Category Archive: Navelgazing

Jun 02 2014

Teen Attends University, Can Now Tell You Her Experience Fits Erikson’s Developmental Model for Early Adulthood

I have talked a lot about graduating in the last months. I have technically finished classes at this point, and I’m in the thick of writing final papers and packing. …and, I don’t have a good ending story for college. No elevator pitch. No pithy commentary. College was a time of self-discovery, but honestly. Call …

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May 27 2014

Can Can Can

[Somewhat more rambly post, still frantically packing and finishing finals] I’ve noticed something recently, about this phrase: Can you do something for me? There are two ways this phrase can go. Can you do something for me…[by never doing this thing that I hate that you've been doing?] and Can you do something for me? …

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Apr 29 2014

Aversive and Achievement Goals

[Related to The Cockroach of Motivation. If you're here and generally consider yourself part of the rationality community, check out the quick note first.] In psychology, especially the subsector focused on motivation and identity, there’s this idea of future possible selves: the ways you imagine yourself being as you go forward. You can have lots …

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Apr 28 2014

The Cockroach of Motivation

[Draft-clearing again. Quite old, somewhat updated for clarity.] Today, as I have several times this year, I told someone that I had gone on a date with that I would prefer not to see them again. Then I gave a presentation I thought could have gone better and proceeded to be horribly unproductive all day. …

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Apr 23 2014

Some Musings on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

 Robby Bensinger told me to finish a post on CBT, so hark! A post on CBT. Many, many thanks also to Miri for critiques and help with the composite example in Part Three.  Recently, I’ve been on this kick where I read books about therapy and self-help not because I think they’re going to be …

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Feb 21 2014

Losing at Brain Games

[TW: ED] Small post today, because I’m feeling contemplative. I had something confirmed for me last week–that I have an unusual presentation and persistence of eating disorder/disordered eating* symptoms, given all the treatment, work, time I throw at it. In short, standard and adapted-for-me coping mechanisms and approaches for my anorexia tendencies (henceforth anorexia!brain) trigger …

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Jan 17 2014

A Week

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[The eating disorder content note on this post is so loud it tapdances in sequined tights. Skip the latter half if that seems bad for you.] It’s a Friday. 12:42 in the morning. And I’ve done something for the first time in seven years. I have fed myself properly for a week. Twenty-one meals in …

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Jan 02 2014

2013 14!

It’s January of 2014, officially that time of year where we decide to switch our calendars and spend two months forgetting we’ve done so. I don’t usually make New Year’s resolutions, but I do reflect on what the past year has brought me. In 2013 I…: – wrote quite a lot, got my own blog, …

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Nov 23 2013

In Which Scary Things Happened, Decisions Were Made, And I Didn’t Blog

SO. Dear readers. I have been really great about blogging Monday Miscellany link posts. Except for that time I posted on Tuesday last week. And when I haven’t done them. Okay, so I’ve been mediocre. But! There are reasons! 1) Big Life Changes. I’m increasingly sold on the idea of graduate school following this year. …

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Oct 29 2013

On Nail Polish and Pizza

After a bit of an unusual childhood/teenagerhood, I spent a lot of my senior year of high school and freshman year of college hacking away at a list of things I’d never had to learn that are rote to your average young adult. I’d never used a microwave before, for instance. (For the record, really …

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