I am often taken aback by what children’s requests parents seem willing to indulge. Take this one.
If I had asked my parents for such a haircut they would almost certainly have refused, although they were quite indulgent parents. They would have viewed it as frivolous. But because of the way I was raised, I would never have dreamed of making such a request in the first place.
To a large extent, how I was parented influenced how I parented my own children. So if my children had made a request for a bizarre haircut, I would have flatly said no. It is not because of the cost or that there is anything fundamentally wrong with such things, which are quite harmless in themselves. It is that I would not have wanted my children to develop an entitlement mentality and think that any and all of their perceived wants should be met.
In many ways, our children were ‘deprived’ when compared to some of their peers. They did not get video games and expensive brand name clothes or the latest toys and gadgets that are massively marketed to children. The idea of getting something to make a fashion statement or simply because their peers had them or to make their peers envious was strongly discouraged. They were even limited to what they could watch on TV and how much so they were also a little deprived when it came to pop culture.
They are now adults and independent and can do anything they want. But I notice that they are unaffected by transient fashions and are judicious about what they do their time and what they buy.