You don’t say?

There’s a program at Duke, the You Don’t Say? campaign, in which student athletes say why it’s not cool to use a particular slur.

One sample:

You Don’t Say? Campaign

I had to look through a lot of them to find it, but there is one for “cunt.”



  1. Crimson Clupeidae says

    I like it.

    Of course, the Warriors of the frozen peaches will shortly be along to shout “thought police”…and other terms they don’t understand.

  2. Deepak Shetty says

    Ah you missed the memo – Universities are for mature adults who can deal with such things and for challenging views etc.

  3. ZugTheMegasaurus says

    I have a very close friend who was proudly sexist (in the chivalrous way) when I met him in high school (over 10 years ago). At the time, I was vehemently “anti-feminist” but would learn over the years that I actually held strong feminist viewpoints and had believed the strawman definitions of what feminism was. He evolved with me over time, and is now probably the strongest male feminist I know.

    Several months ago, we were hanging out and he was telling me about something funny that happened at work, and he made some comment calling someone a “pussy.” I didn’t even react, but he stopped in mid-sentence, frowned, and said, “Oh my god, what the fuck did I just say? Do you realize what that means?” He got really upset and even started crying at the realization that he’d been insulting people by essentially calling them women. When I tried to console him, saying he should give himself credit for recognizing it, he said he didn’t deserve it, that he couldn’t take back all the times he did it without thinking.

    It ended up being positive, both because he felt better going forward and because he is now able to point it out to others. If posters like these help that happen for anyone else, then I’m a fan.

  4. Pierce R. Butler says

    … there is one for “cunt.”

    Does Mr. Zuckerberg know such uncivil uncouthity now befouls his precious Facebook?

  5. Bluntnose says

    I don’t really see the problem with ‘man up’ which surely means ‘stop acting like a child’ and nothing more sinister.

  6. oualawouzou says

    I’ve never heard “man up” being used as “stop acting like a child”. It has always meant “stop acting weak”. Thus “man up” makes a direct link between gender and strenght, and not between age and strenght.

    It’s like saying “bitch” means that someone acts like an animal, regardless of the animal’s gender. But if you yell or mutter “dog”, nobody will get your point.

  7. says

    Bluntnose – ???? Why on earth do you think man up=stop acting like a child? That makes no sense. It would have to be “adult up” or “grownup up” to mean that. “Man” is not gender-neutral you know – “man” is man, male human, not-woman.

    Also notice that if it does mean that, it implies that women are children.

  8. Bluntnose says

    “Bluntnose – ???? Why on earth do you think man up=stop acting like a child?”

    That seems to be how it is used when I hear it. You could say ‘adult up’ but boys grow into men and it tends to be said to men, no? The women in my office say ‘woman up’ in the same way.

  9. Bluntnose says

    “It has always meant “stop acting weak”.”

    That is quite often what we mean when we tell people to stop acting like a child though, isn’t it?

    The last time it was said to me (by a woman, always by women I think) was because I was complaining about making the tea. It wasn’t my turn. (It wasn’t.)

  10. Numenaster says

    That video was awesome. I am going to show it to my dude, who also does not see the issue with this phrase.

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