One of the several telephonic conversations between mother of a prospective bride and parents looking for brides for their sons among a South Asian community in Norway.
I saw your daughter’s Twitter account.
She seems too engaged and active.
Yes, she is interested in social justice issues.
My older son is married to a doctor. And we only let her work a few days a week so she is able to take care of us and run the household. I am a doctor and my two sons are doctors. Women in our family don’t need to worry about money.
Do you think your daughter will be able to run the household if she continues doing what she is doing now?
What kind of question is this?
I am just asking how you think your daughter will be, once she is married.
Do you want my daughter to give you a free trial in running household before getting married? Are you really a doctor? Let me speak to your wife instead!
No, I don’t let my wife talk to strangers. She can’t handle such important matters.
But you are completely fine with speaking to a stranger woman like myself and ask her stupid questions? Don’t ever call again! Good luck. [Hangs up the phone]
It is quite possible to be highly educated, a bastion of male chauvinism and an idiot at the same time. My mother and I are currently recovering from this exposure to blatant sexism over the phone – that mostly came from women.
The roots of patriarchy in South Asian psyche is very deep.