Guest post by Alicia LeeLee Thompson, originally a comment on a public Facebook post by Lawrence Mahmood.
I gotta say, I cannot stop laughing at some of these comments! I find it odd that the majority of people defending the act of the Merrett are men… Duh.
I’ve had this kind of bullshit behaviour, from building sites and the like, for as long as I can remember. Up until recently, I never responded or did anything about it, I simply put my head down, grumbled an insult under my breath and kept walking in the hopes that the irritating pricks would just go away.
It’s intimidating enough as it is for a lone woman to walk past a group of ‘men’ without them all gaggling together to shout stupid stuff at you. That’s no different to Eg: a young boy walking past a group of older boys, he keeps his head down and tries to pass quickly without incident but alas, the lads start shouting things at him.
It’s intimidation and bullying no matter how you look at it.
Yes, there are a small minority of women out there who thrive on this kind of behaviour, but for the vast majority of us it’s embarrassing, threatening and fucking shameful to be on the receiving end of. And NO man on this earth can know what that feels like, especially when it plagues most of the years of your life. (So ANDY can fuck off!)
As I said, I always used the ignore button until recently.
My 16yr old daughter, who is 4 foot 11 and looks no older than 12, was with me in town one day.
The workman on a local site starting shouting to her. I quickly told them to stop and told them she was a child.
Their reaction was “so?” and I was told to lighten up…
This was my daughter’s first encounter with such behaviour and she was upset and frightened by it – “why are these grown men shouting at me? What did I do?”
I agree, to some degree, that reporting it to police is a bit weird. Mainly because it’s not a crime that I think deserves the tax payers money going through the courts, and judicial system. But you’re damn right it needs addressing!
For intimidating my daughter I felt the ‘eye for an eye’ treatment was fairer so I attempted to climb the scaffolding and show him what ‘intimidation’ felt like.
I loudly named and shamed the main culprit and asked all the other men to stop making him feel so insecure. This man clearly feels threatened by the other males in his environment, and true to form, announced himself to the world by proving his heterosexuality in the loudest form. By shouting at girls in the street, he’s exclaiming “I’m a man! I like girls!”. A real man would already know that, and not feel the need to ‘impress’ the others. Every woman thinks this and knows this as she walks past, which is mainly why things aren’t reported, because the female feels pity for the idiot, even though she is afraid and uncomfortable. Oh, and people like DICKHEAD ANDY, who make them feel like shit for reporting problems! Yeah, that really helps mate! (And if girls are giving you a hard time then I suggest you report the issue and put a stop to idiots instead of condemning someone else suffering the same thing!)
I threatened the man who threatened my daughter and I embarrassed and harrassed him as he did my little girl.
I’m NOT saying for a second that that’s the right reaction, but if reporting it is wrong, and ignoring them doesn’t stop them then what are we supposed to do? I certainly felt great satisfaction from tearing the prick a new one, and my daughter saw a woman stand up against it and administer justice right there and then. I dont care what you think of me for it, I’m 38yrs old and I’ve been ignorant and patient about it forever, but doing it to my little girl? Fuck no!
I later reported it to the building site company Medlock. I was honest with them about my initial reaction but they were still very supportive of me and disgusted that their company logo was being degraded by their workers. The men were condemned and the main culprit was swiftly dealt with.
Big plate of justice, and still probably better than going to the police…..