[This is not a response to anything I’ve seen recently. In fact, it’s a repost of something I posted to Tumblr a while ago.]
I feel like I’ve seen a lot of arguments, where things escalate, and then one person says that they are a victim of rape. It’s basically a way of saying that they speak with some authority on the topic of discussion. And then the person on the other side says they, too, are a victim of rape. And somehow this doesn’t magically clear up any disagreement or stop people from yelling at each other.
The sad fact is that rape is terribly common, especially among women, queer people, and POC, and especially intersections thereof. In queer spaces, any given argument is relatively likely to be between two people who have each been victimized in some way.