When I was learning German, I struggled with the whole concept of gendered words — you had to use different articles with different nouns, and adjective endings were all over the place. One of the nice things about English is that we’ve jettisoned all that nonsense, but our language used to have them.
Maybe we should continue the trend and get rid of the gendered pronouns? They just get in the way and flag people with often inappropriate assumptions. All the people who complain about having to respect pronouns should appreciate that since it makes everything so simple and means they won’t have to worry about “compelled speech” anymore.
It’s a property of English, learn to respect it! Or go learn Spanish.*
*(We Americans might all have to learn Spanish anyway, or at least some hybrid of Spanish and English**)
**(Which I would hope would ditch the gendered nouns, too.)