I’m really tired this afternoon, and need a nap. Maybe a lullaby will help.
(If you don’t already know this song, AAAAAH! Trigger Warning!)
Jul 25 2012
Jul 25 2012
I’m really tired this afternoon, and need a nap. Maybe a lullaby will help.
(If you don’t already know this song, AAAAAH! Trigger Warning!)
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Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 12:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Chimpie, I dunno. No links either.
Rev. BigDumbChimp
25 July 2012 at 12:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
This is what happens when you start a wild fermented sourdough starter in my kitchen. This is after 1 day.
I’m guessing the wild yeast population is something special in my house.
Rev. BigDumbChimp
25 July 2012 at 12:55 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
That’s strange Josh
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 12:56 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
From the last thread:
QFT. Your body’s gonna do what it’s gonna do. No sense in adding extra stress and pressure by expecting a particular quirk to take place on cue.
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 12:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Rev, I’m jealous! My sourdough never gets that active. I assume it’s a matter of the temperature not being quite right, because I’ve adjusted the feeding every which way I can. It’ll rise and make bread just fine, but it’s slow.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 12:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Sorry to do this, but I can only think to test a few words to see what’s trigger the spam-hammer:
‘splainin’
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Chick
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Nope, not that either.
faggots
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 1:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
As a teen, I had a friend whose older brother would spend hundreds of dollars on CDs, and we’d spend hours making mixed tapes. Since I’m, well, me, my favourite mixed CD was 80 minutes of The Cure on one side, and Depeche Mode (shut up, Chas) on the other. I shared a car with my mother, and I’d play the tape over and over again whenever I drove, continuously, for at least five years.
Sometimes I wish I could go back to that time, just driving, late at night, in the summer air, singing my lungs out.
Twenty years later, I can still remember the song that came right after “Lullaby”: “2 Late”.
Tempolash!
cicely
25 July 2012 at 1:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Attack of the Portcullis!
Re-try:
I’ve been examining my *stomach lurch* reflex, up-Thread a bit. Worrying that it might seem as if I was ignoring the horror of the assault itself, focusing inappropriately on something so much less…and I think I’ve worked out the process behind it.
I can comprehend someone walking into such a situation, freezing in astonished horror, fleeing in a panic, castigating themselves later that they didn’t stop it. I’d like to think that I would intervene; or at the very least (and it is a very least indeed), having fled (in shame at not having intervened immediately), called the police, the local Scouting authorities, someone.
I cannot understand someone walking into it, apologizing (“Oops! So sorry to embarrass you in mid-rape, old man! Carry on!”), laughing (laughing!!! There’s humor in this, somewhere????), and then left to do nothing…at…all.
*lurch*
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Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
And seriously–straight dudes (see note below) Shut your mouths about tactics queers use to get by, survive, fight and reform. Shut. Your. Pie. Holes.
You get to opine on this stuff once you’ve put in the work of
befriending and listening to queers, women (or take-your-pick)instead of ‘splainin’ to them. Which is always, really, just an example of you vocalizing your discomfort and externalizing it into an Uncontroversial Fact of Objective and Rational Strategy.
Basically if you’re not PZ, Brownian, Tis, Louis, Ogvorbis, Chimpie, MrFire(sorry if I forgot anyone), then you infest Enterprise and Vee-Ger does not want you to disclose the information. Sit in the corner quietly with the other ugly-bags-of-mostly-water.
(Note)-Notice I don’t include women here. If they’re problematic, they usually reserve their douche-ness for Chill Girl antics leaving us faggots relatively safe from Chill Chick-Splainin’.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:07 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
And seriously–straight dudes (see note below) Shut your mouths about tactics queers use to get by, survive, fight and reform. Shut. Your. Pie. Holes.
You get to opine on this stuff once you’ve put in the work of
befriending and listening to queers, women (or take-your-pick)instead of ‘splainin’ to them. Which is always, really, just an example of you vocalizing your discomfort and externalizing it into an Uncontroversial Fact of Objective and Rational Strategy.
Basically if you’re not PZ, Brownian, Tis, Louis, Ogvorbis, Chimpie, MrFire(sorry if I forgot anyone), then you infest Enterprise and Vee-Ger does not want you to disclose the information. Sit in the corner quietly with the other ugly-bags-of-mostly-water.
(Note)-Notice I don’t include women here. If they’re problematic, they usually reserve their douche-ness for chill girl antics leaving us faggots relatively safe from chill girl chick ‘splainin.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:08 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I am utterly baffled. Nothing that I change in my comment can make it past the spam filter. There are no links. There are no mentions of anyone who’s been banned. The only string of ‘nyms I use is PZ, Brownian, Tis, Louis, Ogvorbis, Chimpie, MrFire.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:09 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
One part at a time, then, to isolate:
I. And seriously–straight dudes (see note below) Shut your mouths about tactics queers use to get by, survive, fight and reform. Shut. Your. Pie. Holes.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
II.You get to opine on this stuff once you’ve put in the work of
befriending and listening to queers, women (or take-your-pick)instead of ‘splainin’ to them. Which is always, really, just an example of you vocalizing your discomfort and externalizing it into an Uncontroversial Fact of Objective and Rational Strategy.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
III.Basically if you’re not PZ, Brownian, Tis, Louis, Ogvorbis, Chimpie, MrFire(sorry if I forgot anyone), then you infest Enterprise and Vee-Ger does not want you to disclose the information. Sit in the corner quietly with the other ugly-bags-of-mostly-water.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
IV. (Note)-Notice I don’t include women here. If they’re problematic, they usually reserve their douche-ness for chill girl antics leaving us faggots relatively safe from chill girl chick ‘splainin.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
IV.(Note)-Notice I don’t include women here. If they’re problematic, they usually reserve their doosh-ness for chill girl antics leaving us faggots relatively safe from chill girl chick ‘splainin.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Wait. The word douche is what set the filter off?
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:12 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Or was it douche-itude?
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:14 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oh crap. I made a right mess. Most humble apologies, PZ. I figured you never had time to go through the moderation queue so I tried to help myself. I didn’t mean to make up extra work for you.
David Marjanović
25 July 2012 at 1:14 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
…As far as I can see, he only thinks these are both problems, and they’re unrelated to each other, and one is not an excuse for the other, and are as bad as harrassment:
Still doesn’t explain how he tells “poaching” women from actual geeks who happen to be female and hot (he says explicitly that such strange beasts exist, some are even his friends and probably allowed to use his bathroom).
However, it’s clear that he feels they’re bullying him.
Rev. BigDumbChimp
25 July 2012 at 1:16 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
yeah I’ve now moved it to a larger wider container so that I can leave my house without fear of coming home to the sourdough starter that ate Charleston.
Plus my dog would just try to eat it.
Going to keep feeding this bad boy for a few weeks so it gets really sour before I bake with it.
Rev. BigDumbChimp
25 July 2012 at 1:17 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Was that everything before Josh?
maybe it didn’t like the Numbered formatting?
Beatrice
25 July 2012 at 1:18 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
cicely,
Yeah, that part struck me hard too. I kept rereading it in hope that I had misunderstood and that those hikers didn’t actually witness child rape and ignore it (laughing and apologizing for the interruption?!).
Ugh.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:19 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Wait, what? Who is speaking this line, and where did it come from?
I’m confused.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
25 July 2012 at 1:24 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Good evening
Perfect moment today
Sitting in the shade of a big tree, listening to Lana del Rey “Video Games”, watching the kids run in the soft evening sun over green lawns.
#1 really looked like a bad stereotype out of a high-gloss magazine: the hair tied loosely in a bun, wearing a long ruffled dress (actually too long, Idress, I bought it cheap last fall when they cleared the summer stuff and it’s still 2 sizes too big), white with a vintage rose print. Too pretty.
I think the problem is twofold:
1) pregnancy and childbirth are inherently dangerous. It’s only because of those evil gynaecologists that we were allowed to forget about it.
2)People don’t understand risk and probability.
The overall risk of neonatal death and intrapartum stillbirth are very, very low in Europe and Northern America (6-8/1000 for neonatal death, 3-4/1000 for intrapartum stillbirth)
Which means that an increased risk of 100% means you’re still at an overall low risk.
The problem is that it doesn’t help you if you’re one of those whose baby died during or shortly after birth and who wouldn’t have died in a hospital.
The big British “birthplace study” which compared the outcome depending on where a woman intended to give birth came to the conclusion that the risk was only almost comparable in women who had an uncomplicated low risk pregnancy AND had already given birth without any complications. Which is a fucking small amount of women.
Amy Tuteur’s personality has zilch to do with the facts and data which just doesn’t support the homebirth movement. To claim that it’s “safe” just isn’t true, telling that to women is to lie.
So, she picked her fight there to claim that she doesn’t care because she doesn’t do something different is just dishonest.
re: birth rape
That’s a fucking disgusting term.
Yes, birth can be a traumatic experience. Because it can turn fucking bad fucking quickly. Then to accuse the people who just tried their best to make sure that woman and child survived of having maliciously and for selfish reasons commited a horrible crime is disgusting.
That doesn’t mean that there aren’t assholes out there, and that we don’t still have a long way to go, but that’s way over the line.
Rev. BigDumbChimp
25 July 2012 at 1:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
wtf
That was something I typed out then though better because of the seriousness of your message. But I didn’t post it?
wtf
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 1:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh, Mr. Fire is bi.
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
25 July 2012 at 1:28 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Giliell, my hospital birth gave me PTSD. I don’t describe it as birth rape but I wish people would not be dismissive of the term. Birth is an intimate experience for many people, not least because it involves our genitals, and YES some of the violating and abusive experiences women have gone through can absolutely be comparable to rape. It is not about, as someone else also trivialized it, not having our permission verbally asked every time someone touches our hoohas. It’s about being deliberately, cruelly and institutionally victimized in ways some women process as sexual.
Rev. BigDumbChimp
25 July 2012 at 1:33 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
#28 was in response to #26 if that wasn’t clear
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:36 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Chimpie:
Both our fingers are full of fail. And don’t worry—I always mix the serious and the silly (note the Star Trek references).
Caine:
I’m so stoop-id. Of course he is. And I would have got away with him too if it hadn’t been for that meddling Mrs. Fire.
Louis
25 July 2012 at 1:39 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caine,
All the best people are. It’s a superpower.
I AM NOT IN ANYWAY BIASED!!!!!!!!!
;-)
Louis
P.S. Also people called “Louis” are a) better than everyone and b) remarkably good in bed. Just, you know, sayin’.
P.P.S. And always right about everything.
Rev. BigDumbChimp
25 July 2012 at 1:43 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ahhhh
Took me a minute, i didn’t even see where I posted it. Now I see it in those block quotes up there.
I was REALLY confused there for a second.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 1:47 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Go to Skepchick NOW and read something that will make you feel so much better (really). Male leaders speaking out against misogyny and calling for anonymous haters to be outed:
http://skepchick.org/2012/07/speaking-out-against-hate-directed-at-women-dale-mcgowan/
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
25 July 2012 at 1:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Gah!
Hate those days when the weather and my mood sync up. There’s no reason for me to feel hummed and yet I do. Stoopid brain.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 1:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Instead of a lullaby, hows about another cover of Sweet Dreams (Are Made of This)?
cicely
25 July 2012 at 1:52 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Anybody else having trouble following Josh’s link?
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 1:55 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
David:
It’s spread out a bit, but he does draw a connection. I’ll cut out a bit of the extraneous material to show where I got my impression:
To my eyes, that seems to be saying that women he has decided are not geeks are responsible for anger towards women in geeky spaces. If it was more along the lines of the objectification of “booth babes” creating a culture where objectification of all women is acceptable, I’d agree with him on at least that aspect, but his emphasis is on the women themselves, by labeling them as “poachers.”
tyrannical
25 July 2012 at 2:00 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oh,a just for fun post.
Excellent song by a very underrated band. Not a fan of the makeup, but I suppose that is artistic license.
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
25 July 2012 at 2:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Part of my ceiling fell in.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 2:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I am loving the Bane Capital twitter feed.
Especially this.
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 2:07 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Crap, Cipher!
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 2:09 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
tyrannical:
No, this is TET (The Endless Thread), our lounge. Open thread.
cicely
25 July 2012 at 2:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
O.O
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Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 2:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cipher:
Oh noes!
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 2:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cipher:
Oh crap. We had that happen last winter. Not fun.
Ogvorbis
25 July 2012 at 2:14 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I don’t understand it either. But it is one of those clear as a bell memories that I’ll never get rid of. It was mom, dad (well, I presume mom and dad) and two girls aged about 10 and 12. Mom apologized. The girls and dad laughed. It was off the scale on the weird-shit-o-meter.
Beatrice:
Again, no idea the how or why.
Weed Monkey
25 July 2012 at 2:15 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley, wow! That Eurythmics cover is awesome. And the video too.
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 2:16 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
And your trolling won’t be tolerated here. You won’t be tolerated here.
You are welcome in the TZT threads. You are not welcome here.
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 2:18 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
How Beautiful You Are
Meathook
Push
Jumping Someone Else’s Train
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 2:20 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Brownian:
The nym isn’t familiar to me. What am I missing?
Louis
25 July 2012 at 2:21 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cipher,
BUMMER! I’d send USB beer, but would USB plaster and Polyfiller be better?
HEADS UP THOSE WHO HAVEN’T NOTICED ALREADY:
Tyrannical is a really obvious troll. It’s repeating pointless tripe about evolutionary biology meaning Teh Ghey&trae; is An Disease and how men throwing themselves in front of women (a la Aurora shooting) is misogynistic.
Approach with comedy and/or derision as appropriate. This is a Band G troll, pointless with a side order of mild odiousness.
Louis
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 2:22 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I am having a fucking awesome day.
Got a call from the doc. The test results.
It is official. Five years cancer-free.
(Well, four years, 10 months. But that’s a rounding error).
!!!!!
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 2:23 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Not much. (Trigger warning for homophobia and stupidity. Also, tyrannical needs to read a book on evolution.)
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 2:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Nevermind, I just saw one of its “contributions” to a thread. Ugh.
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 2:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Awesome, Esteleth! Cheers to continuing to kick cancer’s ass!
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 2:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I have linked to this a couple of times before but, damn, this is one of the funniest covers ever!
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 2:26 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Congrats, Esteleth! That’s outstanding! I’m'a go get drunk on your behalf.
[Leaves.]
.
.
.
.
.
[Returns, out of breath.]
Oh, fuck, I’m still at work!
Still, congrats!
Ogvorbis
25 July 2012 at 2:27 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Esteleth:
Fandamntastic!
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 2:27 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Yeah, okay…bleargh, feeling like a shower would be a good idea right about now.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 2:28 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
E,
*CONFETTI! AND ICE CREAM!*
Beatrice
25 July 2012 at 2:29 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ogvorbis,
Well, I sort of a little bit wish those people got lost in the woods and eaten by a bear. In fact, that is just about the only excuse I would consider valid for not calling the police the moment they had a chance.
My family always did their best to teach me not the interfere. No matter what I hear or see, it’s none of my business and it’s not my problem. (yeah, nice lessons) And I fear a lot of people have the same policy, but I would hope… I would hope those were just words, but if they ever actually were in a position to help, that they would.
*misanthropy rising*
Sorry, I’m dragging this further than necessary. I’ll stop now.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 2:29 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Weed Monkey:
I love well done covers of pop songs, especially when they cross genres. :)
mythbri
25 July 2012 at 2:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
@Esteleth
Congratulations!
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 2:32 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Brownian, that reminds me of when Laura Schlessinger got her TV show back in 2000. One group I was with latched on to one of her statements, that homosexuals are a biological mistake and made a shirt that we wore at a protest at CBS 2′s studio in Chicago.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
25 July 2012 at 2:34 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
kristinc
I believe you.
I never doubted that birth can give women PTSD. I know a few really bad stories, and I was very fortunate in my pregnacies that everything went well and the only assholes I encountered were really not responsible people during my births.
But I think that a distinction must be made and that not every traumatic birth experience is because some evil OB/gyn victimized a woman.
And I think that a great many women actually ruin their births themselves by buying into the naturallistic fallacy and and believing that their birth experience has to be XY and Z.
I think we both know that births can’t be planned unless you plan a c-section anyway.
Oh, I had planned. I had planned well. With music and stuff! I so much wanted to give birth standing up! You know, do the real womanly woman thing, like our great-great-grandmothers who gave birth in the field, hey, they did it (hmmm, no music there…). And the milk would flow like god himself fed his people in the dessert.
Fortunately, although I was stupid enough to buy into that shit, I was clever enough not to let it get me at least for the birth. What it did to me for the breastfeeding is a different story.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 2:34 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Congrats, Esteleth. ♥
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 2:35 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
She’s such an idiot.
It’s this kind of bullshit that flies in the face of whatsizname, the fellow who was saying that he could talk for days and never have evolution come up. PZ wrote about him.
Ogvorbis
25 July 2012 at 2:38 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
No bear on the south rim of the Grand Canyon. There were mountain lions, though. Good kitty.
No, no. Don’t apologize (where have I read that before?). I remember the incident clear as a bell. I even remember what they were wearing. But it never, until you and cicely took note of it, I had not realize how utterly unreal that was. If I walked into a campsite in a National Forest (well, anywhere!) and saw a middle aged man recieving oral sex from a ten year old in a scout uniform (well, the clothes wouldn’t matter, but this is what they saw) there would have been serious intervention.
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 2:40 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
On more serious topics, tyrannical has shown themselves to be a sever idiot. Hardly surprising that tyrannical would think that The Cure, one of the most popular acts of the eighties and nineties, is under appreciated.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 2:43 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ogvorbis:
It’s a reason none of us can ever stop educating. Ever. Your story reminds me of the cops who bought the ‘domestic argument’ story from Dahmer when his 14 year old victim escaped, crying and naked, onto to the street. They handed the kid back to Dahmer.
People just don’t stop to fucking think most of the time and that’s why they need the crap educated out of them, so that they will think and will do what’s right.
Louis
25 July 2012 at 2:44 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Esteleth,
WOOT!
BEER! (I seem to be saying that a lot today for various reasons.)
Louis
cicely
25 July 2012 at 2:45 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Huzzah! *confetti&champagne*
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tyrannical
25 July 2012 at 2:46 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Louis
I’ve no need to troll. I just have to state what I honestly believe is to be true, or at least worth considering to be true.
Beatrice
25 July 2012 at 2:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Just once more, I’m so sorry you had to go through all that.
And what Caine said.
And I’m also cheering for any mountain lion that might have decided to snack on any of that family. Good kitty.
Ogvorbis
25 July 2012 at 2:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
tyrannical:
Get out of this thread. Seriously. You are not welcome here.
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 2:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
It is so fucking kind of you, tyrannical, to inform me that I really should not live, that I am some mistake.
Just telling you what I think is the truth.
Ogvorbis
25 July 2012 at 2:51 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’d've cheered more if the mountain lion had eaten the scout leader. The family that happened on it were bystanders. I have seen enough shit go down to understand the extreme reluctance for a bystander to step in and become involved. So part of me understands. Part of me is confused. Part of me is angry.
dianne
25 July 2012 at 2:52 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
But I think that a distinction must be made and that not every traumatic birth experience is because some evil OB/gyn victimized a woman.
Yep. Birth is or at least can be nasty, even if everyone does everything right. I have no criticism of the hospital I gave birth in or the personnel there. But labor frigging hurt! If you’ve ever had a cramp in your muscle after running too fast, it felt a bit like that…only all over my back and abdomen, for several hours on end. And accompanied by nausea and vomiting, diarrhea, and high fevers (though really the high fever only came towards the end…I didn’t go over 103 until about the time they were prepping me for c-section.) Everyone reacted appropriately, was very sympathetic, and offered appropriate pain relief and good advice on how to proceed as events turned bad. I got out with a healthy baby and a well behaved scar.
Five years later I considered working at this same hospital. I was able to go into the hospital without problems, talk to the relevant person, and find that I wasn’t what they wanted and they weren’t what I wanted. It wasn’t until I left that I realized that I was shaking with relief that I’d never have to go back in there again.
Being in an uncontrollable, painful situation is traumatic, no matter what. People being assholes or worse to you makes everything worse, but to some extent there’s just no way to make some births non-traumatic.
Doug Hudson
25 July 2012 at 2:53 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’m so adverse to confrontation, that I honestly don’t know what I’d do if I saw child abuse. I would call the police, certainly, but would I intervene directly? I don’t know. I’d like to think so…assuming that direct intervention didn’t expose the child to greater harm…
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
25 July 2012 at 2:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cipher, you OK?
Esteleth: Congratulations. :)
Caine:
It wasn’t just that he was 14 years old, either. He was Vietnamese and poor. Dahmer was white and middle class.
Tyrannical:
And Flat Earthers believe you can sail over the edge of the world. Back up your citations with something you didn’t pull out of your ass or fuck off. Actually, fuck off anyway, this is our lounge and you’re pissing in the beer pitcher.
tyrannical
25 July 2012 at 2:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ogvorbis
This thread? But I liked the song, or was this just some type of poe thread. I’m new here, so cut me a little slack just because we disagree.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 2:56 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Horde, please help. Please express yourselves at Mano Singham’s. I literally cannot believe what I’m reading:
Mano:
Me:
How many more clueless fucking bastard straight doods wanna out themselves around here? Bring it.
Louis
25 July 2012 at 2:56 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Sure, Tyrannical, whatever you say. Go here, you are stinking up our lounge and are clearly not wanted. Did your mother not teach you sufficient manners to not go where you aren’t wanted?
Louis
Doug Hudson
25 July 2012 at 2:56 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Just out of curiosity, why would someone use the nick “tyrannical”? I mean, that’s not generally an admired trait. In fact, it sounds like some kind of Sith Lord. Oh wait, it was a Sith Lord, wasn’t it? Darth Tyrannus?
We got a Sith Lord here, folks!
Beatrice
25 July 2012 at 2:57 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Of course.
(sorry)
It’s a weird “who should be eaten by a
bearmountain lion” tangent I’ve gone on anyway.Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 2:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
The worst response I’ve seen thrown at women who complain about abusive OBs is, “You survived, right? Your baby is alive? Then SHUT UP.”
Because the point is waaaaaay over there.
I read an article examining the fact that more women are being diagnosed with birth-related PTSD than ever before. Author concluded:
1) Until recently a woman presenting symptoms of PTSD would not have been diagnosed, especially if her birth experience was held to be the cause.
2) Women are surviving birth experiences that would killed them even ten years ago.
That latter point was cited as the biggie. Near-death experiences (not the “seeing the light” woo, the experience of almost dying and then living with the knowledge of how close you got) are inherently traumatic.
___
Thanks for the congrats everyone!
As I said, this is 4 years 10 months.
Which means: September 22. Party. My place.
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 2:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
You are new here so I will let you know this, tyrannical. There are a lot of gay men, lesbians, bisexual and trangendered people here. None of them will take kindly to you informing us that we are mistakes and will not be around once some “tidying up” occures. And want to know something else, a lot of the straight people will not be kind to you either.
I will not fucking cut you any slack, assclam.
Ogvorbis
25 July 2012 at 2:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
You show up spewing homophobic propaganda and you want me to cut you slack? Fuck off and leave this thread.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 2:59 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I realize this is presumptuous, but if you can do battle with only one piece of homophobia at a time, please consider my #84. I’m much more upset that an FtB blogger is compared a gay kiss-in to Fred Phelps than I am about that idiot Tyrannical.
Sorry. Very worked up.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 3:00 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
You will not be trolling your shit in this thread. Get the fuck out, you slimed out enema bag.
PZ, please quarantine this “tyrannical” pos. Thank you.
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 3:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
tyrannical, we are cutting you some slack, by telling you which threads you arent welcome on. This one is a lounge. We try our best not to argue here (since I’m a terrible person who thrives on rage and malevolence, I limit my time here.)
You’ve been asked to leave this thread multiple times now. Are you new to English?
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 3:02 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh, there are a lot of people here. Different people can do different tasks.
cicely
25 July 2012 at 3:02 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Still more introspection: in the abovementioned situation, I also immediately flash to how it would be for the victim of the abuse…seeing possible help right there, only to have it cruelly taken away, leaving no hope for relief.
*lurch*
Glurg.
Okay, I think I’m gonna take my brain off the hook for a bit.
-
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
25 July 2012 at 3:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh – I simply quoted the phrase about the WBC back at Mano and added “ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME.”
If other people want to argue the point with him, they can, but I consider that comparison so offensively stupid as to deserve nothing but straight-up mockery.
Ogvorbis
25 July 2012 at 3:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I think that by that point I had decided that this was my fault, so the idea of help was outside my box.
Doug Hudson
25 July 2012 at 3:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
That Mano Singham post is truly, ridiculously offensive.
My post there is awaiting moderation, so just in case it disappears into the ether:
Comparing anyone to the Westboro douchebags is offensive.
Comparing gays to the Westboro Baptists? You are aware that the Westboro Baptists advocate killing all gays, right? That they want to see every single gay person dead and burning in hell for all eternity?
THAT is the flipside of a gay kiss-in?
Might want to rethink that one.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 3:07 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Thanks Daisy.
He clearly has no fucking idea (or empathy) how stupid that is or he wouldn’t have said it. I despair to see educated, supposedly liberal people who are such blatant supporters of the status quo. There’s no getting away from it. Everywhere I turn some fucking dood who I think is an ally actually fucking helps keep me and queers down.
I can’t stand it.
Doug Hudson
25 July 2012 at 3:08 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
On a related note, though, my distaste for Chick-fil-a’s policies wars against my addiction to their Polynesian sauce and their breakfast mini-sandwiches.
Oh, why does evil need to be so tasty?
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 3:09 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Jebus, Oggie.
I’m so sorry. For everything. Including the fact I only just now read your posts. :( :( :(
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
25 July 2012 at 3:13 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
No thanks are necessary. I consider it a “basic human decency” thing.
You bolded the wrong word.
They are liberals. As in “Love Me, I’m A.” Versus progressives. They’re cool with you having your rights, so long as you’re not uncouth and tacky about pursuing them. You need to act like a
upper-middle-class white suburbanrespectable member of society. Go put on a Dolce e Gabbana suit and ask the hets nicely for your rights, like Joe Salomonese.Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
25 July 2012 at 3:13 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
…And I didn’t even bold the right word.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 3:14 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Well it’s a good goddamn thing I became a Suburban White Lady Homeowner in the past two years, Daisy. Oh, wait-it didn’t help.
Beatrice
25 July 2012 at 3:17 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Esteleth,
Congrats of showing that cancer who’s the boss.
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
25 July 2012 at 3:18 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Yeah, but you still smoke (sort of), you don’t speak in the soporific tones of an NPR announcer, and you’re needlessly confrontational in a way that upsets nice Unitarian types making six figures a year.
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
25 July 2012 at 3:21 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cipher:
Ouch.
Josh: Yes, I don’t really follow most of the rest of FTB now. Mano’s doing WTF.
mouthyb
25 July 2012 at 3:22 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Thank you, Pterryx and David and anyone I might have forgotten to mention. I try not to break down often, but the social media and the victim being reprimanded for trying to talk about the experience really got to me, especially the trolls who were talking about how ‘immature’ it was for the victim to talk about her abusers. I’ve been through several nasty moments, most of which were followed by admonitions and/or threats about talking about it afterward, sometimes from people completely unrelated to the problem, who thought it was a confession of weakness/unfitness/slutty evil that I tried to say something had happened.
Pterryx: The reference library and time to tinker on computers/do research/produce papers instead of working two or three jobs would be peachy. The assumption of competence, instead of the same tired assumptions about who does my homework or writes my papers, etc, is the best part of that. (And yes, at 34, I’m STILL being asked who does my homework on occasion.)
Sili
25 July 2012 at 3:23 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I hope I never have to find out.
Sadly, I say that more for my own sake, because I’m afraid of the answer, than for the sake of the victim (i.e. I hope there are not enough children being abused that I’ll ever run into one).
That said, I should learn the signs of abuse, even if I find it in flagrante, since I’m now working with kids for a living.
Doug Hudson
25 July 2012 at 3:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Sili, 109:
EXACTLY! I almost wrote that I hope I never have to find out, but I wasn’t sure how to explain what I meant.
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
25 July 2012 at 3:26 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Awesome, left0ver1under thinks they’re helping by spewing fat hatred, then calling Josh for objecting. Fuckwit. And not for the first time, either.
mouthyb
25 July 2012 at 3:27 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh: I have no idea why a kiss-in would be anything like the Phelps. That makes no fucking sense.
The Laughing Coyote (Canis Sativa)
25 July 2012 at 3:30 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
mouthyb: I guess seeing icky gay kissing is just as distressing and traumatic as having the funeral of a loved one interrupted by a bunch of sign-waving fundamentalist bigots?
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 3:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Minor quibble: No, I don’t. I vape. Why do I care? Because there’s an effort culturally to equate the two and pretend the health damage is the same, and if I were stronger I’d quit nicotine altogether. . .blah blah. Not a big deal. Just sayin’:)
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
25 July 2012 at 3:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Esteleth
Oh, I absolutely second that.
It’s the idiotic assumption that our psyche is worthless, I mean, who cares about us as people when we function as bodies?
Congratulations again. My MIL will have the 5 years up next summer. Yay!
Josh
Will be right over there
Nerd of Redhead, Dances OM Trolls
25 July 2012 at 3:32 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Which is bullshit, utter and total bullshit, without scientific evidence to back up your inane and fuckwitted blather. So, you admit you are a liar and bullshitter, that is a troll, since you can’t/won’t back up your claims with evidence. And you OPINION is not evidence, nor will it ever be so here.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 3:37 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Here’s the email I’m going to send off to my asshole sister:
Taking bets on asshole sister’s reaction! She’s either going to: realize that her criticisms are pretty much worthless (best outcome) or completely ignore the email (good outcome) or she’ll get all whiney that I don’t appreciate her “help” and I become the bad guy yet again (bad outcome).
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
25 July 2012 at 3:38 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Argh, argh, argh, I greedily devoured quarter of a watermelon out of the fridge and now my teeth hurt from the cold.
feralboy12
25 July 2012 at 3:41 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Congrats, Esteleth.
I had the experience a couple of years ago of having a doctor tell me I didn’t have cancer. I had this big ugly lump on my nose that required a biopsy. Not only was it not malignant, taking the chunk out for the biopsy stopped it from growing and started it going away entirely.
Well, except I now have another little scar on my nose to go with the one I got in 1982 when I broke it. Oh, and the scar on my knee from the bicycle crash I had on the way to the biopsy. But hey, if you’re going to crash your bike and rip a chunk of flesh out of your knee, you can do worse than to have that crash on the way to the dermatologist. They debrided it for free.
The downside was that the doctor had to spell out D-E-B-R-I-D-E to her assistant, and I spent the rest of the day dealing with a mutant Tammy Wynette earworm.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 3:42 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
A needlessly provocative act of tooth-on-fruit terrorism!
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 3:42 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley: whiney.
Sili
25 July 2012 at 3:43 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Arrrgh!!
Bad Memebase! Whom”s don’t work that way.
And you obviously are too stupid to spend even 5 seconds on Google to find out what a plumpudding is.
Razzle-frazzle!
(And I can’t get comments to load, so I can flaunt my superior α-geekdom.)
Sili
25 July 2012 at 3:46 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 3:46 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ooo, Audley, you evil genius. Pinning it on “whoever is feeding [her] that information” gives her the perfect face-saving out, because you’re assuming she’s not the idiot, but someone else is.
Oggie, I don’t know what to say. I’m so glad that you feel better knowing everything that happened. No idea about that family, unless somehow from their vantage point they didn’t understand what was going on, or you looked much older from the glimpse they got of you, or what the hell.
Cipher, augh!
Yay Esteleth!
Hugs to everyone else who may need them. I’m trying to keep up and missing things, I know.
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 3:46 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Fuck, I feel funny. Josh, Brownian, Miss Daisy Cutter, Beatrice and others were pointing out just how wrong Mano is. But it was my one statement there that got him to rethink how wrong it is to compare a LGBT kiss in to the fucking Phelps Klan? What is wrong here?
Plus, yet an other fine example of humanity felt the need to point out how hysterical and bullying FTB is.
*spits venom*
Beatrice
25 July 2012 at 3:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’ve been gorging myself with ice cold watermelon since last week (not every day, but nearly).
My teeth ached too.
It was so worth it.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 3:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh:
That’s were my money is, too. I’ll get the whiney response with a healthy dose of thrown in for good measure.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 3:49 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Also, emergency comfort eating: choco-hoto-pots. I have made them and they are good. You can substitute regular sugar or powdered sugar for the superfine and it’s ok. Also I have cooked it in the microwave but I forget how long it took. What’s nice is since it’s semisweet chocolate, you can substitute a chocolate bar and it still works.
Sili
25 July 2012 at 3:49 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Huh. How did that happen? (On the other hand, that’s probably the most representative post I’ve ever made.)
–o–
I still feel bad for caring more about myself, and it’s friggin’ insensitive of my to make this all about me.
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
25 July 2012 at 3:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Giliell, I respect you and I think you’re a good person, which is why I’m telling you that this is hurtful, victim-blaming bullshit. Women who report birthrape-type experiences aren’t whining because their Yanni CD skipped any more than women reporting sexual assault are whining because their rapist didn’t know how to find the clitoris. Without exception the stories I have heard and read of birthrape were assaults being done on these women by people in a position of power over them during their labor. Not something that just, whoops, happened. Assaults. Abusive treatment. And abuse victims DO NOT bring abuse on themselves by planning to have an experience free of abuse!
Dianne:
See above. Painful situations can be traumatic but so can being caught in an earthquake. And being caught in an earthquake is not abuse. Women reporting birthrape have had their humanity and their agency violated at the hands of other people, not the impersonal natural force of chidbirth.
This is why I hate people saying that “the main goal of childbirth is to have a healthy baby” or similar. It feeds right into the hands of those who suggest we are cans to be opened to decant the *real* people involved.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 3:51 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
carlie:
:D :D :D
Thanks! I’ll send it a little later this evening– I want to make sure she’s home from work, so if she does get all snitty, at least she’ll be home.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 3:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley, given the excellent base you set in the email, if she gets whiny you can go right back at her with “That person is wrong, and they’re causing both you and me stress, and we both KNOW that stress is bad for pregnancies. Neither of us has the time to chase down every wacky theory about pregnancy out there, and it would stress us out the point of possibly harming the babies, so let’s each stick with what our own doctors tell us, ok?”
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 3:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Another one bites the dust. Mano Singham must be taking lessons from Paula Kirby. Interesting, also, that he will not respond to me, only to other commenters:
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 3:55 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Carlie,
Love it. Will do!
Ogvorbis
25 July 2012 at 3:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
No one knows how they will react and fear of one’s own reaction is normal. I teach CPR/AED/First Aid and the single biggest obstacle to moving someone from ‘byastander’ to ‘caregiver’ is fear. This is about all of us.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 3:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Also, can I mention how much I love proving her wrong with SCIENCE!? (It may be petty, but whatevah.)
(Thanks again for the info, Matt!)
mouthyb
25 July 2012 at 3:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
TLC: Only if the person in question has been living in a bubble.
Crossposted from that thread on Mano’s blog:
I think this is appropriate here: http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/americanexperience/features/timeline/stonewall/
It’s a timeline of some of the major events in LGBT rights. Most of those events involved protests, riots and police action of some kind. PBS is considerably lighter in their descriptions of violence than they could be, especially considering the casual violence and corrective rape which sometimes occurred after LGBT persons were arrested, especially if they were deemed gender deviants.
The Civil Rights movement in the US is equally full of protests, violence and homicide. I teach that in my youth and society course.
While it might seem the ‘correct’ thing to do, if one believes the correct way is the way of least confrontation, to compare what the Phelps do to a protest as incredibly mild as a kiss-in, that position is in ignorance of history.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 3:59 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Funny-this dumbass homophobe I blocked on Twitter (really, really vile–talked about faggots and trannies with their sicknesses and how they will all die horrible deaths) was so fucking stupid he thought my avatar was a picture of me. Which prompted him to ask what “kind of thing” I was. I almost wanted to ring Faye Dunaway.
He then aksed if I was a man who fucked men, a man who fucked boys, a boy who. . .you get the picture. So I asked him if he was a man who fucked goats, a goat who fucked lambs, or a lamb who ate kebabs.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 4:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
New Rubin’s Ratlets pics up: http://needleprovocateur.wordpress.com/
Their eyes are open. :D
Sili
25 July 2012 at 4:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Once more, with feeling: “Whom”s don’t work that way!
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 4:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh, I think that person will only fuck what he thinks Ronald Reagan believes he should fuck.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 4:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caine, that was a needle-lessly provocative post.
OMG, the cute is unbearable. It’s impossible to explain, but I just want to pick up that pile of ratlets and stuff them in my mouth. No, I don’t want to eat them. . .I just want to nom them. Know what I mean?
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 4:08 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
And thank you Horde, for having my back
side.tee-hee-hee.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 4:08 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh:
Hey, everyone else is being all provocative…
Yes, I know what you mean! So tiny, and *so* active. They are seriously motorvatin’ around. It won’t be long before they hit popcorn stage. Yikes. Rubin is bent that I put a fresh box in, just when she had the other one all nice and chewed up just so.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 4:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
ARGH NO NOW MY MOUTH FEELS SO WEIRD
dianne
25 July 2012 at 4:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
kristinic: I apologize for not acknowledging the risk of abuse.
I know that reporting an assault is extremely difficult for a number of reasons, but if you’ve been assaulted by an OB, please at least consider reporting them to the hospital. There’s a much lower level of proof required to get a hospital interested in someone than for getting the police interested and it might end up being of some use. (If this is just too hard to do for any reason, flush the above advice.)
Ing: Praise The Lord And Pass the Ammunition
25 July 2012 at 4:14 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Got official job offer. Starts on monday. Need to brush up on my culture techniques by then ^-^.
It’s an upgrade in pay too yay!
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 4:15 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I do. Like what I do with my cat’s ears.
David Marjanović
25 July 2012 at 4:16 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Review submitted, after I started today’s part of working on it waaaaay too late. Should have gone home long ago.
Instead, I’ll catch up!
o_O WTF. What are the building codes like in LA?
♥
“By the way, have you people noticed that Mitt is white?”
“Nick Koan @nkoan
@BaneCapital I thought he was Mexican?”
*Jadehawk’s® Totally Biodegradable Confetti®*
QFT.
So? Why do you believe it to be true? Did you even know that hetero- and bisexuality have been found in all vertebrate species that have been observed for long enough, which is now hundreds of them? Did you know that male homosexuality in humans runs in the same families as above-average female fertility? And so on…
dianne
25 July 2012 at 4:16 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Well, now I had to go and look up frequency of sexual abuse by ob/gyns. Found an article that’s rather old but, not pretty. I sincerely hope things have improved since then, but seriously worried that they haven’t. Maybe it’s time to go for all chaperone all the time interactions.
Janine: Fucking Dyke Of Rage Mountain
25 July 2012 at 4:17 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Just doing my part of being part of the Hivemind, Echo Chamber or what ever the fuck we are supposed to be.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 4:17 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oh, for Tony on Shakesville – I know I’m in the minority here, but I do really like that site. The commenting is very tightly regulated; where here things that are wrong get batted about until they fall to shreds, there those things just get banned and/or deleted. The purpose of the commenting isn’t so much to hone arguments or discuss variants in opinion so much as to build community around shared values. There have been a few big missteps in the past; I was on the edges of understanding what those were about (at the time they happened) and they didn’t have as much of an impact on me as they have on other people, so I understand that other people have good reasons to not be happy with it. But I get a lot out of the way Liss does analysis of issues and I don’t comment there much. Just saying YMMV.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 4:18 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ing—congrats! Boy, did you deserve some good news.
Brownian—I do the same thing with my cat’s ears! They’re just so warm and soft and nommable.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 4:19 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Congratulations, Ing!!
MY MOUTH STILL FEELS FULL OF RATS. I need a baby’s feet to nom on or something to get that image out of my head. ;)
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 4:20 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Carlie,
Just lie back and think of ratlets.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 4:21 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
OH GREAT NOW THE PHANTOM RATS ARE ON OTHER PARTS TOO.
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 4:22 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’m packing up the girlfriend and the cat, and we’re coming over.
David Marjanović
25 July 2012 at 4:28 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
All seconded.
Giliell wasn’t talking about birth rape. She was talking about the fact that “not every traumatic birth experience is because some evil OB/gyn victimized a woman” (comment 67), where “every” really means “every”.
birgerjohansson
25 July 2012 at 4:29 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Article, “The Dark Side Of The Obama White House”
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/25/obama-national-security_n_1701888.html?utm_hp_ref=politics
Two new books reveal unpleasant aspects of Obama’s security policies.
David E. Sanger: “Confront and Conceal. Obama’s Secret Wars and Surprising Use of American Power” http://www.randomhouse.com/book/202541/confront-and-conceal-by-david-e-sanger
Daniel Klaidman: “Kill or Capture: The War on Terror and the Soul of the Obama Presidency”: http://www.houghtonmifflinbooks.com/hmh/site/hmhbooks/bookdetails?isbn=9780547547893
— — — — — — — —
Yes, I know Mittens will be even worse. :-(
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 4:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Today in “stop the world, i want to get off”:
company advertises waxing special for girls 15 and under
David Marjanović
25 July 2012 at 4:33 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
My comment on Singham’s blog is through. It’s number 9.
It has not been answered, and neither have the others that ask about what’s provocative about kissing in public.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
25 July 2012 at 4:37 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
kristinc
I’m sorry I hurt you.
I fucked up because I didn’t make clear that I was talking about different things:
A) Abusive bastards exist who exercise power over women when they are very vulnerable
B) Horrible traumatic births happen with no blame involved
C) Some women do buy into shit and have unrealistic expectations about their childbirth which makes them feel victimized and hurts them.
I was talking about group C, not A. Again, I’m not talking about the victims of assault and abuse. And I have seen that term flung around lightly. I’ve read the birth stories of “The Feminist Breeder”, an irresponsible woman who recommends washing your vagina with soap against Strep B, breech home deliveries and chiropractors for babies.
Even if I take everything that she writes for granted (I believe that the doctor’s story would be different), there were some mistakes made with he C-section, like not talking with her about pitocin and just, more or less giving it to her and not giving her an epidural as soon as she asked for it. But then she loses it and believes that it was the Pitocin that ruined everything and things like that.
I’m sometimes wondering what doctors (who also have to protect themselves and their livelyhoods) are supposed to do. What are they supposed to do when things go bad quickly, when they know that if they don’t get the baby OUT NOW within 5 minutes it will die and the woman is screaming and crying and freaking out, trying to pull the needles out of her arms?
What decision are they supposed to make? Wait until she calms down and then get her consent to remove the stillborn baby?
What we need to acknowledge is that those things happen and that they hurt and traumatize, and not deny that and tell women to STFU you’re both alive.
I think actually educating women about what can happen and what doctors will have to do in such situations might prevent a lot of harm, but that won’t happen if women are taught about a “wonderful natural process”
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
25 July 2012 at 4:38 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
“not every traumatic birth experience is because some evil OB/gyn victimized a woman” is dismissive of birthrape-type experiences. Skeptifem didn’t bring up traumatic birth experiences in general, she brought up birthrape.
Think about it this way: what if Skeptifem had been talking about garden-variety sexual assault trauma and someone had answered “well not every traumatic experience is because some evil man victimized a woman”? The Horde would have come down on them like a load of bricks, that’s what.
Dianne, acknowledged and thank you. Considering the level of vulnerability a laboring woman often has to her attendants, it is mindboggling to me that people would fail to consider how women just might make birth choices based on their feeling of safety from abuse.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 4:40 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Brownian and Josh:
Mr Darkheart does the same thing!
And now my two big cats (Harley and Maggie) are both eating out of Pickles’ bowl.
Poor Pickles.
Richard Austin
25 July 2012 at 4:40 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ing:
\o/
Doug Hudson
25 July 2012 at 4:41 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ogvorbis @135, Thanks, that is comforting.
Re: Shakesville, Shakesville is a great place if you are looking for safe space. Sometimes the moderation seems over the top, but that is the price they are willing to pay to provide a safe space to as many people as possible.
Its not a great place for thrashing it out with trolls or mocking the religious–that’s what Pharyngula is for! Different sites with different purposes.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 4:44 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Also:
Caine:
EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
*faints from cute overload!*
Ing:
Have some scrumptious birthday cake ice cream to celebrate!
*jams into USB port!*
It might be a little melty when it gets through to your end. D:
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 4:45 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Holy shit! Toni Basil’s 1983 hit “Mickey” is a cover?
WHAT ELSE HAVE YOU BEEN KEEPING FROM ME?!
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
25 July 2012 at 4:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Gilell, we crossposted, and I appreciate that you’re willing to walk back and clarify. I do think, though, that conflating general traumatic-because-it’s-painful-and-exhausting births with traumatic-because-of-unneccessary-dehumanizing-treatment births helps to perpetuate the second kind of trauma.
I don’t know much about birth in Germany except IIRC that practices are slighly more liberal there (if only because no one need ever worry about the financial side of childbirth!), but I have a hard time wrapping my mind around blaming American natural birth advocates (the birthing women themselves, not business owners or professionals) for the state of the natural birth movement because those women are responding to a definite and real set of problems with hospital birth in the US. It always feels a bit like blaming the problems with TAM on the terrible women who speak out about problems with TAM.
birgerjohansson
25 July 2012 at 4:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
dianne:
“Anyone else feel like we ought to move Audley to the Pharyngula island for the duration of her pregnancy so she can be separated from Horrorsister and her unpleasant job?”
Since summer weather has finally arrived to Sweden I recommend the “Österlen” region not far from Malmö.
They even have a megalith structure just 100 miles away, and some nice medieval cathedrals plus a castle.
— — — — —
I know Wales is originally “Cymryn” but what is the original name of Scotland? “Land” is clearly germanic, not celtic.
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
25 July 2012 at 4:51 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh:
Duly noted.
Thus far, I’m just reading the posts on Feminism 101. I haven’t made it up to any present day material. Nor am I reading any of the comments.
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Cipher:
I hope you’re able to get that ceiling fixed asap (for the least amount of money possible).
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Brownian:
I’m already bummed out for some unknown reason.
A song that triggers memories of M came on at the gym, causing me to miss him incredibly and resulting in me cutting my workout short b/c I couldn’t get it out of my mind.
Now this homophobic sack of shit comes into TET?
I really shouldn’t have clicked on the link you provided Brownian. I’m not in the mood to be told that I’m some fucked up mistake.
I’m sure as hell not in the mood for anyone to say that my best friend was a fucked up mistake.
TYRANNICAL: you are a piece of work. I hope you followed everyone’s advice and got the hell out of here. This gay man doesn’t have the slightest bit of patience today to deal with people like you.
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
25 July 2012 at 4:53 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
And are not trans, sounds like. (I’ve heard of other privilege type problems there too, but that’s just one I read about recently.)
(Note: The person referred to as xpanasonicyouthx in that article appears to be none other than Mark of MarkDoesStuff fame. :D)
Matt Penfold
25 July 2012 at 4:53 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cymru actually. The Scots Gaelic for Scotland is Alba.
Paul
25 July 2012 at 4:55 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Just want to make sure people see this, from Greta’s blog:
Since commenters here tend to have an inclination towards intersectionality, and have made similar lists before regarding feminist issues.
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
25 July 2012 at 5:00 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’m going to stop discussing birth because I don’t want to be upset or stressed or frustrated today. Not a flounce though, just notice that I’m not ignoring or angry.
Matt Penfold
25 July 2012 at 5:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Although strictly speaking, Alba does not cover all of what is now Scotland, and does include the Isle of Man. However, it is the word used in modern Scots Gaelic to refer to Scotland.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 5:02 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ing, Congratulations!
David Marjanović
25 July 2012 at 5:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Doesn’t that just mean Great Britain (the entire island)?
Anyway… “original”… Gaelic arrived in western Scotland around the same time as Old English arrived in southern Scotland.
David Marjanović
25 July 2012 at 5:07 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oops, cross-posted.
Anyway, it’s still not clear what “Pictish” was: a language related to Welsh, a non-Indo-European language, or both ( = two or more languages in total). It’s practically unattested. :-(
Rev. BigDumbChimp
25 July 2012 at 5:08 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
A woodchuck can chuck 2 cords of wood and rosebud was a sled
Matt Penfold
25 July 2012 at 5:09 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Not in Scots Gaelic, although it might well do in other languages.
Matt Penfold
25 July 2012 at 5:13 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
In Welsh, Scotland is Alban, in Manx, Nalibin, and in Irish Gaelic, it also Alba. I have no idea what Scotland was called in Cornish or Breton I’m afraid. Old English seems to have either used Alba or Caledonia.
Matt Penfold
25 July 2012 at 5:15 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Although the word Albion does refer to the whole of Britain.
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
25 July 2012 at 5:19 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Holy crap this is so cool have you seen it where you equals all of you every single one because it is that cool?
http://www.zefrank.com/scribbler/scribblertoo/
I made this http://www.flickr.com/photos/28465371@N04/7646473056/in/photostream/lightbox/
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
25 July 2012 at 5:20 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Esteleth:
:::Doing the happy dance for Esteleth:::
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Tyrannical:
How about you go educate yourself asshat.
You honestly believe there’s something wrong with gay people? Based on what? Your experiences in life? Your precious holy book?
Huh?
By Odin, I need to puke. Thank you so much you putrid pus sack.
DISAGREE??
You little fuckwad, this isn’t a disagreement. You’re telling a bunch of people here that they’re biological mistakes. Where the hell is your biology degree?
How would you feel if someone said you’re a mistake because of your sick views? You don’t have any goddamned proof that homosexuality is a biological mistake. Do you realize you’re talking about human beings here? Do you care?
What am I saying…of course you don’t care.
Go back to the Phelps clan where you belong.
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Josh:
I’m sorry, but I can’t do that right now. I’m in a horrible mood and that’s likely to just make it worse. Perhaps when I get off work tonight, or tomorrow.
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Audley:
I’m going with this one, sadly.
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Caine:
I was about to ask someone for some pics of ratlets, kittens, puppies or piglets to brighten my day and you came along with this.
I know it wasn’t for my benefit, but it helped. Thank you.
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Ing:
Woo Hoo! Congrats!
Now it’s party time.
Party at Pensacola Beach!
****
Josh:
For the longest time, I didn’t quite get where ‘Nom, Nom’ came from (I understood what it meant). A few days ago, I was at TARGET looking through tee shirts and came across a Pac-Man shirt which had NOM NOM NOM on it (didn’t buy it though; I had to buy the Avengers Tee Shirt with the big ‘A’ on it).
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Audley:
I do too.
At least to Kayta. Cassie doesn’t care for it and her claws are sharp.
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Doug and everyone:
Thanks for the advice re: Shakesville.
I came across it through one of the links on the Pharyngula Wiki and liked a lot of what I’ve saw about feminism. I didn’t plan on reading any of the comments prior to hearing the advice given here, and I certainly plan on staying away from them now.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
25 July 2012 at 5:23 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
You know, the thing is that I’m not sure it’s true. Not that there aren’t definite problems with hospital birth in the USA and elsewhere (in Germany it mostly seems to depend on which hospital/Ob/gyn/midwife you choose), but that this is what actually fuels the natural childbirth movement. Because they seem to be not women who had traumatic experiences and histories of abuse, but women who buy into the naturalistic fallacy and shun the very idea of modern medicine and deny the very fact that childbirth is fucking dangerous. Some of the stories I’ve read, stories that use the term “birth rape” are stories of traumatic births, with lots of shit happening quickly, people shouting, pushing, holding, doing, but that fall under what I called “category B”. And retrospectively the women blame it on the people involved because they just can’t believe that their birth went horribly wrong. Because it can’t be the fault of nature, so it has to be the fault of the doctor. Had xie only left her for another hour, had xie not given her Picotin.
The whole mindset of the natural birth movement is fallacious.
I consider most women who do it to be victims of fraudsters. Because those who propagate the lies just know that the data doesn’t support them the way Ken Ham knows it.
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 5:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
[Writing] “…and rosebud was a sled.” Got it.
So that’s it then? I’m all up to date?
If I learn something new after this I’ll be damn pissed, Rev.
BB’s fond of stretching out his little arms and laying one paw on an arm, hand, or face. More than once he’s tried this while lying close to my or the GF™’s head and ended up punching us in the eye.
He’s so loving. And clumsy. That’s why I like to come at him from the side with my NOMing.
dianne
25 July 2012 at 5:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Well this is such a fucking surprise. Expanded Medicaid=lower mortality. Such a shock!
birgerjohansson
25 July 2012 at 5:29 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cat’s entertainment: The Dark Knight Rises. A feline perspective on the latest Batman film http://www.thedailymash.co.uk/opinion/columnists/cats-entertainment-the-dark-knight-rises-2012071334323
— — — — — — —
Video. Ah yes, the good old days when you could actualy see music videos on MTV.
My favourite (in MTV Europe) was the program “Alternative Nation”.
.
So we have a Tea Party orchestra collaborating with a giant man-eating spider? Obviously an allegorical prophesy of things to come 20 years from then. Those Cure guys must have amazing powers.
— — —
Fans of Terry Pratchett and Douglas Adams might like Jasper Fforde. Every year, his Brit fans have something called the Fforde Ffiesta. Or Fforde Ffair? (too late at night to recall)
dianne
25 July 2012 at 5:29 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Considering the level of vulnerability a laboring woman often has to her attendants, it is mindboggling to me that people would fail to consider how women just might make birth choices based on their feeling of safety from abuse.
But will they get that from the NCB movement? I don’t have statistics, but I’ve heard stories of midwives leaving women alone during labor, refusing to take them to the hospital or even allow them to call the hospital themselves, and performing painful procedures without consent or even explanation. And you’re alone with them at a homebirth. Not a good solution, IMHO, much as I agree that there’s a problem.
dianne
25 July 2012 at 5:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oops. Just read kristinc’s later comment about not wanting to discuss this further for now. Sorry. I’ll shut up now.
Matt Penfold
25 July 2012 at 5:34 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Here in the UK the trend is towards midwife led units, based in hospitals, so that in the majority of cases where nothing goes wrong there is no “over medicalisation”, but in cases where intervention is needed, the people and equipment are on hand.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 5:34 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Tony:
The red one?
I was wearing that shirt yesterday! How cool is that?
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
25 July 2012 at 5:37 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Sorry, kristinc
Didn’t read that before posting. And my bed is calling loudly anyway.
birgerjohansson
25 July 2012 at 5:41 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Addendum to 189:
“The Fforde Ffiesta.
The annual gathering for those who like to embrace absurdity” http://www.ffordeffiesta.co.uk/
portia
25 July 2012 at 5:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
A few days ago my cousin recommended homeopathy to me…I asked her to explain to me how homeopathy works and at one point she actually said “And there’s so little of the bad stuff in the water that it doesn’t affect you…er I mean it doesn’t harm you…” Eventually she just yelled at me that I just like to debate therefore she wasn’t talking about it anymore…do you all have people like this is your life? How do you deal with it…I’m losing what little patience I ever had. At what point do you give up on the world and leave it to wallow in its ignorance?
portia
25 July 2012 at 5:49 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Congrats Ing and Esteleth :D
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
25 July 2012 at 5:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley:
I bought the red one.
Also have the navy blue one.
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Pet Peeve:
I hate how so many graphic shirts have logos or designs plastered all over them. I don’t mind images covering the whole front (or front and back) *sometimes*, but I see them all too often. Sometimes I want something understated. You know, a cool design in the upper corner of the shirt or along the side (I also wish so many companies didn’t feel the need to center their design on the chest. Why can’t a picture or phrase be near the waist for instance?). I wish the Avengers shirt had the ‘A’ a bit smaller too.
Matt Penfold
25 July 2012 at 5:55 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Matt Penfold
25 July 2012 at 5:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
The issue I have is when it is a corporate logo splashed across the front the t-shirt (Nike, Addidas etc) and they want me the pay £30 to buy it.
Sorry, if you want to walk around advertising your company on my chest, we should be discussing how much you are going to pay me for doing so!
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
25 July 2012 at 5:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Matt:
You hit submit too soon, huh?
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 5:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
potato + tailpipe
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
25 July 2012 at 6:03 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Matt:
I can definitely understand that.
Sometimes I don’t mind it (usually it’s b/c the shirt is a cool design), but I often don’t buy products (shirts or otherwise) that prominently display the corporate logo. I like how POLO shirts have the little design off center towards the shoulder. It’s there, but not so in your face.
portia
25 July 2012 at 6:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Brownian:
Guffaw. Thanks for that one.
Weed Monkey
25 July 2012 at 6:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’m assuming this has nothing to do with motor vehicles.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 6:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Portia:
Oh my gawd, you have no freaking idea. Just last night, one of my sisters put up a facebook post about the of the electro-magnetic field from compact florescent light bulbs.
*headdesk**headdesk**headdesk!*
Most of my family buys into the alt-med crap– although as far as I know, none of them have tried homeopathy, they seem to prefer herbal cures and being and crap like that.
Facebook flame wars, mostly. But, yeah, getting through to my family (who are not dumb people) is a losing battle I feel.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 6:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
WUT? How did I not know that? “Mickey” was my first pop 45 rpm. I begged it off Jennifer, who lived upstairs with her mom Kathy. Kathy vacuumed every day at 6 in the morning, then did calisthenics. Which provoked my mother (this behavior should sound familiar) to get up, light her first cigarette, then whack on the ceiling with a broom while yelling “Jesus fuckin’ Christ lady! Can’t you keep your fat ass in bed until a reasonable hour? Jesus!”
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
25 July 2012 at 6:30 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Augh…
Still can’t get myself to write quizbowl. *headdesk*.
I’m too lazy to do anything this week.
jimnorman
25 July 2012 at 6:36 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
A friend, who reports she is on some sort of spiritual exploration, wants to know how a fundamentalist can reconcile a young earth with the paleo diet. I’ve already registered my two cents about the pathetic YEC perspective. I am now thinking that pitting the paleo diet against it is doubly silly. Is the paleo diet not patently ridiculous? What says Pharyngula?
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
25 July 2012 at 6:46 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
http://xkcd.com/966/
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 6:47 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Vanity Warning—Lousy Canuck made my Total Eclipse of the Doodz parody song a top-level post. Since it got buried in TET you all need to go over their and read and leave comments about how bloody much I rock and how you want to have my babies.
http://freethoughtblogs.com/lousycanuck/2012/07/25/a-song-by-josh-about-the-skeptical-sexism-wars/
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 6:52 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
It’s “there.”
I blame this guy Paul commenting on some other thread.
Nutmeg
25 July 2012 at 6:57 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caine:
Eeeee! Squinty little sleepy-looking ratties! So cute!
When my dog looks like that, we call her “smushy face”. It’s a particularly nom-able look.
**
Congrats to Ing and Esteleth!
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 7:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
HOLY CRAP YOU BLOW MY MIND.
Even moreso because I just introduced my child to “Hey Ricky” the other day (somehow he had missed it, although he’s a huge Weird Al fan) so it’s been in heavy listening rotation lately.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 7:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Hey Ricky
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 7:30 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caine, Rubin’s ratlets are some fine looking little rodents! Such gorgeous colors on those coats, too. I love me some colorful ratties.
I just got back from seeing my eldest nephew, who is now on lithium. It was surreal. For so long now he’s been incapable of holding a conversation, thinking ahead, or showing the slightest degree of empathy. It was like seeing someone finally wake up from a long sleep. He was able to have a normal conversation and talk about reasonable plans for the future. He talked about turning down drugs a co-worker offered him. He apologized to my sister for all the things he did to her (theft, threats, and getting himself sent to in jail) and made her sob. I’m not sure I’ve ever heard him actually apologize before in a sincere manner.
I really worry about him getting off his meds. As destructive as he’s been to the family, I desperately want him to be healthy and happy.
ChasCPeterson
25 July 2012 at 7:33 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
He-Man Slime Pit!
“Evil Pit of the Gruesome Ooze”
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 7:34 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Hey look, here’s a news story combining my two favorite things! New Jersey and Virgin Mary sightings.
Wait, did I say “favorite”? I meant the opposite of that.
ChasCPeterson
25 July 2012 at 7:35 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
hee! Here‘s the mini-comic!
(I think the 2-headed dude is Welch.)
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
25 July 2012 at 7:41 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh:
Noted. But we’re still talking classism here.
Audley:
Column B.
Also, that Virgin Mary tree…. has nobody in the crowd ever seen a suggestive knothole before?
Janine, re Mano: maybe it was just a cumulative effect? I don’t know.
Ing, congratulations.
Brownian
25 July 2012 at 7:41 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
My nephew had that toy (and a pretty hefty collection of He-Man toys, given his mom’s relatively low income at the time).
It was fun.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 7:42 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh, you know I love you, but want your baby? No. ;)
Nutmeg & Caerie, thanks on the ratlets. I think they are going to be *stunning*. Not a hoodie in the lot, either. I think one of the uber pale ones is going to have ruby eyes, like Rubin.
Caerie, I hope things work out for your nephew. Sounds like a huge change.
PZ Myers
25 July 2012 at 7:46 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
#217: My kids had one of those things. It was disgusting.
They loved it.
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 7:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Thanks, it has been. All the rehab in the world wasn’t going to do a damn bit of good when he kept seeking things out to try to self-medicate. If he can have a little peace, maybe he can finally work on everything else.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 8:03 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Tonight Ima make fried green tomatoes (from my own garden) and tilapia.
Doug Hudson
25 July 2012 at 8:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Re: Shakesville and Trans*, yeah there were some unpleasant incidents, now that I think about it. Personally I think they’ve tried to address that, but then, I’m not Trans*, so my opinion doesn’t really matter.
I guess I’m just a Shakesville cultist. Hopefully that doesn’t preclude being a fan of Pharyngula as well.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 8:18 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Fuck, my tomato plants have just now set flowers, and they’re looking none too good. :(
Doug – I use a different nym at Shakesville, but I’ve been a regular there for years and years. (hence the different nyms – when I first started on blogs I had a different nym for each blog, and then kind of had to stick with them even when there was some overlap because of the history buildup) I think it’s possible to be both.
Pteryxx
25 July 2012 at 8:19 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
hey, did y’all see this? Eagle Scouts are returning their medals to repudiate the Boy Scouts of America’s stance excluding gay participants.
http://boingboing.net/2012/07/23/eagle-scouts-stand-up-to-the-b.html
Follow-up with more letters joining the protest here:
http://boingboing.net/2012/07/25/more-men-join-the-ranks-of-for.html
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 8:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Thank you, Pterryx. And shame on any Scouts (who can) who don’t follow suit.
I can’t adequately express how thrilling it is to finally be among the group of people exerting social pressure for a morally just cause and seeing it work It’s been a goddamn long time coming.
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 8:26 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Today is another fucking time course experiment.
24, 18, 12, 9, 6, 3, and 1 hour time points.
I am not going to sleep tonight. Or tomorrow, for that matter.
Side rant: I tried to download Mountain Lion. Fucking App Store freezes at the payment confirmation page. WTF?
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
25 July 2012 at 8:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Since I’ve been looking at ridiculous Twitter feeds all day, if you’re not into Bane Capital, how about Kim Kierkegaardashian?
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 8:32 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
This just keeps choking me up every time I look at it. There are good people in this world, who’ll stand up for what’s right. It’s good to be reminded of that.
Crip Dyke, MQ, Right Reverend Feminist FuckToy of Death & Her Handmaiden
25 July 2012 at 8:33 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
still threadrupt, still busy, but when i was reading some Pharyngula 2 nights ago that I had downloaded to read while off-line (which I was for nearly 3 days – horrors!!!), one of the littles (the 4 year old) noticed and took a dramatic liking to the crockoduck in the banner.
Does anyone know if there’s any possibility of creating such a stuffy? She doesn’t have much imagination in naming her stuffies (stuffed cat = kitty, stuffed horse = horsey, stuffed white, snub-nosed whale = belugie, etc. …with the one exception that white dog with a bit of black = Spot)
but this is a kid with great imagination in her play. She’s also a keen observer. I told her that birds are dinosaurs, then, when we saw a giant chicken-sculpture yesterday & I said that at that scale you could really see how closely related birds are to dinosaurs, she put in,
“No. Birds ***are*** dinosaurs.”
I stand chastised. But the point is, she’s eating this new knowledge up and her love for the crockoduc (crocoduck? sp help plz?) corresponds delightfully with my desire to introduce her to fabulously interesting concepts. Not least the concept that people can be idiots and therefore critical thinking, QED.
So – With all the stuffies in the toy-store-record, how come I never see a crockoduck? And how can we change that?
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 8:39 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I need to write a BrdU incorporation song.
♬ BrdU, fading, fading, as the cells divide…
♪ BrdU, tracing the clonal lineages…
♫ BrdU, glowing bright! ♩
Crip Dyke, MQ, Right Reverend Feminist FuckToy of Death & Her Handmaiden
25 July 2012 at 8:39 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Esteleth –
Congarats, that’s truly awesome. And, like Greta said about her knee, quite a testament to exactly the values of this blog.
Good for you, good for science, good for evidence based medicine. Libations all around. Mine is a fruit smoothy (there are reasons why I didn’t drink these things for years – I was afraid I would like them too much and spend all my money on them. Yeah, I was right about that one. Throw bananas, ice, some non-dairy milk in the bottom 1/2 of a blender & fill the rest with almost any berry you can name and I can’t get enough. Ms. Crip Dyke has introduced me to my crack.)
chigau (自分のサンドイッチを作ろう！)
25 July 2012 at 8:52 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caught up!
Congratulations for jobs and logs and others.
Big hugs for those in need and smaller hugs for by-standers.
Who has the grog?
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 8:53 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
*gives chigau a tankard of BrdU-laced grog*
Nerd of Redhead, Dances OM Trolls
25 July 2012 at 8:55 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
SciAm blogger’s opinion on the “paleo diet”
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 8:56 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Hey, it’s my first random twitter fight! I sent a tweet to the Chicago alderman who blocked a Chick-fil-a franchise from opening in his district thanking him, and I got a tweet from some random guy saying that no, it’s blocking rights rather than protecting them.
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 9:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I just got Twitter spam from a Russian dating site.
Am confused.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 9:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Go, Eagle Scouts! That is beyond heartening to read. Thanks, Pteryxx.
Mister is an Eagle Scout, I’ll let him know about this, he’ll send that medal right back.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
25 July 2012 at 9:08 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Crip Dyke, the only way you’ll get a crocoduck plushie is to make one.
chigau (自分のサンドイッチを作ろう！)
25 July 2012 at 9:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Esteleth
mmm tangy!
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
25 July 2012 at 9:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Plushie crocodile, plushie duck, some scissors and thread…
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 9:14 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Okay, chigau, in a few hours I’ll sac you and section your intestine, okay?
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 9:14 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Glad you like, it chigau.
*evil laugh*
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
25 July 2012 at 9:16 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Bad Esteleth! Poor, poor chigau!
Alethea H. "Crocoduck" Dundee
25 July 2012 at 9:16 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Good morning, all.
Congratulations, Esteleth.
Thanks for the ehugs and kind words, Caine, Giliell, Beatrice, Audley, Dianne, Carlie, Louis, Pteryxx, Daisy, Nutmeg, Cicely. All you strangers who feel like friends.
Dianne, it’s OK. Fortunately we’re Australian, so C’s partner (& husband for one day) doesn’t have bankruptcy worries.
OgVorbis, big hugs. Your progress in memory, with logjam analogy, sounds very similar to my friend M, who has bad PTSD and started up the detailed memory return complete with vivid flashbacks when her abuser died and she went to the house again for the first time in decades. I hope it goes easy on you. Understanding does help you to ride it out, I gather.
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 9:16 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Sowwy.
*offers thunk grog*
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
25 July 2012 at 9:29 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
This Tornado Loves You, which I have been either listening to or singing all day today.
chigau (自分のサンドイッチを作ろう！)
25 July 2012 at 9:30 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
oi!
Am I going to turn into something …
uuurrk.
.
.
.
portia
25 July 2012 at 9:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley:
Oh jebus…that’s almost as bad as my dad who is constantly telling me about all the alien activity throughout history. And my sister believes she’s psychic but is decidedly not annoying about it…which is good I guess. My aunt is so alt-med she shouted in my face about bee pollen the other day. (“Well what are you going to trust, [Portia], the folk remedies or the scientific ones?!” “Uh, is that a serious question?”) Suffice to say, I feel your pain. Good thing TET is here to function as a support group, ha.
Lots of my family is into herbal cures as well. Raised by hippies and all that. My non-medically-educated self sees some merit to lots of them, but there’s obviously a limit. I was told “You can’t prove it doesn’t work!” the last time I asked “HOW does it work, though?”
I feel like I’m losing friends that way…I’ve started to pull back on the facebook debates just because the social consequences are wearing on me. But the ridiculous crap that comes up often just begs a response. And it is all the more frustrating when you know they have the capacity to understand reality, they just lack the will.
portia
25 July 2012 at 9:35 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Carlie:
Don’t tell him about Chicago not letting Walmart in without unions, they’ll freak out about the liberties! Oh wait…conservaturds would probably approve of restricting worker’s rights.
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 9:38 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Nah, you won’t turn into anything. You’ll still be all chigau-ish, just fluorescent.
chigau (自分のサンドイッチを作ろう！)
25 July 2012 at 9:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
fluorescent
Cool!
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
25 July 2012 at 9:57 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Okay. But most goverments claim I’m too young to drink. Does BrdU-enhanced grog produce higher Isp for the rocket engines?
ImaginesABeach
25 July 2012 at 9:59 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Crip Dyke -
there is a company called childsown.com that makes stuffed animals from a child’s drawing. I don’t know if they could make a crocoduck, but it might be worth a try.
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 9:59 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Well, BrdU not alcoholic. But it will turn all the tissue it interacts with fluorescent.
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
25 July 2012 at 10:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Well then. *imbibes*
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
25 July 2012 at 10:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
*gets the blacklight*
Caerie, Rage Flail
25 July 2012 at 10:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I have just been exposed to the most adorably stupid argument for theism on Facebook. Yes, it’s from an adult. Yes, it was serious:
Spud bless you.
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
25 July 2012 at 10:07 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
If reindeer don’t fly, how does Santa get around?
rorschach
25 July 2012 at 10:21 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
If there isn’t a Santa why are there presents?
If there isn’t a Joseph Smith why is there Utah?
And who’s Mano Singham?
oaksterdam
25 July 2012 at 10:21 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cipher, thanks for that. The Neko made me smile. this has been making me smile today. (takes about a minute for her to just sing the damn song already.)
also making me happy.
Biggest thing making my day: just knowing you people are here. Been lurking daily long enough to remember when Kenny showed up with the NDE!!11!eleventy!1!. Thanks to all y’all who spoke up during these last few threads – you know the ones – I don’t even have the words. Just know that some of us were following along amazed and in awe. Grog’s on me.
Caerie, rage flail (love the addition, I gotta get one of those), I spend every xmas with creationist RWers. I’ve seen this exact argument. Good luck with that.
Dalillama, Schmott Guy
25 July 2012 at 10:44 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Been off at work and otherwise busy, so in no particular order:
@ Crip Dyke #233
L can totally make a crocoduck stuffie for the little one, although we’ve had problems w/Customs delaying some of the things he’s sent to Canada. You’ve got my email, let me know if you’re interested.
@ogvorbis:
My jaw dropped at the sam part of your story as everyone else. My enitre sympathies, and *hugs* if appropriate
@ Alethea
*hugs* to you as well; my deepest condolences
@Ing
Congratulations. Yay for the new job.
@Caine
the ratlets remain adorable
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
25 July 2012 at 10:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
oaksterdam, your second link doesn’t click :( But I liked that first one!
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 10:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Christ, Rorschach. Read him and weep:
http://freethoughtblogs.com/singham/2012/07/25/the-chick-fil-a-controversy/
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
25 July 2012 at 10:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oh yeah! I didn’t tell everybody!
So, the ceiling was falling down because one of the toilets upstairs was pouring water all day.
My mom made it stop pouring water, but obviously we’re going to have to, you know, fix it somehow.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 10:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Cipher, is it your house or a landlord’s?
Pteryxx
25 July 2012 at 11:00 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
aw Josh, thanks for the compliments in that other thread. *blush*
Now you got me curious about your Surly-ramic. Is it okay to show photos?
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
25 July 2012 at 11:02 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
It’s our house – I’m back in ND now. I forgot to explain that part too.
oaksterdam
25 July 2012 at 11:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Whoops
Wowbagger, Deputy Vice-President (Silencing)
25 July 2012 at 11:22 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Gah, what is it about asshats who moan about people getting emotional in blog comments?
People have emotions. When you say something that angers or upsets them, they have the right to express that in whatever fucking language they choose to use; that’s how they let you know that it’s happened. Just because you can’t exercise enough empathy to grasp why someone else might get worked up, doesn’t mean you have the right to tell them they shouldn’t.
Fuck, but I’ve seen too much of this ignorant, privileged bullshit lately.
Jadehawk, mec fâché en jupe
25 July 2012 at 11:22 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
IIRC, one of the writers at NLQ said she was subjected to birthrape by her homebirthing midwife…
Hekuni Cat, MQG
25 July 2012 at 11:23 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caine, I just heard about Esme. I’m so sorry. Esme touched the lives of so many people she knew nothing about, but her admirers looked hopefully and gratefully for every word and picture you posted about her. She will be sorely missed.
I’m glad Esme’s children have you, Mister, and Havelock to look after them. The pictures of them escaping from the cage are breathtaking. I look forward to hearing all about their lives and adventures.
*hugs and much love*
Josh, Official SpokesGay
25 July 2012 at 11:29 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Pterryx-Lemme wait until I get the Surly Ramic, but then I promise I’ll post pics.
Hekuni Cat-I got your lovely card in the actual paper mail the other day and it was such a nice thing. . thank you! I’ll be responding shortly, pen pal:))
Hekuni Cat, MQG
25 July 2012 at 11:39 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh, you’re welcome and I’m looking forward to it!
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
26 July 2012 at 12:24 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Melting is proceeding over 97% of Greenland:
http://www.wunderground.com/blog/JeffMasters/comment.html?entrynum=2160
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:30 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Good news via AronRa!
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
26 July 2012 at 12:49 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Pteryxx:
*celebratory bell-ringing*
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:52 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Maybe a good use for all those creationist and science-denial textbooks would be to use their pages as protective insulation over Greenland. >_>
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
26 July 2012 at 1:09 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Pteryxx: Make sure to bleach them first; part of the problem is the lowering albedo of the ice.
Hekuni Cat, MQG
26 July 2012 at 1:10 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Mostly threadrupt, but:
Althea, I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. *hugs*
Obvorbis, *hugs*
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
26 July 2012 at 1:18 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Sexism in Space continued:
The TMA-11 re-entry a while back went roughly. From Wikipedia:
Note the same thing happened on TMA-10 with an all-male crew. Nobody was complaining then.
auntbenjy
26 July 2012 at 1:22 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
New Zealand gay marriage poll to crash here:
http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/politics/7354142/Parliament-to-vote-on-gay-marriage-bill
Sorry if someone has already posted this.
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
26 July 2012 at 1:35 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
My quirkiest cat is eating salmon. She really is not 100% convinced that salmon is actually food, though, so she spreads it out on the floor, hunts through it for the least suspicious bits (what her criteria for this is, I do not know) and eats those.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 2:00 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Good morning
Matt Penfold
Don’t confuse US homebirth midwives with nurse midwives or European standard midwives. Registration for the NBC darling midwives requires something like “having attended 30 births with another midwife”. Yep, that’s getting your driver’s license after having sat in the passenger’s seat for long enough. They also don’t carry malpractise insurance.
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Yes, and it’s hard. Because people get defensive and hurt and all upset just because you tell them that “Ehm, no, that’s actually not true”
Caerie
Wait, your nephew is my cousin?
I know what you’re going through and wish you and your family good luck.
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I remember He-man fondly. Never had any cause my mum thought them crap.
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Tenderly roasted and stuffed with garlic
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Crip Dyke
Never put that question before a crafter.
The easiest way would be to buy a crocodile plushie and a duck plushie and, well, mix ‘n’ match (plus, you can make it a duckodile mate!)
At the museum where David works they had this wonderful sculpture/toy where kids could remove the “outer layer” and put it on again like a jigsaw, only that one side was the “dinosaur” side, with scales and stuff and the other one the bird side with feathers and stuff. David immediately noticed that they missed an important muscle.
Strawvulcan combined with shutting down people
I remember that from my mum: You’re angry therefore you’re wrong
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 2:10 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
and the abusers corollaries: I hurt you therefore you’re wrong, and I don’t give a shit therefore you’re wrong. Currently on display in the Shame thread…
Lyn M: dropping the f-bomb since 1962 ... of death
26 July 2012 at 2:17 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
@Caerie #261
Wow, that just … I mean you … Wow.
If there isn’t a tooth fairy, why do we get new teeth?
Lyn M: dropping the f-bomb since 1962 ... of death
26 July 2012 at 2:24 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
@Pteryxx
Talk about channeling my dad. And if you have actual knowledge from some source I didn’t tell you about first, you’re wrong. And if you get emotional, then I know you are just whining for attention because nothing matters unless I say so, therefore you’re wrong AND annoying.
Ah, those days are gone. And about time.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 2:37 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
honestly, I was only *sexually* abused a little bit, that I can tell. The dismissal and gaslighting and invalidating going on in that thread’s far more triggering to me than the rape stories so many survivors came forward to share.
Now I’m starting to recall how I wasn’t allowed TO LEARN without permission. No wonder I lay out citations every chance I get. *headshake*
John Morales
26 July 2012 at 3:24 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Pteryxx, that’s where the knuckle-dragging beetle-browed troll-bashers like Nerd and I come in — we may not have much social science expertise or first-hand knowledge, but we know specimens when we see them.
(Not that any regular is less than expert at troll-bashing, of course, but grunts are always handy)
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 3:30 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Heck, I need y’all to counter my extreme good-faith-itis. Multiple tactics FTW. ~;>
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 3:37 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Maybe someone remembers when I was talking about that new government measure where employers take young people with no work experience to work for them for free, the workers only get a pittance from the government for it.
Well, to be able to apply for that, one has to be on the unemployed bureau.
Well, I’ve been kicked off the unemployed bureau (national employment service – I’m not sure of the correct translation).
I’ve worked on contract for three months. I earned little, but one of those three months that little was over the limit I am allowed to earn and stay at the bureau.
The catch : In order to apply for that measure above, one has to be unemployed (that is, on the employment service) for 90 days.
So, I can’t apply to the service until August 20. Only 90 days after that I will be allowed the privilege of working for free and a couple of peanuts from the government.
John Morales
26 July 2012 at 3:44 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Beatrice, this may be rude of me, but: are you sure about that?
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 3:45 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
The thing is, I started working in April. I was checking the limits of how much I can earn in late March before signing the contract.
Apparently, the limit was lowered at the end of March. I guess they didn’t correct it on the website or I missed it by a couple of days.
Next time, if there is a next time, I’ll just open a separate account.
Is that fraud? I think it might be, since I would be keeping separate accounts in order to hide earnings from the employment service.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 3:55 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Yes, I’m sure.
I couldn’t get the monthly stamp today. I went to see my advisor who wasn’t there, but her colleague checked the situation and informed me that there is nothing she can do.
“You shouldn’t have worked then, that’s the law”. Not an exact citation, but close enough.
birgerjohansson
26 July 2012 at 3:59 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
We are all susceptible to delusions http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg21528745.700-we-are-all-susceptible-to-delusions.html
— — —
Z-pinch fusion rocket: “Alpharetta graduate seeking ‘Holy Grail’ of rocket propulsion system” http://phys.org/news/2012-07-alpharetta-holy-grail-rocket-propulsion.html
— — —
Shortened telomere length tied to dementia, mortality risk http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-shortened-telomere-length-tied-dementia.html
— — —
Mystery of Native Americans’ arrival http://phys.org/news/2012-07-mystery-native-americans.html
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 4:01 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Beatrice: *headdesk*
Shouldn’t the limit *at the time of signing* apply over the contract? or would that be expecting too much decency and common sense from the programs involved?
birgerjohansson
26 July 2012 at 4:10 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I just realised the link above would go a long way to explain some of the weird beliefs you are discussing…
“We are all susceptible to delusions” http://www.newscientist.com/article/mg21528745.700-we-are-all-susceptible-to-delusions.html
Believing you are possessed by a demon, but otherwise being perfectly functional (no shizophrenia).
This kind of crap must be really common, substitute “demon” for a zillion other odd beliefs.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 4:11 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I signed it in april, but I was informing myself in march. I didn’t expect for it to change in the meantime, which was maybe a week or two.
I should have just opened another account to be safe anyway. There isn’t a single thing left that I haven’t somehow fucked up.
theophontes (坏蛋)
26 July 2012 at 4:12 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
@ birgerjohansson
{theophontes, clad in long jacket with fedora pulled low, sneaks into TET via back door. Waits in shadows until birger walks past.}
[whisper]
Pssst, I have some 2,4,6,8,10,12-Hexanitro-2,4,6,8,10,12-hexaazaisowurtzitane going cheap…
[/whisper]
@ David M.
I have written to the management to complain… ;D
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 4:19 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
argh… Beatrice, I wouldn’t call that *your* fuck-up. This sort of shit happens when a system’s badly designed with no safeties or precautions in it, with no concern for who it hurts. It’s designed to be a minefield, impossible to navigate without taking damage. To thin the herd.
A system operating in good faith would have given warning, something like “This change will take effect on such-and-such a date” a month in advance. You were played. Please don’t blame yourself.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 4:30 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Yeah, but I should have double checked and triple checked. I heard different info about that limit and for some reason thought what was written there is the right answer
I was sure I asked my advisor about the limit, but now I’m not so sure any more. Or maybe she gave me the wrong number too. not that it matters anyway.
Sorry was dumping stupid problems here.
The Laughing Coyote (Canis Sativa)
26 July 2012 at 4:58 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
These are far from ‘Stupid problems’, Beatrice.
This shit frustrates me, just like my dad owing a fuckton of money for EI’s fuckup.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 5:20 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Beatrice
Argh shit. Government aren’t stupid, they’re assholes. Yes, let’s punish people for working and then claim that they’re parasites for not working. And punish them some more.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 6:14 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Portia – you were right on the money; his next tweet was about scumbag politicians taking away the rights of business owners. I said that there has never been a right to open a business wherever you want, and asked if he’d heard of zoning laws and urban planning.
Jeez, Beatrice, that’s terrible. And not your fault.
rorschach
26 July 2012 at 6:23 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Watching a nice little movie called “The Woman in Black” with Daniel Ratcliffe tonight, quite enjoyable.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 6:29 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’m an idiot. I’ve realized that of course opening another account wouldn’t help, since they are getting the info about any salary I might receive from the pension insurance bureau.
So, the only answer is that I should have declined that job offer.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 6:42 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Uhm, Josh, could you please tone down your violent fantasies a bit. I understand and share your anger, but I was raised with corporal punishment and the idea that I needed a good spanking once in a while and that I deserved it (how could I provoke my mother so terribly by putting my hands on my butt when she shouted at me so that she had to come down, take a stick and beat me with it? She still tells that story about how I made her freak out), so it really gets me when you write stuff like that. Not because I think you’d do it, but because of triggers, you know?
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 7:54 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oh yeh gods, over on Twitter Thunderdoof has challenged PZ to watch something on youtube:
It’s a video by “Girlsayswhat”, the Chill Girl Gold Standard who tells us that women have only one valuable thing and that is looks in since those peak early they afterwards feel compelled to “ellbow their way into men’s spaces” and since they suck (because they also never ever really work on anything or learn anything or accomplish anything) they then make other men do the dirty work for him.
Yes, that’s “kick-ass”.
Can we finally call him a full-blown misogynist who thinks that women are just fucktoys or are we still injustly labelling him?
Katherine Lorraine, Chaton de la Mort
26 July 2012 at 7:54 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Mystere was a fantastic, amazing show. If you’re ever in Vegas, see it. Also see O. I can’t say much about Ka since I’m seeing it tonight, but given how incredible Mystere and O were, Ka can’t be much worse (in fact, I’ve heard it’s Cirque’s best show)
Louis
26 July 2012 at 8:12 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Giliell,
Whether he is or isn’t (and I have an inkling he is) he’s certainly doubling down douchedonut of dastardly dimensions. Sad really, I like some of his videos.
But then I expect everyone to have feet of clay.
Louis
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
26 July 2012 at 8:31 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
So, I just fired someone today.
Yay for me, I guess?
birgerjohansson
26 July 2012 at 8:32 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
theophontes
Throw in some unobtanium and we have a deal. I will pay you with stem-cell-rich fetuses that fell off the back of a truck.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 8:39 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Wait, what?
How can they fire you, you’re pregnant!
I mean, you didn’t steal the coffee kitty, did you?
Shit, I’m so sorry.
Can we help?
birgerjohansson
26 July 2012 at 8:41 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
American society explained? “A pinch of opportunity makes deep inequality more palatable” http://phys.org/news/2012-07-opportunity-deep-inequality-palatable.html
(my comment: Allow one or two to get socially mobile and the rest of the peons will think they have the same chance)
.
Loss of Arctic sea ice ’70% man-made’ http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/jul/26/arctic-climate-change
Muse
26 July 2012 at 8:42 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Giliell –
I think you may have misread. It looks like Audley was the one doing the firing. Still sucks, but if a different way.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 8:45 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Muse, Oh, Ok, thank you, I just read Audley and fired and panicked.
Now I look a bit stoopid
rorschach
26 July 2012 at 8:58 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ah shit, just saw the tweets on the Mick Nugent post. Who is a friend. I was going to go to bed…*sigh*
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
26 July 2012 at 8:58 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
No no no! I’m not fired!
I fired one of my guys. Here’s a pro-tip: Don’t call me a bitch while at work. I will fire your ass and my entire company will back me up.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 9:00 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley
In that case: Yay for you!
Did you give him the URL of the slimepit so he can go and have a cry over there?
Urgh, now I have to leave the flat and it’s HOT outside
Dalillama, Schmott Guy
26 July 2012 at 9:04 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Beatrice, it’s entirely not your fault that the system over there is just as fucked up as the one over here. The fact that there wasn’t some type of direct notification to all petitioners of the change shows that not even a minimum of consideration was shown for jobseekers in this scenario. Actual consideration, of course, would have consisted of basing it on when you applied, not changing things at all, or not even having this stupid program and instead just have the government directly hire people for a while.
@ Audley
That can suck, but it sounds like the firee had it coming.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
26 July 2012 at 9:07 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Also: In the middle of a fb flame war with an antichoice nutter (not one of my friends, thank goodness) who thinks I’m desensitized and heartless because abortion “harms children”*. Question is, when do I drop the bomb that I’m nearly 7 months pregnant? I want to see this lady’s head explode.
She also pulled out the argument that there has been an observation of a fetus trying to get away from the suction device. Besides pointing out that brain and nerve development aren’t advanced enough in the first trimester for a fetus to do anything purposefully and all of its motions are automatic, is there anything else I am missing?
*As stupid as the “killing babies” rhetoric is, saying abortion “harms children” is even more idiotic. When did that become a thing? I can only recall seeing the “harms children” argument in the past few months or so.
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
26 July 2012 at 9:12 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley:
YAY
ASAP.
Propaganda going back to at least The Silent Scream.
Crip Dyke, MQ, Right Reverend Feminist FuckToy of Death & Her Handmaiden
26 July 2012 at 9:12 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
@Caine #242 –
I kind of thought that it would have to be hand made, I was just hoping that someone else had previously had this idea and would have a good idea how to go about it.
Lo and behold, we get “child’s own”
and also Gilliel’s great suggestion for buying a duck and a crock and mixing parts – which sounds like the best and easiest option, though I’ll also check out child’s own.
I love Pharyngula. thanks, all.
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 9:14 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley
send her this pic and ask her if she considers that to be a child. If yes, that’s an elephant.
No, you’re not missing anything. Embryos have reflexes and react to outer stimuli. The fact that severed frog legs do that, too when you salt them tells you something about the significance.
portia
26 July 2012 at 9:21 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Carlie:
Smart money is that the next one (if there is one) will be “The free market will solve any problems of discrimination that arise, because freedom”
…ya know, because that has been soooo true throughout history. People just wake up and stop being bigots without social pressure or government intervention of any kind. Yep.
Audley:
Drop the Pregnancy Bomb by all means. Sounds like she’s dug herself deep enough to make it fun to watch the reaction. I haven’t heard “harms children” much, just “kills babies.” That video she references is blatantly fake, but I can’t find a source for that at the moment. Good luck. Oh, and way to go firing that guy, I wish I could rid my life of people like that, ha.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 9:36 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Damn, you’re good. It was the “they don’t discriminate against anyone being in their stores” variant.
I figured out what happened: the alderman retweeted my thanks to him (yay!) which magnified the visibility. I’ve got three going now who are all telling me how much I’m wrong. One of them at least looked at a source I posted to them and said I had a point (also yay!). Is it really bad that I know I should be annoyed, but I’m secretly relishing the arguing?
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 9:43 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Hekuni Cat, thank you. ♥
Team Esme is doing very well. They are all out and free ranging now, coping beautifully. Full rats, just miniature! They have pretty much mastered how to get around (up/down the condo, get on the attached feeding table, how to climb up the martin’s cage to get to the oh-so-cool high shelf in the closet, which ladder leads to my desk and to the floor, etc.) and are having a blast.
Just got breakfast set out for everyone: salad, dry mix, kitten chow, cheerios, chocolate ensure, water, tea and formula.
Sam spent most of night nest building all over the damn place, now that he’s had a plague of ratlets following him around everywhere. He’s not sure what to think of them, although some of them are most certainly his kidz. Both he and Havelock are overjoyed to have access to the condo back, though.
portia
26 July 2012 at 9:43 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’ve argued with far too many libertarians.
That’s really fun! No wonder you’re getting so much attention. How gratifying that one of them actually learned and adjusted their position accordingly.
Not at all! I think it’s a great thing, especially given my lurker’s view of your impressive argumentation skills. Keep on keeping on. (And I won’t tell your secret, ha). I usually get so annoyed with liberturds so quickly I throw up my hands (“But a neighborhood could buy a fire truck!”)
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 9:47 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley:
! Good for you, he deserved to have his ass canned.
Ogvorbis
26 July 2012 at 9:50 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Good morning.
I have a question (and this may be triggering, so read with care):
Am I a sick person? In one of the dreams last nigh, I dreamt of my abuser and I ‘enjoyed’ what he was doing. And I remember enjoying it back then (well, I do now (apparently there was more (but this is rather low impact compared to the photos))). How they hell could I take pleasure in the abuse?
Katherine Lorraine, Chaton de la Mort
26 July 2012 at 9:52 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I am at a professional computer security conference. Some companies have booth babes at their booths . Why are there booth babes at a professional conference? If they want more women in IT they can start by abandoning the “IT professionals are horny teenagers” idea.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 9:53 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oggie – that’s not uncommon. I’m sure many people here know good references, but I think it’s called “body betrayal” – it was just referred to recently in one of the threads, I think.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
26 July 2012 at 9:54 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caine:
Yay ratlets! Mr Darkheart sends his sympathies about Esme, he thought she was beautiful and sweet. He also loves being able to keep up with your rattie updates.
Giliell:
Thank you for the link! I will use it post haste. :)
All: She brought up Chuck Colson. *snortle!* Yes, convicted felons are such a reliable source.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 10:00 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ogvorbis:
Do some reading about body betrayal. Your body will react to certain stimuli in the normal way, regardless of how much you may be recoiling in repulsion, fear, horror, etc.
This is one of the most difficult things to reconcile about sexual abuse/assault. As I mentioned, I experienced my first orgasm at 9, during being raped by family member. The rape was bad, I was distanced, detached from it at that point, however, the orgasm hit home very hard, and yes, it felt good. This all left me in a state of miserable confusion for a very long time.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 10:03 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley:
Please tell him thank you. ♥ I got a couple more shots a few minutes ago, a bunch of ratlets like to pile on *top* of the igloo on the top shelf to nap. Idjits. :D
rorschach
26 July 2012 at 10:13 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I wish PZ would warn us before he drops a bomb like the smug thread. Wouldn’t have taken my sleep lollies that early otherwise. Now I’m going to miss all the fun !
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
26 July 2012 at 10:16 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
To everyone:
Thank you all for giving me the space to learn and the education to smack down antichoice arguments. Two years ago I would have not been able to defend abortion access without descending into *flailing rage filled incoherence*. The dumbass I’m arguing with now has resorted to the “God’s love” argument, so we all know that she’s lost.
Ogvorbis
26 July 2012 at 10:36 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Thank you for the information about body betrayal. And I remember reading that here. Recently. And I failed to grok as it did not intersect with my knowledge.
Scary. Not fair.
Richard Austin
26 July 2012 at 10:44 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ogvorbis:
Others have mentioned “body betrayal”. I think the layman’s concept would simply be that the body reacts mechanically to mechanically administered stimuli. You can no more control it than you can control your heart rate – in some cases, you can slow it down or speed it up, but you can’t stop it. Loud noises make us jump, smells can trigger memories, and certain activities – even done against our wishes – will release endorphins and dopamine and other “happy” chemicals into our systems.
cicely
26 July 2012 at 10:45 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
WIN!
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Ouch! Two, two, two problems in one!
You (and your wallet) have my sympathies.
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Hekuni Cat! *pouncehug*
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Huzzah!
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*hug* for Beatrice. Sorry.
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Muse
26 July 2012 at 10:51 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ogvorbis, allow me to put on my crisis line hat. Without breaking confidences, I can tell you that one of the most common things I have to tell people is that as much as it sucks, that’s normal. One’s body reacts to physical stimuli. It happens. It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
26 July 2012 at 11:19 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
The Shame thread has put me over the edge; I’m done in there for the day.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 11:39 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
CIpher,
well, torquilmacneil has turned out to be a dishonest fuck. No surprise there .
And that’s why I don’t want to get involved in the smug thread. How much time are we supposed to waste educating each and every little fucker who has no intention of learning anything? Pteryxx tried, to no avail. I don’t see why we should have to be indefinitely nice to him, in some vain hope that at some point, after upsetting everyone (like you now) he might possibly learn a tiny little something.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 11:47 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Listening to Janis Joplin. Makes me feel a bit better.
Any thoughts about this camera model (link)? I was going with Carlie’s suggestion of Panasonic Lumix line.
If not that one, maybe some other of the DMC-ZS [some number]. I managed to forget which models exactly the store has (I went there today after finding out about employment service, so I was a bit distracted).
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 11:51 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Beatrice – I think the best thing you can do is to try them out in-store. You won’t be able to take pictures, but the “feel” of the camera in your hand is more important than it seems until you start using it. For example, I was positive I wanted a Nikon Coolpix (that’s the brand I’ve always gotten) until I picked one up – too thin, too small overall, I couldn’t deal with how tiny it all was for my sad motor skills and hand size.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 11:59 am (UTC -5) Link to this comment
…and it was instant. Picked it up, and somewhere the back of my brain went “NO NO NO NO NO”. I spent the better part of 10 minutes trying to convince my brain that no, the Coolpix was the one with the specs and price I wanted, but my sensory response said otherwise. Same with the Sony cybershot – too heavy!*
*yes, I am Goldilocks.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:00 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
well, I educate because it works *for me*, and I don’t feel particularly betrayed or ashamed when some doucheconveyance shows it was all wasted on them. Maybe it’s helpful to spare other folks from trying it, I dunno. But I sure don’t advocate that everyone who’s frustrated, disgusted, triggered, or just has better things to do with their time OUGHT to put effort into educating.
Richard Austin
26 July 2012 at 12:03 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
carlie:
That’s perfectly legitimate. I bought my first DSLR because of how it felt in my hands – the one I’d planned on getting was too small and uncomfortable.
If you want to get into taking pictures, you should have a camera you like holding.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 12:03 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Pterryx—what I hate is that dishonest, partisan, passive aggressive people like lilandra get shielded from the consequences of their behavior. They get to whine about “cussing” and they get to ignore clear, reasonable, utterly uncontroversial requests to retract dishonest statements or acknowledge mistakes.
This is a betrayal. It betrays decency, it prevents moral progress, and it retards the just social consequences that should play out. And it makes me fucking crazy.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
also I did shoot my mouth off in the Smug thread by asking folks not to complain about PZ’s request to back it down a notch. I’m willing to explain further here if anyone wants. (If they don’t, that’s fine too…)
Doug Hudson
26 July 2012 at 12:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Beatrice,
When I engage one of the trolls, I don’t expect to change their mind; rather, I’m hoping to negate the influence of the troll on others reading the thread, and maybe even help some lurker understand the issues better.
That’s how I’ve learned, by watching people argue against trolls, both here and elsewhere.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 12:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Thanks, Carlie.
Even with my freakishly small hands, I don’t feel comfortable clutching a tiny camera.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 12:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
And she continues to ignore. How’s that niceness workin’ out for y’all?
Richard Austin
26 July 2012 at 12:07 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Doug:
That’s a valid tactic. Like I said over there, the goal is to render people who poison the well harmless. You either do that by talking them into not poisoning the well, or you chase them out of town (since we don’t have jails – well, I suppose banning and TZT are sortof jails).
Ogvorbis
26 July 2012 at 12:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
People like torquilmacneil are not the target of education on a blog. Xe was here (well, on that thread) to play games. And xe was good at it.
Think, though, about how many times, in the midst of a rhetorically bloody battle with the bastion of bastards, someone drops a comment, delurking, to thank those who have been shooting down the idiocy, the misogyny, the rape culture promulgation. It doesn’t happen often, but you do reach people.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh:
my admittedly socially incompetent instincts suggest that PZ might be trying to prove that point by clearing the field. I don’t disagree with anything you’ve said about letting dishonest tone trolls get away with it. Maybe by clearing the field, he’s trying to force her to put up or shut up by responding to the nice comments that remain.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 12:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oh, I didn’t mean that you or anyone else shouldn’t do it, just this what you have written above. Just that all this calling for people to be nice is annoying when I see people trying and I’m trying, but at some point it’s obviously useless and we still get called intolerant when we finally snap.
I won’t drag this further into TET, I might comment in the original thread or just fuck off.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 12:13 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ogvorbis,
I don’t mind the bloody battle, just the expectation that we keep being nice about it.
(so much for giving up the topic, as I promised)
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:14 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oh, also kinda OT: dunno about the tinyurl link, but I’ve been pasting direct links to the Pharyngula femwiki in the Shame thread, and they’ve gone through immediately, no problem. Maybe something got fixed?
test:
http://pharyngula.wikia.com/wiki/Feminist_link_roundup#Allyship
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 12:15 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Pterryx—I hope you’re right in your diagnosis.
Not that any of this matters, really, does it? There are clear enemies. That’s not going to change. The longer we put up with them the longer we have to wait for a better community.
I’m done.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:16 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
…also, if this tone discussion is too annoying in TET, we can always move to TZT. Would that be an improvement?
Beatrice: one problem with my educating at trolls, though, is that I’m potentially setting an example and shifting the acceptable methods of discourse, whether or not I intend to or actually advocate it. I can’t be sure that I’m not implicitly pressuring other people to be nice just by behaving as I do.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:20 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh: well, PZ almost never makes a request like that. I assume he has better social skills, and more inside knowledge, than I do, and I’m guessing he has a good reason. (Not to mention it’s his blog, his rules, natch.)
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 12:22 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
It doesn’t really bother me if we talk about this here, I’m just not sure if others would rather keep TET clean of this while there is a whole thread on the topic.
For what it’s worth, I don’t think you are. I think your comments are very valuable.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 12:24 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Pterryx, you go out of your way to make it clear that your preferred approach is not an implicit or explicit critique of a different or opposing approach. I’ve never felt scolded by you. Operating transparently and in good faith counts for a lot—it’s everything, really.
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
26 July 2012 at 12:25 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Bah. Downloaded Mountain Lion on my desktop. Works great. Went to download it for my new laptop. App Store keeps crashing. Taking it to the Genius Bar this afternoon. Hopefully it is an easy fix.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:26 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Heh – and being a socially dense, aspie type, my response is to flat-out ask “Hey people in TET, am I bothering you and should I take it to TZT instead?”
For what it’s worth, I moved here because I think that *talking about justifying harsh tone* over in the Smug thread is, itself, continuing to color the discussion on a meta level. I think it’s interfering with what I perceive as PZ’s attempt to clear the field. I think IF I said any of this over there, I’d be inflaming the discussion in exactly the way PZ is trying to prevent.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:29 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
hee, thanks Josh. It’s kind of circular, because I make it explicit AFTER other folks, years back, justified their angry and cussy responses to subtle trolls. And it still doesn’t always work – remember baal asking all you harsh, mean commenters why y’all couldn’t be more like me? I laughed, but that did sting.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 12:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
FWIW, I’m far more guilty of scolding other people for being too nice. I think I’m right sometimes, but I’m sure I’m wrong sometimes too.
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
26 July 2012 at 12:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
It did. :)
—
I am not going back into the shame thread, but I am obsessing about the thing terry said about serial victims. I don’t know if I am one or not. I was not sexually abused as a child. I was, however, physically abused by two other children for several years, as I don’t think I’ve talked about here much but I talked about in PET. (Which is why I’m reading Cat’s Eye right now.) I tried to talk about it to an adult and was told that boys would be boys and to toughen up, and then when other members of my family found out there was one of those blowout fights that I considered to be entirely my fault; a therapist, also, asked me if I had been sexually abused by the two children, and told me when I said no that she wouldn’t be surprised because the outfit I’d worn in my first session with her showed so much of my breasts. Haha thaaaaanks.
I had serious problems with it for a long time because of my physical reaction to pain, and until very recently the only person who knew about that part of things was my second rapist, who told me he had known for a long time that something like that had to have happened to me. And throughout the years, there have been incidents with violent men which I treated as unremarkable, until my best friend recently was told by someone else (who needs to not do this) about one of them, then got extremely upset when he figured out that a.) I didn’t think it mattered because I thought it was normal and b.) it had happened multiple times.
And, you know, the whole dating two abusive rapists thing. And increasingly noticing that the second one – the one I trusted so much – was showing red flags since his second one-on-one interaction with me, and realizing that there is some evidence that there may have been others.
I don’t know.
:(
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 12:33 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Jesus, I need more tea. I’m not feeling remotely “civilised”. Someone get me scones and an etiquette primer on being all pink and ladylike, stat!
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
26 July 2012 at 12:35 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
*Sets up a table with a white cloth, a bone china pot, and some cups.*
Here, I made cucumber sandwiches and scones, dahling.
*Pours some milk into a saucer for the ratties*
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:39 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
heh, it’s not going to be a very civilised tea with a flood of ratlets exploring and popcorning all over everything!
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
26 July 2012 at 12:40 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Sit, Pteryxx dear! Are you wearing a hat?
*glares over the top of her glasses*
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:41 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Uh, yes, yes I am! *pops nearest ratlet on top of head*
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 12:44 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
(if you put some peanut butter on top of your head first, the rat may even stay on. For a while.)
<_<
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
26 July 2012 at 12:47 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ooh, tea!
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 12:54 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
He’s a well-known asshole over at Ophelia’s to the point that she told him to STFU. And apart from using slurs and threats you have to go very far to make her say that.
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Um, I just got sent to bed by #1 until I stop enforcing the rule of not taking toys into the mouth.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 12:57 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Thank you, Esteleth.
Pteryxx, Havelock sits on my head all the time.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 1:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
May I have tea without a rat on my head? It can sit in the saucer.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 1:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
d’aww. I’ve only had pocket rats, and one shoulder rat, but never a head rat. Though I did have one who liked *gnawing* on heads.
Lynna, OM
26 July 2012 at 1:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
ALEC has been feeling the heat lately. Simply having a few media sources notice that ALEC exists, and that they do what they do in the way that they do it raised so many red flags that 25 corporate sponsors pulled out of the organization.
I’m not sure why, but nobody seems to have noticed that when ALEC bigwigs began defending their methods they completely blew the “bipartisan” cover under which they had previously operated. Yes, ALEC used to claim to be completely bipartisan, which is sort of like mormons claiming to be not right wing because, you know, Harry Reid.
ALEC’s goals dovetail nicely with the mostly regressive goals of the LDS Church, and of Utah’s far-far-right legislators. Utah helps to export these regressive goals, in the form of McLegislation, to other states.
http://www.sltrib.com/sltrib/news/54560661-78/alec-corporate-group-groups.html.csp
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 1:02 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
THERE IS NOW A BOB ROSS SYMPHONY OF SCIENCE REMIX.
here.
Yay!
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 1:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
oh, and I had a clothes rat – he wouldn’t be satisfied with just the pocket, he was up your pants legs, down your sleeves, exploring your underwear. And he was bossy and uncompromising about it, too! (his name was Maul, appropriately.)
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
26 July 2012 at 1:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Nothing but Wicked, all day long!
:)
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
26 July 2012 at 1:10 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Beatrice, what Giliell said: Torquil Macneil has been pulling his dishonest hyperskeptical shit on Butterflies & Wheels for a long time. I haven’t seen him there in a while; hopefully Ophelia made him feel too uncomfortable to stick around.
Josh:
I noted that you and I had a GMTA moment about her being a schoolteacher and how she possibly reacts to kids trying to defend themselves against bullies.
Pteryxx, I disagree that comments about Thunderf00l’s racism should be off-limits, given that it has been obvious from his YouTube videos for a loooooong time. (Sorry if this is an outdated opinion; I’m way behind on the “Smug” thread.)
Cipher, I’m really sorry so many adults failed you when you were younger. Do not get me started on how so many therapists don’t belong in that profession. (Or medical professionals in general. PZ’s comments about pre-docs in the kitten thread were both horrific and unsurprising to me.)
A friend of mine alerted me to the existence of the “Thinking” Housewife, yet another example of “If you have to say it….” in user names, a while ago. Now General J.C. Christian has written about her spitting on the memory of Sally Ride.
Esteleth, Who Knows How to Use Google
26 July 2012 at 1:11 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
*hands carlie a jaunty hat*
Here, have some tea. I made enough for everyone.
Lynna, OM
26 July 2012 at 1:12 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
A follow up to my post at 384: Here’s a partial list of the corporate entities that set up booths at the ALEC convention in Salt Lake City.
Right. Such a nice group of reasonable people. I definitely want them to write legislation for my congress critters to introduce.
Here’s an example of ALEC’s model legislation, an example in which Utah takes top prize for Most Bugnuts Rightwingery.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 1:15 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
…buh? I never said THAT. I don’t think PZ said it either?
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
26 July 2012 at 1:23 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Whoops, you’re right: PZ asked people not to demand that Lilandra back up her argument about Thunderdump being attacked in the backchannel.
Ogvorbis
26 July 2012 at 1:32 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
However, her accusations of abuse and foul language were, I think, focused on that thread but, when I asked about that, she refused to cite anything and claimed it was on a different unnamed thread. This one is odd.
Richard Austin
26 July 2012 at 1:32 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
A certain other thread is reminding me of an episode of DS9. The Klingons have attacked the station and are mostly losing. In a last-ditch attempt at psychology, the general calls up Sisko and says, “Surrender now! Your shields are failing, my boarding parties are taking control, and my reinforcements are on the way!”
Sisko simply and calmly replies, “My shields are holding, your boarding parties are contained, and my reinforcements are closer than yours are.” And the general takes his fleet and leaves.
We keep hearing from people that our tone and condemnation – our fighting back – against racists and misogynists and bigots is splitting the community and needs to stop.
… And yet, our shields are holding, we’re containing their bigotry – and we’re constantly finding reinforcements.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 1:36 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Respectfully, no. She’s a very common type that I wish more people recognized and called out sooner. She’s a liar and she’s perfected the art of posing as a delicate flower as camouflage when she’s called on it. Sadly, the persona works, which is why she gets away with such brazen bullshit.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 1:37 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Richard, that was brilliant and perfectly apt. Yes. That, exactly.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 1:38 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Also, due to a host of sexist social infrastructure, her pose is particularly effective for women who want to get away with being nasty pieces of work without being recognized for it.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 1:38 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
It’s known in the literature as Celeste-Hale Syndrome.
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 1:44 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
y’know, this reminds me of the research showing that abortion does NOT entail horrible mental trauma for the patient, UNLESS she’s been indoctrinated to believe it’s a nasty sinful shameful act that will cause her horrible mental trauma.
Why aren’t they calling on the misogynists to STFU and keep their hating to themselves for the good of the movement? THEY’RE the ones severing ties with anyone who won’t put up with their crap.
“You’re dividing the movement by driving away perfectly good allies who happen to be women or minorities. Shut up and paste a fake smile on your face already!”
Paul
26 July 2012 at 1:50 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
He had done similar on sciblogs before, at least trying to cool things down a bit when personal friends were discussed (Greg Laden, for example). It’s not surprising, though; it is his blog.
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
26 July 2012 at 1:52 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I had a back-of-the-neck rat. He would stretch out his full length around the back of my neck, like a rather-too-short-to-fit fur collar. And go to sleep. He was the chillest rat I have ever seen in my life and I still miss him.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 1:52 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Can that be enshrined and hauled out on every one of those threads, plz?
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 1:53 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
As I said, in the other thread:
I’m getting damn tired of all the people who show up here to repeatedly scold us over this, that and the other, when they can never be found in the thick of the liars, rape apologists, rape jokers, etc., showing us how it’s done. Go forth and change their minds! Go forth and bring them to reason! Who in the blankety blank is stopping them?
Sili
26 July 2012 at 1:55 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Far too often the examples of misogyny on Not Always Right/Working make me wanna scream.
But this one is a rather amusing idea on how to accommodate stupid customers:
http://notalwaysright.com/murrays-law/22083
Richard Austin
26 July 2012 at 1:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caine:
… is “Blankety Blank” the name of the Pharyngula commune?
*runs away*
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 1:59 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I have no patience with or tolerance for the attitude of “oh, you’re ruining our community! You’re killing the movement!” anymore.
Yes, we’re ripping the house down. We’re building a bigger, better house.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 2:00 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Richard:
Why not? Welcome to Fuckety Fuck! :D
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 2:01 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
…Fuckety Fuck Island. I like it!
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 2:04 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I AM IN AN ARGUIN’ MOOD.
In addition to the twitter twits and the smug thread, I just pounced on one of those freakin’ “sponsored tweets” from some dumbass company saying to substitute avocado for butter in baking to make it healthier. Fuck. Eat avocados if you want. Eat cookies if you want. DON’T PUT AVOCADOS IN COOKIES TO MAKE THEM “HEALTHY”. GOD.
Um, maybe I need another cup of tea. Decaf.
Lynna, OM
26 July 2012 at 2:05 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I am really jealous of people who have a rat to sit on the top of their head while they drink tea.
Sili
26 July 2012 at 2:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Far too often the examples of misogyny on Not Always Right/Working make me wanna scream.
But this one is a rather amusing idea on how to accommodate stupid customers:
http://notalwaysrightDOTcom/murrays-law/22083
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 2:06 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Wait! We cannot break bread with you. You have taken the community which is rightfully ours. . . My people have pain and degradation; your people have fap sticks. The gods of my tribe have spoken. They have said: DO NOT TRUST THE MRAs. Especially Chunderfood. For all these reasons I have decided to scalp you and burn your Hoggletorium to the ground.
Paul
26 July 2012 at 2:13 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Seriously, it’s madness. Everyone knows you use apple sauce, instead.
Ogvorbis
26 July 2012 at 2:15 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Typically shitty writing on my part. I was referring to the thread itself in which we managed to metathread the thread while also simultaneously meta-ing another thread and discussing another thread, and some background emails, that we were not discussing.
And this one won’t have all sorts of sick shit hidden in the closets.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
26 July 2012 at 2:19 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Carlie,
But… aren’t avocados full of fat? It doesn’t seem to me that you’re doing yourself any favors by subbing one high fat ingredient for another.
Besides, I do not want to show up somewhere with avocado chocolate cake or some shit like that. Blech.
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
26 July 2012 at 2:21 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I was at a restaurant with my family and my friend texted me that he had a surprise for me – I immediately started stimming like crazy and became unable to eat. Most of my food is in my fridge now, and I’m still rocking and twitching XD To be fair, though, I wasn’t very hungry to start out with, since I woke up queasy and it’s been sort of downhill from there.
Josh, Official SpokesGay
26 July 2012 at 2:26 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
1. Avocados in cookies is a horrible idea.
2. But, not all fat is created equal. Butter is full of saturated fat (bad for ppl like me with heart disease). Avocado is full of good-for-me fat.
The solution, however, is not to put veggie-fruit in cookies. The solution is to use butter and make cookies an occasional sometimes food (that is, if you have to give a shit. If you don’t, then eat the damned cookies!).
Doug Hudson
26 July 2012 at 2:27 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oooh, applesauce. I’ve made applesauce chocolate muffins before, unbelievably moist and yummy. And doesn’t taste like apples, oddly.
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 2:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Jesus, that lilandra is a thick one.
Audley Z. Darkheart (carrying the Official SpokesFetus)
26 July 2012 at 2:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Josh,
Oh I give a shit. I hate food substitutions! (We all know this.)
Sili
26 July 2012 at 2:31 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Incidentally, can someone explain to me why comment numbers aren’t searchable anymore?
Sili
26 July 2012 at 2:34 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Bully!
Go stand in the corner!
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 2:38 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Beatrice:
That doesn’t even begin to describe her. This is just a repeat performance.
Ugh. I am sick half to death of her derailing threads in the name of her blessed TF and I’m not half happy with PZ for trying to hand the thread over to her and her dishonest tactics. Now she’s going off on TF being bullied comic book style.
Caerie, Rage Flail
26 July 2012 at 2:38 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
On the topic of avocados, they’re a great vegan source of pantothenic acid. I know I for one have a hard time getting enough of that without a supplement. I have mashed them up and used them as a sort of butter replacement, but that’s been in savory dishes. I just can’t fathom putting them in cookies. Blech.
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 2:40 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I have done applesauce in baked goods, but as a replacement for eggs when I don’t have them (rather than for butter). Also to make it more moist.
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
26 July 2012 at 2:44 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I was about to come over here and stomp around a little bit about lilandra and her lilunbearableness, but it looks like everyone else got to it first.
*stomps around*
Beatrice
26 July 2012 at 2:47 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Make me.
Ms. Daisy Cutter, Vile Human Being
26 July 2012 at 2:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I can’t believe I’m the only one who thinks this is an issue in Ernest W. Adams’ post.
Also, his cluelessness about the dangers of removing anonymity in online fora is fucking enraging. It’s not like this hasn’t been an issue in the gaming community itself in the last few years.
****
Josh:
Precisely.
Does anyone else remember that type from high school, who’d get all huffy if someone “cussed,” and the conversation would derail into consoling her? Or she’d say something assaholic, be called on it, and start up the waterworks? “But that’s not what I meeeaannnnt!! *sob!*” Rinse, lather, repeat.
Especially if the woman in question is fuckable by patriarchal standards, because then the d00dz she’s defending will become her knights in shining armor against whoever made poor ickle Buttercup cwy.
Ogvorbis
26 July 2012 at 2:51 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Sorry. Hands Cipher a guacamole cookie.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 2:52 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Lilandra leans a great deal on being Missus Aron Ra!!!1! (Thanks, Daisy.) She seems to think it means she can do no wrong and is the epitome of reason.
Owen
26 July 2012 at 2:53 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Damn right on the smug thread. Kudos to all of you who’ve kept up the pressure. Also, PZ can start a new thread now. I know it’s early, but Sili already won it at #410.
Sili
26 July 2012 at 2:55 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Apparently a hoax, but illustrative of the mindset.
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 2:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
@382:
Suddenly I have this image of UFOs piloted by rats.
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
26 July 2012 at 2:58 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
*cough*bluharmony*cough*
kristinc, ~ringy dingy~
26 July 2012 at 2:59 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
A while back some of my friends were passing around a recipe for “raw” (eyeroll) chocolate pudding using, among other things, avocado and cocoa powder. Several of them swore it was delicious. I haven’t tried it.
I know in some cultures avocado is eaten like a fruit instead of like a savory vegetable, right?
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
26 July 2012 at 3:00 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Aw but no ew
Doug Hudson
26 July 2012 at 3:03 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Gaucamole cookie sounds crazy enough to work. Strange, wonderful things can happen when you mix unusual ingredients.
Strange and terrible things can also happen…
Giliell, not to be confused with The Borg
26 July 2012 at 3:12 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
lilandra is exactly what’s wrong with eductaed middle-class people, especially school teachers (yes, I’m an educated middle-class teacher, I know about them)
Pteryxx
26 July 2012 at 3:15 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Ms Daisy Cutter: sorry but the anonymity fail was all I could handle there. I tend to agree with you though, and I’m glad you brought it up because I didn’t have the spoons left.
Cipher, OM, Sweetness and Fluff
26 July 2012 at 3:18 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Spoons! Heh… I forgot to monitor my spoons. Common for me lately.
Stupid spoons.
One Thousand Needles
26 July 2012 at 3:19 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Two big avocado cookies flanking a frozen, blended banana makes for an excellent vegan ice cream sandwich. Especially if the banana is just starting to get that brown, mushy, stick-sweet consistency.
NOM
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 3:22 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Caine:
Neither can I. It seems so out of place.
I’ve only just come around to liking avocados, and even then I only like them in small amounts (on a salad, a few slivers on a sandwich). I used to not like them, but in recent years, I’ve made an effort to try foods I previously disliked, to see if maybe I like them now (still don’t like mushrooms or tomatoes, but I like red onions and avocado now).
One night at my last job, I was tremendously bored, so I decided to stuff some olives. I took salt, pepper, hot sauce, lime juice, avocado, and blue cheese crumbles and mashed them together. I put that mix inside a ziplock bag and cut off the end, depitted some olives (half a jar full-restaurant size, not store bought size) and squirted the stuff inside.
Funny thing, I hate olives, so I didn’t try them (more than a few servers did and they *loved* the stuffed olives). I did however, put the mixture atop grilled salmon and it was delicious.
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
26 July 2012 at 3:23 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Oh god. I can’t keep up with one thread, let alone two.
Stupid attention span.
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 3:24 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Audley:
And now you’re passing on your knowledge to newbies like myself.
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
26 July 2012 at 3:26 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I think I need to take a break. Thread following envy.
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 3:27 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Richard @394:
+1 for the win!
CT
26 July 2012 at 3:27 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I didn’t want to derail any more over there but I have to respond that I am not a haffer but my mother(aunts uncles) and grandmother were. I’m touchy for them. It’s not really about me. And the ‘half breed’ comments to me are from racists too stupid to live. Literally, most of them hide out in their mother’s houses so they don’t have to expose their precious selves to any PoC.
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 3:32 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
kristinc:
I swear ya’ll are going to make me get a rat (not really as 3 dogs and 4 cats is enough for one 3 bedroom 1 bath home).
I never had an aversion to rats (I guess because I had gerbils as a child, I viewed them as similarly cute), but never *wanted* one. All this talk about rats and all the cute pics and the fact that they’re cuddly and smart andI’msototallyjealousofCaine (wellnotthepartwithhaving5000rats) has made me want one.
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 3:35 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Pteryxx:
FFI is kinda cool.
Perhaps we can make a TZT island where all the mean nasty people go live harmoniously together (yeah, right). It could be * FFS!* .
carlie, who has nice reading comprehension
26 July 2012 at 3:39 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Paging Walton – (or any other Brit) How do you address the Leader of the Opposition in Parliament? I know for darned sure it’s not “Mr. Leader”, but what is the proper title?
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 3:41 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
I’m starting to wonder if Thunderf00t’s invitation here (and subsequent firing) are actually of benefit to the atheist/skeptic movement. The shitfest that’s been going on in the community over the last year or so has gotten kicked up to another level with his sexism and whining. Sure there are more than a few of his supporters defending his actions, but with the addition of *his* audience, surely there are more progressives that have become aware of FtB, or who disagree with Tf00t and are speaking out about it. More voices are speaking up. More and more people are refusing to stay silent and Thunderf00t may have inadvertently created a situation that’s a great primer for critical thinking, education on sexism & misogyny, and a host of ‘what not to do’s’ when arguing.
Or I could be completely wrong.
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 3:43 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Doug (and any other ‘uses applesauce in baked goods’ ppl):
I don’t bake often, but after seeing this recommendation a few times, I’ve worried that I’m going to taste apples in my brownies or cake. That turns out to not be the case?
birgerjohansson
26 July 2012 at 3:46 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
A few research links, mostly about medicine & health:
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New drug could help maintain long-term weight loss http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-drug-long-term-weight-loss.html
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New research confirms efficacy of transcranial magnetic stimulation for depression http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-efficacy-transcranial-magnetic-depression.html
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Telephone therapy technique brings more Iraq and Afghanistan veterans into mental health treatment http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-therapy-technique-iraq-afghanistan-veterans.html
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Lower vitamin D could increase risk of dying, especially for frail, older adults http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-vitamin-d-dying-frail-older.html
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NB! (Why religion scam works:) Repetitious, time-intensive magical rituals considered more effective, study shows http://medicalxpress.com/news/2012-07-repetitious-time-intensive-magical-rituals-effective.html
Tony the Parkour Kat [safe and welcome at FtB]
26 July 2012 at 3:46 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
Doug:
True.
Contestants in Cupcake Wars (Food Network reality show) have had to use some reaaaaaaaaaaaaally interesting ingredients.
Caine, Uppity, Annoying and Proud of It
26 July 2012 at 3:47 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
CT:
They are that stupid. If breathing wasn’t an involuntary function, they’d all drop dead. I’m feeling touchy myself, because Josh made a reference to scalping people upthread in response to a comment of mine. I know it wasn’t deliberate and I don’t mean to pile on Josh (you know I loves you!), but some days…yeah.
I think what bothers me most is that a lot of people seem to think all the Indians are already dead. The cowboyz killed ‘em all, right? :eyeroll:
thunk, martian atmosphere weaksauce
26 July 2012 at 3:48 pm (UTC -5) Link to this comment
In favor here.
Now all we need is a flag.