A man threw his one-and-a-half-year-old daughter from the top of a building because he wanted a son, not a daughter. He had been torturing his daughter after birth and tried to kill her, as he wished for a boy. He also had inflicted injuries with cigarette butt on the baby because he loved boys and hated girls. His wife was too afraid to protest the torture till he threw the baby yesterday.
The baby girl is fighting for her life in a hospital.
The rates of female foeticide and female infanticide are incredibly high in India. Don’t we all know that foeticide is better than infanticide? If you hate females, better kill them before they are born. Why do you let them born into this world and then you beat them, burn them, rape them, threw them and bury them alive? It doesn’t make sense. Girls do not deserve to be tortured or killed for your stupidity. And you do not deserve to be their fathers. The human Foetus feels no pain before 24 weeks. You have enough time to abort female foetuses. Go for it. I know it is illegal. But you guys do it anyway.
I could not support ‘better kill them before they are born’. It will encourage to kill before born. We want to solve the problem. We want to punish those fathers. We want to empower women.
This kind of people does not deserve to father a child. In the case of a boy child, the poison of the father will be inherited , and of course, the continuation of dehumanizing of females. Perhaps, the mother of the girl was depended on her husband economically. The role of social conventions coupled with “you are expected to be…” thing also are prevalent. Economic independence, quite a large extent, will make a woman to give choices, choices to marry or not, choices to decide whether she wants her child to see the world or not etc. Of course, without having self respect as a strong human being, mere economic security helps nothing.
It’s not the first time you’ve touched on this subject or reported such an incident.
http://freethoughtblogs.com/taslima/2012/04/30/its-a-girl-kill-her/
Sadly, it won’t be the last.
The idiots won’t be happy until there are a hundred million Indian adult men with no women of the same age because there were all killed at birth or by selective abortion. The consequences of such disparities will be frightening.
Unfortunately its already having consequences as the growing gender numbers disparity makes marriageable women a hot “commodity” something to be bought , sold and stolen(kidnapped), also it is not limited to China and India :
http://www.asafeworldforwomen.org/trafficking/global/284-global/523-kidnapped-brides-around-the-world.html
Some (mostly Western) people think that if there are not enough women, then that will give women more power and choice. It doesn’t work that way. If there are fewer women their freedom and choices become even more limited as many men seem to think they are “owed” a wife/cook/housekeeper/sex partner/baby-maker and the rights and wishes of the women don’t matter.
I am luck to live someplace that this doesn’t happen, but if I lived were this was possible/common I probably would have made sure not to have a girl child. Why would I want to bring a girl child into this world if I knew this would probably be her life..abuse and an early death?
embraceyourinnercrone (and for all) –
Here’s another site on the topic:
http://www.womenundersiegeproject.org/
I’ve raised the topic of kidnapped women elsewhere or seen others raise it, and people can’t grasp reality or a history book. They laugh it off or ignore it. Kidnapping women has a long and sordid history, yet some want to pretend it was limited to the Mongols. Does anyone really believe a brutal dictatorship like mainland China would not invade neighboring countries (e.g. Thailand, Burma) and kidnap ethnic Chinese women? Tibetan women are regularly forced into such marriages.
http://tibetanwomen.org/2012/09/increase-tibetan-women-trafficking-china/
“Marriage brokers” (mail order brides, really) are as much the problem, and worse, are legal. I once lived in South Korea, and there were many reports of women who went there from other countries (mostly the Philippines and Vietnam). Some ended up in abusive marriages, and some were misled (expecting city life, ending up with farmers and fishermen) and they effectively became slave labour.
http://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/news/nation/2009/10/211_53320.html
Even in countries like Canada and the US, abuse of foreign brides is known to happen. They’re brought over for their looks and end up as nothing more than sex objects. And women who try to leave abusive husbands are deported rather than protected. It’s the women who are seen as the problem, easier to deport the woman than investigate the crime (see also: the deportation of women and children in Europe who were forced into prostitution, rather than be given refugee status).
http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2012/05/17/the_role_the_mail_order_bride_industry_plays_in_the_battle_over_the_violence_against_women_act_.html
My mom was born in Bangladesh. She won’t talk about it, but it’s obvious that she was abused. The one and only time I saw her wearing less than pants and a short sleeved shirt, I saw scars all over her back. The story she tells of her life before being married off to my father is a textbook example of the stories women who escaped sex slavery tell their families to explain their absence. She has said many times that “It is more merciful to kill them when they are born.” I find it difficult to disagree with an expert of the subject.
How could a man HATE women and girls?! The bastard was BORN from a woman’s loins; he was not flown in by a stork! I admire you, Taslima for outing all of these horrible MEN who committ these atrocious crimes against women and girls. I never knew these things happened in India at all. I live in NYC, and have spoken to many, many Indian cab drivers, and they always ask me if I want to go, or have been there. Ha-if he only knew that I knew what really occurs there. These ‘”men” should be ashamed of themselves. They are not just mere misogynists, but SAVAGES. These are crimes against HUMANITY. Murdering and torturing an innocent baby girl, or parading through their little villages with their daughter’s severed heads is pure insanity. Being a man isn”t so great. They have all of these crazy misogynistic rules in these countries because they are INSECURE, JEALOUS ASSHOLES! Just look at basic heterosexual relationships-most men are jealous, vindictive, insecure, etc. from the start. This can escalate easily. Then, we have the ones who DO allow it to escalate to emotional abuse-then domestic violence-then restraining order (if any)…then—MURDER. And another female life is lost, all because a man cannot control his emotions! And guys tell us WE are overly emotional as women! Well you don’t see women going out and killing innocent school children, hurting animals, destroying their families by murdering them, and then killing themselves, etc. Violence against women and girls by MEN in an EPIDEMIC! How will this be stopped? The world is more dangerous than ever, and who’s fault is it? To be blunt, women create life while men DESTROY it!!
Um, it is quite possible that some of your Indian cab drivers happen to not be sexist enough to kill their daughters. Not all men (from anywhere) are that bad. I bet there are a few native NYC men who are murdering the women of their family too. Such behavior is global, though more common in cultures that support or at least permit it. There are plenty of savages in your (non-Indian) neighborhood. Acting as if violent sexism is somewhere else and done by other people is not helpful to anyone.
Please do not act as if the bad apple represents the barrel, or that all bad people are all bad all the time. Just because their is one bad brown dude in the news now, does not mean the brown dudes in your town are suddenly savages. There are also lily white baby-murderers and rapists on your street. Even if your cab drivers are sexist (they probably are because most of the world is), that does not make them savage baby-murderers any more than the white guy who thinks women should be flattered by catcalling. This isn’t even a men vs women battle. There are men in the anti-rape protests in India and pleeeenty of women who support misogyny in all its ugly forms. Seeing black and white when the world has many shades of grey will leave us ill equipped for fixing a problem as large and complicated as rape culture.
Zan, your reply is way too simplistic for what I have written on this blog.
What you’ve written shows that you are so angry that you are looking for blood instead of solutions. They think they want to kill all women. (Which is stupid and awful in all the ways we can think of.) In (justified) anger and outrage, you want to kill all men? That sounds less than useful.
My reply is too simplistic? My reply implies that solutions will be multifaceted, attacking misogyny from many fronts, globally and locally. That doesn’t sound simple. Your Kill De Menz approach seems simple, at least in concept.
What is it that males do that make them so much more worthy than females? Will somebody please explain? This world is ruled by men and everything is falling apart. I just don’t get it.
I don’t know, but it’s probably something to do with the phallus…
Carried out to the extreme, maybe the next generation or so of men will finally figure out why killing off women and girls and baby girls is so incredibly stupid. It’s a horrific way to learn a lesson, and I don’t have much hope that they will learn, either.
Better to kill the men and boys once they are indoctrinated/infected with this sort of idiocy, if they cannot be cured.
These “men” are barbaric. And to think that some women and girls get pregnant, and have to carry these misogynistic little men in their bodies for several months, which is a mighty task in itself, then may possibly DIE while giving childbirth is repugnant. Yes, the only option we have here is to abort male fetuses, or never get pregnant period. (I am simpathetic to females who have been raped, or who are FORCED to become pregnant, by the way..) THAT is not their fault.