I’m a military father, where’s my free chardonnay?

Psst, wanna see some gross privilege? How about a military spouse who thinks restaurants should give her free wine for her service?

Once, at my grandmother’s house long long ago, I found an old piece of paper with a couple of blue stars on it. She told me that had been posted on her window in WWII, because she had one son in the Navy in the Pacific, and another serving in the army in Germany. She never asked for free wine.

I guess this military spouse 😀 should have given her some advice.


  1. pilgham says

    There’s something off about this. Why is she complaining now? She hasn’t eaten out since 2003?

  2. davidnangle says

    Forget wine. Let’s give war spouses free yachts and private jets and oil tankers and warehouses of Tomahawk missiles, then see how our largest corporations enjoy funding new wars.

  3. lb says

    My mother was a military spouse who followed my dad to Asia twice, Europe twice and of course, countless states across the US, dragging 4 kids with her. She spent a lot of that time alone, often in foreign countries where she didn’t speak the language, while my dad was in Vietnam or TDY. I think she deserved a free glass of wine but she’d never have demanded it of anyone. I don’t really understand this modern worship of the military. It’s not like the folks in now were drafted into the military like they were in my dad’s day. Now it’s a choice to be in the military and you deal with what being in the military entails. That’s what my mom taught me, anyway.

  4. nomdeplume says

    This is the consequence, it seems to me, of the increasing American glorification of its military. Even the Germans in World War 2 didn’t glorify their army as much as Americans now do, and I can’t think of another country in the world that does so currently.

  5. embraceyourinnercrone says

    This attitude really annoys me, I was active duty AND a military spouse and to this day all the “Thank you for your service” makes me uncomfortable. It was a personal choice and no one made me make either choice, I knew what I was letting myself in for when I got married and when I joined the military.

    Partly it’s me being a brat, but the military stay at home moms in some places/bases drove me nuts, they (some) gave the side-eye to any woman in uniform and complained how haaarrrrdddd life was stuck at home alone with the kids….ummm I had a job, a spouse in the military and a kid and it wasn’t any harder than what a lot of civilian families deal with, and we also had perks regular civilians don’t (base child care, commissary and exchanges, military medical facilities)

  6. devnll says

    Is it just me? Or is it telling that said military spouse doesn’t actually apparently mind paying for the Chardonnay, they just don’t want to pay their server for the service? They paid the bill, just left a $0 tip. As much as I hate the whole system of tips for wages in the US, stiffing your server is not the way to protest or fix that problem (and pissing in the wound by giving them a smiley-face for their efforts is just mean.)

  7. robro says

    Curious that a military spouse can spend $12 on a glass of La Crema Chardonnay. Seems a bit steep to me, at least for a chardonnay. Perhaps she’s a “military brass spouse.”

    As for her complaint, is there some way to know she’s a military spouse? Did she wear a uniform or special badge? Did she announce that she’s a “military spouse” when she walked in? I mean God (the article source) would know but what about a wait person at a restaurant, bar, or wine tasting room. I want to know because I might give it a try some time.

    Finally, how do we know this spouse is a she? Perhaps we’re assuming something.

  8. says

    Didn’t this spouse have the assigned buglers to announce their presence whenever they enter a business so that the employees are well aware that they should be bowing and scraping and thanking them profusely for their sacrifice in marrying someone who decided to join the armed forces?

  9. hillaryrettig says

    I had to log in because none of you said “military souse.”
    C’mon people!

  10. cartomancer says

    Are you sure this is genuine? It looks like an obvious parody to me – too silly to be real. The multiple exclamation marks and total disconnect between the situation and the response feel much more like comic ridiculousness than a real person expressing genuine sentiments.

  11. Mrdead Inmypocket says

    She’s right. She should be able to vote in federal elections, make it easier to obtain special permission to have more children, or given chardonnay at little to no cost. If their spouse makes the safety of the body politic their personal responsibility, of course their entitled.

  12. Ragutis says

    My dad was a guard at the Nuremberg trials. Does that get me free Gewürztraminer?

    Knowing there are far too many assholes like this or the proselytizers leaving their fake money tracts out there is why I always tip at least 20%. (Well, not always, but the service has to be inexplicably pretty shitty to get less)

  13. magistramarla says

    I’ve been a military spouse since 1982. I’ve been very thankful for those perks, since they have helped us to comfortably raise five kids. Unfortunately, many of those perks have been being slowly stripped away by republican “privatization” policies. Once upon a time MWR was run by the military community, for the military community. This meant that costs were kept down so that most military members could afford to stay in a military motel on base, or rent a facility for a reception/party, or rent sports equipment. All of those services are now privatized and being run by for profit businesses. Most military members, especially those in the enlisted ranks, can no longer afford those “perks”.
    What is even worse, on-base military housing is now being managed by for-profit businesses. Here in California, there have been several instances of military families being sickened by mold in their housing, and having their complaints ignored by the management.This is appalling to me, and should be to the taxpayers who pay for the bases in their states.
    If this entitled spouse wants to fight for perks, she/he should be fighting to make those perks affordable to all military members, and housing clean and safe for all ranks.
    BTW, an entire bottle of LaCrema would be much less than those two glasses at the BX, with no taxes!

  14. Derek Vandivere says

    Supposedly posted by the drinker, not the server, with only a pseudonym? I suspect this is just dumb trolling.

  15. wzrd1 says

    I quite enoy an occasional military discount.
    Giving me a pass to harm, never allowed. Ever.

    That all said, naan, I remain defenseless.
    Along with humanity.

  16. lucifersbike says

    My Dad was in the British Army in WWII, an uncle was in the RAF, and another in the Merchant Navy. At the same time my father-in-law was in the Italian Army, and a great-uncle-in-law was an actual general in the same outfit. Some of my friends’ parents had either served in the Wehrmacht or escaped to the UK before it arrived. My familoy as a whole is extremely cynical about flag-waving numpties whose lives are so empty that being born in a random country is important to them. I have nothing against people who join the armed forces, and I am against capital punishment. However, I would dearly wish the Colosseum to be restored especially for the purpose of throwing war-mongering politicians and journalists to the lions. If Professor Myers can be induced to breed giant man-eating spiders, so much the better.

  17. Akira MacKenzie says

    sigaba @ 22

    I don’t know about Shiraz, but I hear we’re beating them back on Klendathu.

  18. PaulBC says

    Can I get a free drink for trying (but failing, sadly) to prevent Trump from getting elected in 2016? In fact, my attempt to prevent George W. Bush’s reelection in 2004 would have been even more impactful, if it had worked. I and millions of other Americans deserve gratitude.

  19. ikanreed says

    I thought we were all smarter here than to fall for obvious fakes.

    The use of obvious anger bait like Chardonay, an almost iconic luxury good, too good to be true entitlement
    The use of the phrase “free stuff” that no one ever uses to describe their own hand outs, but conservatives love to use to describe sensible social resource allocation
    The impossible snapchat layout
    The very important question of who the intended recipient of this snap is supposed to be

    Everything about it is flagrantly designed to rile people online, and none of it makes sense as what a real person(even a super entitled narcissist) would say or do

  20. chigau (違う) says

    … Chardonay, an almost iconic luxury good…
    $12 for a glass of plonk is pretty luxurious.
    but stupid

  21. christoph says

    To be fair, it’s just one military spouse who feels entitled. Most of them aren’t like that.

  22. ikanreed says

    @ #31

    I think I gave several clues that I think highly suggest this is fabricated. Entitled people aren’t the thing I don’t think exist. Entitled narcissists who would use that precise terminology to describe their entitlement are what I don’t believe. It lacks the low-cunning of the prototypical standard “You’re doing this to hurt me” manipulation.

    It doesn’t make sense as a real snapchat.

  23. PaulBC says

    ikanreed@34 Well, it could be real or it could be fake. If it’s supposed to trigger my outrage, it’s a dud. My reaction is like “She sounds deluded, but I guess there’s no harm asking.” Kind of just a big “Huh?”

    OK, the $0 tip is mean and wrong, but I almost missed that in the discussion of free Chardonnay. I’m still too perplexed to work up a genuine sense of outrage. I feel bad about not being outraged. It’s most likely because I never worked as a waiter. I should run it by some people who have.

  24. tbp1 says

    I’m kinda with #30. While I’m quite sure there are people who feel this entitled, the phrasing is suspicious (as he points out, the phrase “free stuff” is invariably reserved for goodies that other people receive), and the circumstances are just a little TOO perfectly cringe- and anger-inducing to be convincing.