Officially Divorced

At 10:10 AM CST, the honorable judge in the county of Dakota, Minnesota, ended my 17-year marriage. I am now officially divorced.

I cheered. It was the best moment of my life, by far. Well…not the best moment. I shared some amazing ones with my ex, but marriage had always been a struggle, and I was completely and utterly miserable throughout, something I didn’t realize until the waning years. The utter peace and relaxation that I now have, after being away from her for over a year, is revealing.

The last few days, my body has decided that I needed to detox from the stress of the divorce process. I ended up sleeping away the entire day on Sunday.

Here’s to new heights and new beginnings.


  1. Mano Singham says

    Whenever I meet someone and they tell me that they are divorced or divorcing, I feel in a bit of a quandary. Should I commiserate with them because they may be sad that their marriage has gone sour? Or should I feel glad for them because they feel better for getting out of a bad marriage that was causing them unhappiness? So I tend to tread water until i can figure out what best to say.

    But in your case, your second paragraph made it easy.

    So congratulations!

  2. sonofrojblake says

    Welcome to the rest of your life. I’ve never been divorced, but a decade and a half ago I was well out of a longish (eight years) toxic relationship, and the sense of release is like nothing else. Good luck.

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