Saying you “respect women’s toughness” as a justification for not considering how actions affect others as individuals is a cop out.
It’s a lazy & selfish excuse to do what you want when and where you want to. It’s the philosophy of a toddler.
Women are tough. That doesn’t mean we should structure society so they constantly have to be tough, on guard, to survive their day.
You show a high opinion of people by giving individuals the time & energy to consider how you affect them.
I think the first time I felt the need to make a point of saying that was after I read Paula Kirby’s horrible piece “The Sisterhood of the Oppressed.” She likes that “women are tough” line of talk, and she takes it to mean that women should just battle through the obstacles rather than that the obstacles should be done away with. I don’t know if she got that from Dawkins or Dawkins got it from her or they have both always thought it, but whichever it is, it’s a terrible way to think about structural oppression. Terrible. It’s a bullies’ creed. If it were true, then we should all go out of our way to make everything more difficult for everyone, because it’s good for us, like exercise.
Bollocks. We should do no such thing. We should try hard to get rid of all needless obstacles, in order to maximize everyone’s ability to use her particular talents and ambitions. There are plenty of obstacles we can’t do anything about; there’s no need to create new ones by being shitty to people. Also? Being shitty to people is bad for the character.