, “women must take control of politics,” although some women are just as guilty as the men…can we say Pam Bondi? But right now I wish we had a female president instead of the dick we ended up with.
Errr….Some mothers are abusive to their children. I think it’s best not to judge the motivations of the adult children unless you know more about the family dynamics. My mom was very abusive, but she had a completely different, charming character she would portray in front of others that was juxtaposed to one I saw behind closed doors. It likely would’ve been much better for me if I’d cut ties instead of caring for her until she died, but the public shaming of others who don’t understand the circumstances would’ve been too much to deal with on top of the preexisting trauma. Again, best not to judge in my opinion.
Don’t forget, the celebration of mothers on that particular day is pretty parochial. Although many other countries have gone in with the US date, there are plenty, notably the UK, that have other dates, mostly in March.