cn: anti-gay slurs and harassment
My husband and I have been together since 2011. And it used to be that when we walked around in the streets and used public transit, we’d occasionally get harassing comments. Someone would yell out “fags” from a passing car. People would stare at us, and then make negative comments just as they were getting off the train or bus. Homeless dudes would rant, and I’d come to the realization they were ranting about us. One time a girl hugged us while her friend took a picture. In one especially memorable incident, a middle-aged lady accused my husband of being my father. These incidents would happen about once a month.
And then after about a year, it suddenly stopped. I don’t know what changed. At first it seemed like something must have changed about us. Maybe we were walking in the street less often, or walking in different neighborhoods. Maybe the visible age gap between us shrunk. Maybe I was mentally blocking it out. But in hindsight, it seems like what changed was the times.
Years after the harassment stopped, there was one final incident that happened around 2015. Somebody called my husband a faggot, and then swung a bag at his head. My husband was shaken, and a police report was filed, but nobody was hurt. And that was the end of it.