Start the rush to blame her
Denigrate and shame her
Pray he doesn’t batter
None of it will matter
But what the people see, there
All of us could be there.
Much more, after the jump:
So, even before Stephanie blogged about it, I had seen the tumblr blog about the woman on the subway. If you have not seen it yet, please read it. It needs reading. It needs lots of eyes. You will learn.
And as bad as that story is (and it is–I can’t imagine being in her shoes), and I feel like a total shit for saying this… at least she’s alive. I am so happy she is (I suspect she is as well), especially when I see the story that led to today’s verse.
Selvin Chajon Rodriguez asked the mother of his young children to marry him.
But if she said no, the couple and their son and daughter would “all be laid to rest.”
The alleged threats, detailed in court papers filed last week in Riverside County Superior Court, were enough for Laura Reveriano to request a restraining against her ex-boyfriend.
“Selvin called and told me he would follow me to the end of the earth and he would kill the kids if they are not with him and there would be nowhere I could hide,” Reveriano wrote in the request for a domestic violence restraining order filed Aug. 27.
But the temporary restraining order she was granted the next day did little good.
Early Thursday, Reveriano, 25, and her children, Selvin Chajon, 4, and Emily Chajon, 1, were found stabbed to death in her home on a quiet cul-de-sac in west Riverside.
I’m crying right now as I type this. Read the rest of the story.
And then… the comments. (click to embiggen, natch)
Cos you know… it’s her fault. The dead woman, who said no, who went so far as to apply for a restraining order, clearly she is partly to blame.
Might as fucking well have stabbed herself to death, dontcha think?
“All she had to do was say, ‘No.’” Ok, she did. And told the cops. And told the courts. And took out a restraining order.
She’s dead. She did everything, and she’s dead. And so are her kids.
As Hamlet said, Ay, there’s the rub.
If you do everything right, you can’t end up dead, so she must have done something wrong. If you do what I would do, you can’t end up dead, so she must have done something wrong. If you do everything right and can still end up dead, then I could end up dead. No matter what I do.
That’s not just frightening, that’s unacceptable.
She must have done something wrong.
She must be to blame, somehow.
This couldn’t happen to me.