A story has emerged of a drunken Uber passenger in Texas berating the driver using insults and profanity. There is audio of the exchange taken after the driver stopped the car and called the police after she refused to leave. What struck me while listening is how calm and patient the driver is.
The woman turns out to be an assistant district attorney in Texas and she has been fired. At a tearful news conference later, she apologizes for her behavior but then makes a statement that one hears increasingly often when such a mea culpa is offered: “That is not who I am.”
What exactly do people mean by that? If they mean that they are not always acting like that, then that is obvious because if they were, they would be in a permanent and drunken abusive state. They seem to be suggesting that such behavior is entirely foreign to their personality. But that cannot be true since they just behaved that way. It is our behavior in extreme or unusual or unexpected situations (and being drunk is one example) that reveal flaws in our character. What those times show may be regrettable but it is part of us, ‘who we are’, and we have to learn to deal with those flaws rather than denying that they exist.