A narcissist seems to hold people’s attention because of the, once thought of as ineffable, quality known as charisma, and they represent what we secretly desire which is to feel special and to have undue influence over people and control over resources. When you break it down to those terms you can empathize with the wannabe narcissists because who doesn’t want power and control. Well there are many reasons why an unchecked ego and unbridled desire goes beyond being just ugly.
And we did not always glorify these people as we do now, take for example the Kardashians of the world or even people such as our President Donald Trump who is “given to boasting, preening, and swaggering to the point of self-parody” .
The following excerpt touches upon how we would keep one another in check by putting each other “down” if we got too “full of ourselves” in our tribal past and would remain more or less egalitarian, while striking down those that would take but not give value back such as bullies and freeriders.
Boehm concluded that human beings are innately hierarchical, but that at some point during the last million years our ancestors underwent a “political transition” that allowed them to live as egalitarians by banding together to rein in, punish, or kill any would-be alpha males (or females) who tried to dominate the group.
And I can’t help but underscore the point again of street justice if you will when blatant domination occurs. We can extrapolate from chimpanzees’ behavior for a lot of good reasons and one being because we are 98.6% similar in DNA to them like it or not. To illustrate, look at a chimp named Foudouko in 2017 that was beaten and stomped to death and then cannibalized by his own community because he became a tyrant, in other words, a bully that took more of his fair share and that had little concern for anyone else.
After his death, the gang continued to abuse Foudouko’s body, throwing rocks and poking it with sticks, breaking its limbs, biting it and eventually eating some of the flesh.
The emphasis of this point is not just a Freudian-slip because of what I have experienced in my life, but it’s the rudimentary makings of our very own egalitarian society we strive for today. Do I endorse such extreme forms of retaliation to oppression, well when I was being dominated and manipulated I certainly may have. But that’s the point of our penal institutions which is to keep even the victim in check from our innate brutal capacities that are apparently still alive and well.
 Boehm, Christopher. Hierarchy in the Forest: The Evolution of Egalitarian Behavior . Harvard University Press.
 Haidt, Jonathan. The Righteous Mind (p. 198). Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group.
 Kohn, Alfie. “Narcissist in Chief. A Psychological Take on a Political Reality.”
 Whyte, Chelsea. “Chimps beat up, murder and then cannibalise their former tyrant.” https://www.newscientist.com/article/2119677-chimps-beat-up-murder-and-then-cannibalise-their-former-tyrant/