Nearly Divorced

The decree is signed and before a judge. He has promised to sign it next week.

Thus ends over a year of absolute hell. I have become a new person, through this journey, and am much happier now than I have been in the last 18 years. Funny how perspective changes when you’re finally alone and see your past life from the outside.

I will be writing again, as everything calms down and my routine comes into view. I won’t be saying much about the specifics of the woman I divorced, though, because I want her to succeed in life, as the mother of my six children, and my lover for 18 years. I loved that woman with everything I knew about love, which I now consider to be a faulty understanding.

I won’t even pretend to know what love is, but I now know what it isn’t.

Love you all. Thanks for reading and having the patience of a sloth who just found a pool of perpetually warm mud.

I. C.


  1. Jeffrey Amos Heavener says

    I’m very sorry to hear about this. You may or may not recognize my name; we were internet acquaintances until you dropped off facebook. I went looking for an old post of yours and wound up here.

    I’m, in fact, currently divorcing too. If you want to talk through it with a sympathetic former ATI-er, shoot me an email with your phone number.

    • Joe Sands says

      I do remember you! I went to friends only on Facebook and essentially removed everyone I did not recognize. I needed to protect myself during the divorce process.

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