Dan Bacon is oblivious. He’s written this longish article explaining how to get a woman to stop what she is doing and pay attention to a man, and never once stops to think about what the woman might want. He seems to think that if he’s cute and ingratiating enough, someone will like to be interrupted.
I have a shorter article explaining How to Talk to a Woman Who is Wearing Headphones, and here it is.
That’s all. Have some respect and understand that other people aren’t necessarily all about you, you narcissistic dork.
That article gives a lot of suggestions about how to annoy women under the pretext of trying to have sex with them. Here’s what you’re supposed to do when you see a woman with headphones on.
1. Stand in front of her (with 1 to 1.5 meters between you).
2. Have a relaxed, easy-going smile.
3. Is she hasn’t already looked up at you, simply get her attention with a wave of your hand. Wave your hand in her direct line of vision so she can’t ignore it.
4. When she looks at you, smile and point to her headphones and say, “Take off your headphones for a minute” and pretend to be taking headphones off your head, so she fully understands.
If she doesn’t understand (most women will), simply gesture that you want to talk to her by briefly pointing back and forth from you to her and say, “I want to talk to you for a minute.”
Jesus. Imagine that you’re out for a walk, listening to music (something I do every day), and some guy comes up to interrupt you with his mime routine. It better be something important to warrant that kind of intrusiveness. But no; Dan Bacon gives you a script for what you’re supposed to say.
You: [Smile in a friendly, confident manner] :) Hey – I know it’s not normal for people to talk to someone with headphones in, but I was walking along and saw you and thought – wow, she’s a cutie, I have to say hi. I’m Dan, what’s your name?
Woman: [Usually flattered by the compliment and impressed by your confidence to approach her like that] Jessica.
You: [Add in some humor] Cool…nice to meet you Jessica. I don’t normally talk to girls with headphones, but your big green headphones were just calling out to me.
Woman: [Most likely laughing, smiling and enjoying the interaction].
You: [Let her know that you have something to do/somewhere to go, so she understands that you’re not going to stand there talking to her for 30 minutes] Anyway, so I’m just out doing a bit of shopping at the moment. I’m on my way to a store up the street. How’s your day going so far?
Then keep the conversation going, get her phone number or transition to her joining you for a coffee or juice. Or, if the vibe between you is great and she seems like she has free time, sit down with her and have a chat for a while before getting her phone number and leaving.
This is a person who has zero empathy for the person he has just selfishly interrupted; he seems to totally lack a theory of mind. But he thinks he is a master of feminine psychology.
There are videos at that link. Don’t watch them unless you want to lose all faith in humanity.