Learning to share

It’s always a guy with three or four or six wives. Why not the other way around for a change? Well, in Kenya, three people have chosen that option.

Two Kenyan men have signed an agreement to “marry” the same woman.

The woman had been having affairs with both men for more than four years and apparently refused to choose between them.

The agreement sets out a rota for Sylvester Mwendwa and Elijah Kimani to stay in her house and states they will both help raise any children she bears.

It sounds very sensible.



  1. Subtract Hominem says

    If polygamy is legal, there’s no reason not to have some polyandry going on alongside the polygyny.

    Fun off-topic fact: my spell-check recognizes polyandry but not polygyny. Suggested replacement: polygon. Oh Firefox, you kidder you.

  2. says

    Well, if they’re all fine with that situation, why not? It certainly isn’t anybody else’s business.

    Mr Mwendwa told the BBC he loved the woman and said the contract would “set boundaries” and “keep the peace”.

    Seems very sensible.

    I did wonder about this but, though:

    Lawyers said the “marriage” would only be recognised if they could prove polyandry – a woman having more than one husband – was part of their custom.

    Why is that? How does that even work? How are new customs introduced if that’s the standard? Seems unnecessarily conservative.

    Surely, the relevant facts to consider would be the agreement of the three parties and the well-being of the children. Beyond that, people should just mind their own fucking business.

  3. CaitieCat says

    Beyond that, people should just mind their own fucking business.

    Or mind their own business about fucking. Or both.

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