Miscellaneous Wedding Thoughts

I’ve got a lot of stuff to catch up on (including real work), but I wanted to take a few minutes to post some thoughts about our wedding.

First: I win.

I married a wonderful, smart, beautiful, sexy, crafty, thrifty, loving person who makes every day better. I’m happier when she’s happy. I’m sadder when she’s sad. We love doing stuff together. If you’re lucky enough to find a person like that – congratulations.

There’s a lot of talk about soul-mates and eternities at weddings, but not at ours. We’ve got a relationship built on love, honesty and reality. We’re both convinced that we’ve got exactly one life – and we’ve chosen to spend as much of it as possible with the person who makes that life better.

Second: Thank you!

We were overwhelmed by the number of people who showed up (we actually had to start setting up overflow tables). Jen Peeples has often said that “you’re family if you act like family” – and I whole-heartedly agree. While most of the guests weren’t blood-relatives, most of the guests felt like family that night and many of them, like Jen, are very definitely family to us. We were thrilled to see the smiling supportive faces of people we love and we’re grateful for their encouragement and generosity. Many drove or flew in from out-of-town and they came bearing gifts and smiles and hugs.

We’ll be sending out “Thank You” cards in the coming week, but it needs to be said clearly and publicly: we are overwhelmed and overjoyed and all of you, right down to every “Congratulations!” message on Facebook helped make this day one we’ll never forget.

I’ve got to get back to work now…but thank you all. We’re gradually getting back to ‘normal’ life – which pretty much means that everything is great! (And that you’ll get a TV show this Sunday…)



  1. Nurse Ingrid says

    I was so sorry that Greta and I couldn’t make it. You both look so happy in the pictures I have seen so far. I love to see my fellow atheists finding new, secular ways to celebrate important life events. May you have many wonderful years together!

  2. mauricio says

    I have a question, what are your new names?

    Did you Matt or Beth changed names? or you keep it without any changes?

  3. Nurse Ingrid says

    I thought a few of those words sounded familiar… we were honored to share them with you. And please do come out this way when you can.

  4. sc_4992272d637e20eb4d75edf9ea5f7576 says

    Congratulations Matt & Beth. I’ve been scouring the web and haven’t been able to find out what AronRa’s credentials for performing weddings are. He’s not a Justiceof the Peace, is he? Universalist-Unitarian? Dying to know how you become an atheist “minister” in Texas.
    – ErsaMajor

  5. Astrid_H says

    Congratulations to both of you. May you enjoy the years ahead and be stronger for facing them together!
    (BTW, AronRa looked fantastic in his minister get-up.)

  6. Aquaria says

    Good call!

    I know it saved us, if not a lot of money, then at least hours upon hours of time compared to the last time I’d married and had to run the gauntlet of updating the staggering array of agencies and businesses who needed my correct name. I don’t think most people realize just how many people have our names out there, and any change can take scores of hours to notify, often repeatedly.

    The only person who doesn’t call me by my current last name? MY MOTHER. But this is the same person who can never get anyone’s address straight, and then she’s shocked–shocked, I tell you!–when the mail she mangled the street address and zip code on doesn’t get anywhere in a timely manner. Oh–and maybe it would help the USPS figure out where it needs to go faster IF YOU”D USE MY CORRECT LAST NAME!

    Sorry. I’ve gotten into this argument at least twice a year with her for 14 years now. You’d think by now she’d have caught on.