A site called “Biblical Gender Roles” contains a terrible list of 8 steps to confront your wife’s sexual refusal. There are so many assumptions packed into that site, there doesn’t seem to be much point to arguing over the details — first thing to fix would be this Biblical attitude that women are chattel who must be subservient to their husband’s commands. The author is very concerned about this little problem:
How should you as a husband handle it when your wife directly refuses to have sex without a valid reason? Is there anything a Christian husband can do about this?
I wish he’d explained what a “valid reason” would be. I think “I don’t want to” is a valid reason, so maybe all of this Christian writer’s steps are irrelevant. But here’s all of his advice to control an uppity wife.
Step 1 – Rebuke her privately
She must learn that she is not an autonomous human being, so you must rebuke her when she her desires do not align with yours.
Step 2 – Rebuke her before witnesses
What? She still resists? Tell everyone she’s been bad. Take her to a marriage counselor, but not one of those counselors who might take her side — be sure it’s a Christian marriage counselor.
Step 3 – Bring her before the Church
Tattle to your pastor! I like how this guy assumes that if she’s not submitting to him, she must have become an atheist.
If your wife has not repented and changed her ways after these three steps, you are sure to have a very angry and defiant wife. The little bit of sex there was in your marriage is most likely completely gone. At this point your wife will have either completely rejected her faith, or she will have at least completely rejected your church and their views of sexual denial in marriage.
So that’s why all the recent polls show an increase in the number of women in atheism.
Step 4 – Stop taking her on dates or trips
Because the only way a Christian wife gets out of the house is if her husband takes her.
Step 5 – No unnecessary household upgrades
Because only a woman would care to maintain a home. Christian guys are content to live in a cave somewhere.
Step 6 – Stop doing the little extra things
For a Christian husband to cook or vacuum is an “extra” — just go full time loafin’.
Step 7 – Remove her funding
All the money in your relationship is YOURS — the Christian wife has nothing, owns nothing, does everything. She can be controlled like a slave.
Unfortunately, he stops there. He doesn’t realize what every woman knows, which completely negates all of his rebuking and controlling: semen causes cancer, so the poor Christian woman faces a terrible dilemma: allow the evil man-beast to inject her with foul toxins, or he’ll stop vacuuming once a week.
I think I learned that on Zardoz.