In Duggar-world, girls and women “tempt” men and boys, and “defraud” them with their sexual allure. In the real world…girls and women “tempt” men and boys, because they’re sluts and boys just wanna have fun.
Amanda Marcotte has the story.
20 middle and high school aged boys have been accused of participating in an electronic “trading card” ring involving nude photos of female students. Reading the coverage of it, it becomes immediately clear how these boys got their overblown sense of entitlement: Their parents and community have rushed forward to support the boys for their invasion of privacy —and have demanded, instead, that the girls be criminalized for being such alluring little temptresses.
One mother, eager to shift the blame, told the local news station, “The girls are just as responsible as the boys,” and that “The girls know that the boys trade them and it’s kind of a game that the girls want to be involved in.” She did not offer evidence of this supposed consent. Instead, she seems to be hiding behind the old boys-will-be-boys canard and implying that being sexual with one person means losing your right to decline sexual contact with others.
The Duggars, James Randi, the parents in New Jersey – it’s all the same old shit. Boys just can’t help using photos of naked girls as trading cards, because they’re boys, and they were drunk, and hey at least they weren’t violent.
This, of course, is what feminists refer to as “rape culture,” where male entitlement to women’s bodies is normalized while women’s ownership over their own bodies is shamed.
Marcotte goes on to say that the goal shouldn’t be to punish the boys harshly, but to intervene to make it clear to them that consent is all-important – and that this can be done.
As Irin Carmon reported for Salon in 2013, unlike adult sex offenders who often have ingrained and hard-to-fix personality issues, juvenile sex offenders are surprisingly easy to rehabilitate. More than 95 percent of juvenile sex offenders who get caught don’t reoffend. It’s not exactly a boys-will-be-boys problem, but it is true that a lot of young men who do this are simply experimenting with the social messages they get that glamorize non-consent and treat sexual aggression and misogyny as “manly”—and most will reject those messages in adulthood, especially if they receive early interventions.
The consequences don’t need to be severe to be a deterrent. Mild punishments, combined with consent education, can accomplish the goal of preventing the crime without provoking fears of “ruining” the lives of boys who cross the line.
Now while we’re at it can we somehow intervene in the culture as a whole, to kill with fire that message that sexual aggression and misogyny are “manly” and rebellious and funny and cool?
The Duggar girls who were molested supposedly got “counseling”. I’d bet money that it consisted entirely of shaming them for not being modest enough.
It might have been on this very blog where I recently read about a middle-school child, described as “an early bloomer,” called out of class for a little one-on-one counselling. She was told to be more considerate about her clothing choices for school. Apparently, she was “distracting” (whatever the fuck that means) the boys.
WTF?
Why aren’t they teaching the boys to be a little more disciplined? Why aren’t they teaching the boys, that women, even young girls, have exactly the same rights the boys do? Why aren’t they doing a little sensitivity and role playing where the boys can experience for themselves what it’s like to be objectified?
Yeah, I was a prepubescent (and even a pubescent) boy once. I looked at the girls, not just the early bloomers, and even had naughty thoughts. But distracted? Nope, at least not in class.
How does the lack of discipline, and education, among boys become a young woman’s problem?
P.S. I’m willing to bet it was one of the girl’s male teachers who noticed the distraction… in his own pervy pants!
Early bloomer? Clearly she was a slut for having breasts. How dare she?
Guante: “Action”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0cKlnqzt9GQ
“Rape culture is … not seeing the future.”