A day of mourning

I take it all back. 2016 sucks.

You know how when someone you love is in pain, and there’s not one damn thing you can do about it? It’s also personal and private, so I’m not going to discuss it, but at least I can show you how I feel.

We’ll all get better. But everything is going to be a bit raw for a while.


  1. Nerd of Redhead, Dances OM Trolls says

    Things happen beyond our control that effect us. Time will allow for acceptance of the situation.
    Hang in there, and if you need to talk, the horde will be here to listen.

  2. cnocspeireag says

    In the middle of a dark screen I get the message that ‘this video is not available’. PZ’s posts are usually moving, it seems some scum is blocking it now.

  3. Crip Dyke, Right Reverend Feminist FuckToy of Death & Her Handmaiden says

    PZ: I join others in wishing you well with your current troubles/sadness. If I understand what you wrote correctly, I also wish your loved one well.

    Fucking 2016. Fuck.

  4. opposablethumbs says

    My condolences and well-wishes to your loved one, PZ, and to you too. It hurts so damned keenly when someone you love is suffering – I’m truly sorry, and glad that at least you and yours can be there for each other. It doesn’t help, but maybe sometimes it kind of does too.

  5. carlie says

    My condolences and all empathetic feelings to you – we’ve had some personal crises in our own close family and with friends this year too, and it sucks to not see relief anywhere you look.

  6. wzrd1 says

    Yes, PZ. I know intimately well that pain, it’s been with me for some time and increased with my wife’s cervical MRI, where after a gasp and much rapid thought, I switched from looking at what what was suffering from severe stenosis and started looking for what was good.
    Neither the radiologist nor I could find god news.
    Then, we got her lumbar MRI back, seriously bad news and advanced osteoporosis. That makes the later inoperable and 24/7 pain, she’s on morphine and hydromorphone, which is inducing apparent bradycardia and severe enough hypotension to cause syncope and unconsciousness.

    To ice the cake, we took in a daughter and grandchild of the homeless couple that we took in and the boyfriend dutifuly roofied my wife and myself, raped my wife and stole stole both of our pain medications, leaving my wife in withdrawal and agonizing pain, utterly immobile, for three days.
    I’ll be able to reflil my pain medication on the 31st, so I get to put up with both arches of my feet trying to collapse due to spasms in the arch and both calves spasming constantly, where I’m even having trouble walking with two canes.
    We still have to figure out how to afford time and the copay for her liver biopsy, as she has bilary cirrhosis and we need to learn of precisely how severe it is.

    So, in addition to experiences military, I had that, plus losing a home and contents, due to local corruption and abuse of power, with its contents that included around $60k of our own purchased possessions.

    Yes, we understand how the year sucked badly and pain.

    I’m hoping your and your family’s outlook is better for 2017.
    Originally, I stuck around because my wife needed me, now, I have a couple that need to be protected from their own dysfunctional children.
    Fortunately, my sense of duty has always overridden my innate selfishness.

    Seriously, I’m hoping the best for you and yours, our outlook isn’t very good. Good news would give some vicarious joy.

  7. magistramarla says

    I’m a worrier, and now I’m worried about you. I hope that everything turns out to be ok for you and yours.

  8. Holms says

    It’s just a standard youtube video, so it is likely just a geo-ip block. “It’s Quiet Uptown” from Hamilton, if you want to chase down a different source.

    Jesus christ, what the fuck are you talking about. Is there ever an occasion that you won’t take as a pissing contest challenge?

    Yeesh. This is a pretty stupid reply to someone that appears to be in mourning.

  9. Crudely Wrott, lurching towards recrudescence says

    Sympathy and empathy to you, PZ.
    You’ll hang in and with time confidence and cheer will return. You will be changed, different, there is no avoiding that but you will recover and go on living and doing and becoming.
    May your sorrow be short and your healing rapid.

  10. applehead says

    I’m sorry and I really fucking hope that in spite of everything this will have an outcome one can come to terms with.

  11. says

    I am so sorry, PZ. All my thoughts and best hopes for your suffering loved one, and all of you. I know you are all helping, even if it doesn’t feel that way.

  12. What a Maroon, living up to the 'nym says

    So sorry to hear this, PZ. Here’s hoping for the best for you and yours.

  13. Holms says

    On reflection, my reply to #14 was a bit more aggressive than warranted. Take it as a mere ‘wtf’ instead of all that crap. Apologies to PZ, you don’t need yet another argument on your plate while life has you down.

  14. carlie says

    *sneaks back in*
    I see lots of names here I don’t see very often any more (admittedly I’m not commenting as much as I used to), so hugs to all of you I’m very happy to see here. If you don’t know if I’m talking about you, yes I am. :)
    *sneaks out*