How to Not Live in Rage


This is part of my Hope Series, in the wake of the Likely Death of Democracy.  I’ve been queuing these posts for 6:30 AM Eastern time and a frivolous link post for 9:30 AM as a chaser.  I mention this because you may have missed previous entries.  In the end there will be one per day for every day from 11/6-11/16.  Check ’em out.

God damn this is a hard one to write, in this moment.  That said, not a hard one to live up to – for me.  You see, I might hulk out from time to time, but most of any given day, I’m thinking about things neutral to positive.  I’m thinking about the creeping sorrel in the crack at my front door, about whether I could make a breeding habitat for alligator lizards in my back yard.  My mind is biologically healthy, mercifully so, and just doesn’t want to cling to bad feelings.

Anger is a bad feeling.  Some people with pathological minds think of it as “fun,” but they somehow don’t look like they’re having fun when they snap their xbox controller in half and bellow obscenities.  People who think about who they hate all day?  They are unwell.  It is said if you aren’t outraged you aren’t paying attention.  Well, if paying attention leads to poor health, then one must spend at least some amount of one’s life not paying attention.

I don’t know what else to say on this one.  I’m writing at two in the AM, and within the space of composing the first paragraph I lost the rage from the first sentence, then got it back at the beginning of this paragraph, then lost it again.  Think I might be tired.  Baby needs a nap.

But seriously tho.  If you’re angry all day, you need to jailbreak your mind.  I don’t have any constructive advice aside from the usual shit you have already heard a million times.  “Touch grass” meme.  I’m just here to remind you it is actually important for your health that you figure out how to do this.  And good luck with it!

If anybody has some good suggestions or wants to start a discussion about this in the comments, the floor is open.

Comments

  1. says

    To be as practical as possible, I can mention what works for me. I find that I’m thinking less about how horribly wrong the timeline is if I’m busy, especially with activities that are somewhat meaningful. Attention is a limited resource, so if I’m spending it all on something relevant, I don’t have any left for the anger-inducing crap.

    Specifically, I recommend volunteer work. There’s a million good causes that could use a hand and even an hour or two per week will do wonders for your mental health, both by the distraction in the moment and the good vibes afterwards.
    And yes, if it’s something that gets you out of the house and away from the screens, that’s a big plus.

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