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Why I am an atheist – CuervodeCuero

I was born rural, poor and white in western Canada, a region soaked in Christianity in all its rainbow of heresies and home to one wannabee theocracy that ruled a province for some years. Prairie communities might have churches as half the buildings in town. Because the populations were/are sparse, the community villages and towns can’t isolate parts. People have to interact, intersect marriages happen.

Church attendance (at least then) was more important than loudly professing faith, generations of isolated community ‘trust’ values in action. Still, there were boozy dances, ‘premature’ babies, kitchen story telling, socialist politics and rowdy celebrations vying with hard pews, high holidays, and fowl suppers in church basements. Anyone who let church doings get ahead of seeding and harvesting crops while the weather held wasn’t pious, they were nuts. In many ways, it was tougher being new to the community than it was to be religiously lax. We moved a lot in my first few years, work to supplement the family farm a necessity. We returned, but I learned what it was to be the xenophon to my ‘age set’.

I was born a reader. Or nurtured as one. Or both. Reading alone at 3, I was free to ferret out things people presumed beyond me by 4. This is likely where I was fatally corrupted. I had access to dusty ‘old time’ books. Classics of literature, opera, fables, etc. Including bible stories. All illustrated in Gilded Age glory. My brain had nothing to stop it from categorizing the bible magic with the rest of the magical tales. I knew the stories before I ever reached Sunday school. About the same age, my cowboy uncles explained Santa Claus as anthropomorphization for the spirit of gift giving, so there was something to ‘believe’ in=the generosity of people (they even played a recording of ‘yes, virginia’ to me). Note to the wise: do not attempt to explain concepts like this to other kids determined to find things wrong with you.

I was born at the end of the Baby Boom(insert arguments of the date range here). Conformity to prevailing society was being challenged via the increasing communicative presence of tv, while the pace of change lurched out of a century’s slumber and ‘just so’ values. Universal health care was fought for on my home ground and then was enacted federally, with ‘good works’ pastors shoulder to shoulder with unionists, farmers and the poor against…well, look to the reactionary freemarketers and priests yelling now. It hasn’t changed.

I was born inquisitive and developed outlier to community norms. I was leapfrogged grades ahead in our small Elementary because they didn’t know what else to do with me. I had Star Trek and SF, and went through every shelf of books in the small school libraries. I won art and speech competitions. I was considered creepily smart and creepily psychic, which confused me because people told me everything I knew about them(muchmuch later, I learned this is how cold reading works) When Sunday school, the gateway drug, turned to hard core catechism, I learned Sundays now gave me the same sick feeling the rest of the school week did. It was taught by a teacher from school. It wasn’t eternal comfort, it was more ‘you’re not of the body shut-up-because’ censure. Grape juice and bread cubes wasn’t worth it. I stopped going. By virtue of the times, my locale and family stress, I wasn’t forced back.

I was yet another raised by cats. Ostracized from my own species, my feline farm troop raised tail flags and hiked with me into the back forty in all seasons, day and night, teaching me there was more to the world than a homo sapiens sapiens pov.

I was a stargazer. Not a Carl Sagan. Just a prairie kid who, at the age of 5, discovered laying back in a snowbank made for the greatest show not on earth. The harmony of happiness was this; cloudless summer night on the high plains, no artificial sound, no artificial light, a comfortable lay-down, blanketed in a choir of purr, the night countryside going about its business and the sky going about its.

I was still tempted. I was an informal historian, activist and naturalist, but adolescence heightens ostracization from others close in age. Rural communities have few socializing outlets for youth, fewer not run by churches. I was lured into recruitment events put on by the local evangelical baptist college. I witnessed ‘talking in tongues’ and ‘laying on of hands’ and making ‘circles of prayer against demons. I intellectually wanted to believe, to belong to the social majority but I comprehended the love bombing and other trick techniques. I doubted myself enough to think there must be something to it because the collegians and other kids were sincerely swept up in it. I was frustrated because I had no idea how someone let go of wariness. I couldn’t fake it like a few were obviously doing to gain attention.

One winter night, I ended up overcome and went outside to keep my tears to myself. Sensing blood in the water, one of the outreachers followed me. The trigger point? An old friend of mine had died, ancient in years for a farm cat. My comforter didn’t know that, saying the dead were in heaven. I asked about cats. The two statements weren’t quite connected.

And then, in all sincerity, the outreacher said the fatal words. Cats don’t go to heaven. Cats and other animals don’t have souls. Only people have souls. I was looking up at a cloudless, still, northern night sky.

‘Click’. No yearning, no guilt, no pain. Vanished. Done now. Unexamined cruelty being the key, there was nothing beyond the door I needed or was being forced to profess. I was 15. No longing has ever re-emerged, no matter what faith I’ve examined.

Mind, there was this evil (medieval=evil gettit? Which makes Professor PZ’s studies Prime evil) cult I apparently joined years later, but that’s another story, written in cramped handwriting for several doublesided pages from one parental unit to another.

PS:  It’s only recently that other members of my family have been comfortable admitting to atheism, and then, only to people they know and trust.

CuervodeCuero
Canada

Comments

  1. chigau (違わない) says

    “Cats don’t go to heaven” was one of my early steps away from theism.
    Thanks for your story.

  2. kemist, Dark Lord of the Sith says

    ‘Click’. No yearning, no guilt, no pain. Vanished. Done now. Unexamined cruelty being the key, there was nothing beyond the door I needed or was being forced to profess.

    This happens so often I wonder if those who want to convert others even realize their mistake.

    A typical exemple:

    My best friend, then 8 years old, was attending to an xian boarding school in India as her mom was dying from cancer. As she was obviously perturbed by being so far away from her dying mother, a nun approaches her with the suggestion that she converts to xianity in the hope that her mom be miraculously cured. Even at eight, she knew that a cure was impossible at that point, and said so to the nun. The nun then says then that she ought to convert her mom, since, being an Hindu, she wouldn’t go to haven. That her mom was a very generous and selfless person who’d given her time and money to help the poor of Calcutta didn’t matter.

    My friend stopped talking to that nun, and doing anything related with xianity, like mass, from that day forward. She’d been very friendly with the nun, and open to the religion, before that incident.

  3. chigau (違わない) says

    kemist
    wow
    It takes a very special kind of sadist to tell an 8-year-old that her dying mother is going to hell.

  4. TriffidPruner says

    ” I comprehended the love bombing and other trick techniques…”

    Love bombing??

  5. Old At Heart says

    Triffid #4:
    Yeah, love bombing, like, you know, you get the six Elements of Harmony together and channel their magic to blast away the evil monster…

    Or that might be the wrong Love Bomb. Instead, it could be the “everyone cares for you! (if you join our cult)!” type of constant mantra, attempting to evoke a false feeling of belonging quickly in people when normally it would take much longer and more effort.

  6. tbp1 says

    Nothing to comment, really, except to note that the author’s nom de plume translates as “leather crow.” Very cool.

  7. unclefrogy says

    I have often thought that if the “Devil” was real it would be he that created religion in order to give a rational and a justification for peoples needless wanton cruelty and judgmental superior attitude towards others. Then of course there is no devil either!
    I like these stories they point out the differences between people facing question what is real and those just trying to control others for no good reason.

    uncle frogy

  8. says

    Mine was dogs, at 15 also. I didn’t even have a dog then, but I disliked the notion of a god that did not cherish puppies. Puppies are the shit.

  9. says

    Reminds me of that Twilight Zone episode. Can’t remember the specifics, but an old man and his dog died together and came to a gate, where the “bouncer” told the old man the dog would have to stay outside. I think Rod Serling’s speech at the end alluded that the old man had narrowly escaped walking into hell, but you’d have to think it made some religious people in the 60’s question whether *their* particular heaven allowed dogs.

  10. kemist, Dark Lord of the Sith says

    @ chigau

    Unfortunately this level of sadism is quite banal for catholics – my friend (who died not long ago from cancer herself) went to a catholic boarding school.

    I was raised a catholic, and this kind of thing was ubiquitous. It is calculated to induce children into proselytizing the adults close to them.

    It’s something to think about when approached by children who proselytize alone or in company of adults: most of them have been subjected to this kind of mental torture. For “their own good”. By parents who love them.

    The fortunate thing is that sometimes it backfires.

  11. chigau (違わない) says

    kemist
    I was a RC as a child, too.
    But never experienced anything like a call to proselytize.
    Mostly I recall being really, really smug.

  12. kosk11348 says

    For those wondering, Love bombing:

    Love bombing is a tactic often employed by cults (or any religious, political or other group of like-minded individuals who may not have a mainstream belief system) as a way of luring prospective members. Current members typically “love bomb” potential or desired new recruits by showering them with affection, praise, and offers of friendship. Cult awareness experts warn that this seemingly kind and welcoming practice is often the first step in a mind control (“brainwashing”) process that leads to religious conversion or involvement with a group that may be harmful to its membership or to society. While most people can discern such cynical ploys from honest offers of fellowship, anyone caught at a vulnerable time in his or her life (following a divorce, death, loss of job or any major life change) or suffering from insecurities could fall under the spell of a charismatic leader and the true believers who inevitably surround such a person.

  13. David Marjanović says

    It takes a very special kind of sadist to tell an 8-year-old that her dying mother is going to hell.

    No sadism at all is necessary. All you need is a false and absolute premise.

    Imagine you believed that everyone went to hell unless properly Christian – absolute, no further exceptions. Suppose you have enough empathy to not want that anyone goes to hell. Wouldn’t you do everything you could to save people from hell? Wouldn’t you ask an 8-year-old to pretty please convert their dying mother so she doesn’t go to hell?

    You don’t even need to believe that you will be rewarded. All you need to believe is that you can save someone else from infinite suffering. Pure selflessness, pure love, Incorruptible Pure Pureness, can lead to horrible things if applied to logical deductions from false premises.

    I was a RC as a child, too.
    But never experienced anything like a call to proselytize.

    Well, neither did I, probably because almost everyone around me was a Catholic already! Being a Catholic and never talking about it (except by showing up in church, at the most) was the default where I grew up.