You are an atheist but you name your children after gods or prophets or heroes and heroines of the religious scriptures. Why don’t you stop doing it?
Why is it necessary to have a family name ?
Having a first name related to religion and a surname related to father or husband’s surname proves that you are a victim of the misogynistic patriarchal religious system and you do not denounce the system rather you try to keep the system intact.
I have no family name. Nasreen is not derived from my father or my grandfather or my husband nor is it derived from my mother or my grandmother. Nasreen is a Persian word which means a wild rose. I feel good for not having a patriarchal family name. I feel good for not having a given name that comes from the Koran or the Hadith. I am grateful to my parents for not having named me after Prophet Muhammad’s mother or daughter or wives.
We can live our lives happily without having a family name, but many people think that the things will be totally messed up without it. Iceland is not a messed up country. Icelandic names differ from Western family name systems. For example, a man named Gunnar Svensson has a son named Eric and a daughter named Björk. Eric’s last name will not be Svensson like his father’s; it will become Gunnarsson, literally indicating that Eric is the son of Gunnar (Gunnars + son). Björk also would not have the last name Svensson; she would have the name Gunnarsdóttir. Again, the name says that Björk is “Gunnar’s daughter” (Gunnars + dóttir). Not everybody’s surname carries father’s name, many choose to have matronymic names, instead of father’s name they pick mother’s name. For example, Eric and Björk’s mother’s name is Anika Stefánsdóttir. If parents decide or Eric and Björk want to pick their mother’s name for their last names, Eric’s last name will be Anikasson, and Björk’s last name will be Anikasdóttir. Iceland is not alone, some other countries also have a different family name system or no family name system. Who doesn’t want to be a separate human being!
I love names that come from nature. Let me translate some common names of Bengali people: Rose, Jasmine, Sky, Moon, Sun, Earth, River, Sea, Forest, Love, Wind, Soil, Flower, Peace, Beauty, Happy, Orange, Apple, Bird, Music, Poem, Strength, Rain, Smile etc. I call them true secular names.
Let’s be 100% secular.