I am not a Facebook user though I do have an account. I just can’t be bothered to post updates of the mundane events in my life (or whatever the hell it is that people do with Facebook) nor am I that interested in such events in the lives of others. So I am clueless about what people find attractive about using it.
But it seems that I am being coerced into using it. For example, our street has started having monthly pot-luck get togethers for the residents, a nice community-building exercise. For the first one, they put flyers in the mailboxes and I went. For the next I got an email invitation and I again went. I then did not hear of any more events and assumed that it was on hiatus for some reason. But then one of the organizers met my wife and asked why I had not come for the third one and my wife replied that I had been unaware of it. It turns out that the third invitation had been posted on Facebook, which was why I had missed it.
Are we now all expected to regularly use Facebook if we are to communicate with one another? If so, I am going to be even more out of circulation than I was before.
But what really got me was this article about Facebook etiquette. Apparently, if you are invited to an event via Facebook, you should always accept even if you have no intention of going. You should send a text message to the host stating your true intentions. This is because saying you will attend boosts the event’s prominence in the algorithms, while declining will lower it.
Since I am someone who replies promptly to RSVP’s because it helps the host in planning, I find repulsive the thought of saying I will attend something when I will not, even if it is nullified by a later text.
This new Facebook etiquette that makes us all search algorithm manipulators is just one more reason to hate it.