TNET 42: Clamp With Style

I would not be able to invest this much effort into a tool, but it is nice to see that someone does.

Open thread, talk whatever you want, avoid being the exit end of a digestive tract.

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  1. says

    Gorgeous. Not anything Id be using to work with…

    Folks, I’m at my wits’ end on what to do with my BFF. Now, you might say that my wits’ end is not that long anyway, but I really have no clue. I told you before, she’s single, the first lockdown was hard for her, and we’re sliding into localish lockdownish territory again. My whole state is in “red (more than 50 new infections for 100.000 inhabitants within 7 days). Being a small state, some local clusters will do that. In my county it was one large funeral, which shouldn’t have been allowed, but was perfectly legal, and now we cannot celebrate the little one’s birthday because 25 km away lots of people caught Corona. That isn’t fair, and I’m angry as well, at the politicians who allowed and encouraged that behaviour, at the people who then thought it was a really good idea to hold such a large funeral, and at the politicians again who now drastically limit our private lives while we can still go to a pubs and restaurants and indoor concerts. I get that. But she? She is now at the level where she thinks that all measures were and are useless, because the numbers just dwindled with the good weather and now rise with the bad weather. Now, while the weather does play a role, it does not explain why countries much more to the south of us started to see a huge increase in cases much earlier, nor why Germany is still doing relatively well. but what am I telling you, you are sensible people.
    She just wants this all to be over. Somebody to have a solution. I’m glad she’s too smart to turn a Covidiot, but she’s really losing it. She no longer even hears what people are saying. Yesterday we met in our friends’ garden, had a lovely (though cold) afternoon with baked potatoes, blankets and a long walk and of course we talked about what’s happening and how this will affect our friend group and we said that if the hard restrictions are in place at New Year’s Eve (No more than 10 people from maximum 2 households), we’ll just split: Family A and B are parents and daughter plus family, so they can celebrate together, and she comes to our place and we celebrate together.
    At that point she broke out in tears, asking us if we realised that this would mean that she’d be alone at Christmas and New Year’s Eve? Like, we hadn’t just said the exact opposite? We repeated that she’s always welcome. She can move in with us, something we already offered during the first lockdown, only then she wouldn’t come because she was afraid of killing us all with Covid… But she’s so lost in her misery that she won’t even do the things that would help her.

  2. Ice Swimmer says

    Giliell @ 4

    The only way I can see her making sense would be that she doesn’t want to be alone in Xmas and New Year’s Eve but doesn’t want to celebrate them in the family way, but even that is a stretch. I wish I knew a way to pull her out of the darkness, if time and the amounts and kinds of socialization that are possible now aren’t sufficient, but I don’t, really.

    While it’s been claimed that online/teleconferencing doesn’t provide the kind of reinforcement of mental well-being that face-to-face sessions do, I feel that the job hunting course (that the unemployment office offered me) with online group sessions made me feel better, people were nice and I felt better about myself. Also, some other online “coffee break” sessions have been nice.

  3. lumipuna says

    How lucky it is when you arrive at the dentist’s office five minutes late, and they call you in ten minutes late.

    And you can afford private dental care in the first place (reportedly, there’s a huge covid-related backlog of undone dental work in Finland, mainly from last spring, and it seems to be mainly an issue in public dental care for some reason).

    And then the dentist finds a deep cavity in a worn-out tooth that was going to be removed anyway.

    I naturally lack three of the usual 16 adult teeth in my upper jaw. One is a missing molar, two are missing incisors. One of my upper jaw baby molars refused to shed, so it was removed in my late teens to help the underlying adult tooth come out. Another baby molar was simply sitting in a gap, with nothing to push it out. Recently, it had been badly worn out, and now I finally had it removed. It was an easy operation, as far as tooth removal goes.

    I guess now I’m finally dentally adult. Tooth fairy charged me just short of 100 euro for the removal and roughly same amount for the preceding examination.

  4. says

    Ice Swimmer
    Yeah, online face to face interactions are the one thing we can add to our list. We’re also planning spontaneous open air get togethers in parks and such. Nothing in the Covid regulations OR good common sense says we cannot just go for a walk together and each of us brings a thermos. I also finally gave in and asked my brother in law for advice, breaking all “you’ve got a therapist in your family, what do you do now” etiquette. We’ll just drop Covid as a topic, try to do as many things together as possible and see where it goes.

    I was lucky to get my major dental work done over summer. It was scheduled for April and the it got cancelled and eating while missing a middle molar on either die was no fun.
    The little one needed to have two milk teeth removed as well. The adult teeth did break through, but behind the milk teeth. I always called her my little shark, whose teeth grow in rows, but it was no use. She’s got braces as well, and I’m sorry for the day she’ll have to have some teeth removed to make space.

  5. lumipuna says

    Giliell -- You mean you had both sides of the mouth in some emergency dental condition, and difficulty accessing a dentist? I’m sorry, that sounds scary in addition to uncomfortable.

  6. says

    Oh no, it wasn’t an emergency. It was partly my fault. Some years ago I had a molar removed on my left side, and I never got around to having it replaced. It wasn’t even the money, it was my intense dislike of dentists and some mild trauma from my wisdom tooth removal. So I had resorted to mostly chewing on b by right. There I had an old crown. Occasionally that crown would fall out, always taking a bit of the tooth with it. The dentist would reattach it, reminding me that I needed to get that shit fixed so indeed at the start of the year I started the process: filling out the application form for my health insurance, choosing my variety, waiting for the OK from my health insurance, getting their OK, getting an appointment. About three weeks before the appointment the old crown finally gave up the ghost. But three weeks was OK. But then Covid came and all major dental work was postponed for several months. I wasn’t in pain, but I had quite a hard time eating shit that requires actual chewing.

  7. lumipuna says

    OK, thanks for clarification.

    Speaking of dental procrastination, I was supposed to have a 2-year checkup about exactly one year ago, but forgot and maybe just felt too lazy during the winter months. Then, since covid and the stories of clogged dentistry services, I’d still be delaying if the tooth hadn’t started feeling slightly sore.

  8. Jazzlet says

    Can you make it clear you are expecting her for the holidays by asking things of her as well as by saying she should come to you? So maybe discuss what she might contribute to the feasts or whatever, so she knows you are counting on her presence in a more visceral way than just (not) hearing the invite. I don’t know if she’d think you were just exploiting her … I hope the outdoor get togethers help.

    Rather to my amazement I have not only had a telephone appointment with the consultant about the growing lump on my left ring finger, but I now have an MRI appointment for it to be scanned in detail. The consultant is pretty sure he knows what it is, but the ultrasound I had before COVID wasn’t sufficiently informative, and the lump has grown more since them as well as both becoming more painful, and affecting the sense of touch above it on about a third of my finger. He thinks it is a giant cell tumour ie not malignant, but I think isn’t sure whether to leave it or to try to remove it, apparently they tend to grow back so removal may be pointless.

    We were bad and went away for a long weekend with friends, and I am glad we did, it was so good seeing them. It was wonderful cooking for each other and eating each others meals, something we haven’t been able to do all summer. Jake was thrilled to be with us all together and loved having other people to throw sticks for him, he wasn’t so impressed with them collecting wood to burn!

    But then we came back to the shitstorm of the way the Governemnt are trying to make the bad deal they are giving Greater Manchester (Labour) Mayor Andy Burnham’s fault when even previously uber-loyalists like my Conservative MP said attempting to get the Governmeent to listen was “like talking to a brick wall”, and all of his local colleagues agree. The way they “negotiated” then said “Yah boo we’re not even going to give you what we offered” is bad enough, but what the hell do they thinkk anyone like the EU or anyone we are trying to do trade deals will take from that? Especially on top of their admitted willingness to break international law when they think it’s “necessary”. Fucking idiots the lot of them.

  9. StevoR says

    The Aussie TV show ‘Planet America’ just had a great interview w Mary Trump. Sadly not finding it or the extended version of it that was promised online (esp youtube) yet.

    Meanwhile, in case anyone was wondering and apparently this idea has been doing the rounds, no, the giant meteor* isn’t going to save it for 2020. Phil Plait has a good debunking here :

    on the not-so-new idea of an asteroid hitting before the USA’s election specifically 2018 VP1 which is firstly, too small to actually do more than produce a dramatic lightshow and secondly, not going to hit Earth anyhow merely fly reasonably close to it..

    We do however have the Orionid metor shower visible for pre-dawn skies like 4 am -- 5 am here :

    and a few incl some double asteroid near fly pasts of our planet to look forward to as well :

    and this close pass does give us some opportunities to do some interesting science potentially so there’s those.

  10. says

    I voted. Yesterday I did the ballot research and filled out the ballot, this morning I tried to take it to the dropbox at City Hall. Which turned out to be harder than expected; the whole lane including the loop to access the box was blocked for an unspecified “special event”. But Paul found a place to wait and I walked back.

    So I voted. If I can get Kitty to do her ballot before Saturday, I’ll take hers to the box on Saturday. Emily has mailed hers from Scotland. Paul’s planning to vote in person once early voting starts on the 30th. I think he’s out of his mind because polling places will be mask-optional in California, but I’m just a silly old woman, what do I know.

  11. StevoR says

    My nightmare scenario for the USA’s election and, through its consequences and influences and impacts, the rest of our world.
    Trump cheats his way into staying in power despite another actual election loss.

    I fear Trump voters will all vote on the election day and intimidate (& worse?) the other non-Trump voters trying to vote then. That they’ll then claim “victory” even when -- because of all the many more Biden voters voting early -- they’ve actually lost in a landslide then try to stop the count and throw out or ignore or suppress -- or all three -- the Biden majority. That with a packed Supreme Court and all the Repub governors and officials, they”ll rig it so Trump can stay in power by foul means.

    Because he sure cannot win if the election is free and fair.

    But will it be? We’ll see. I fear this could get very messy and ugly very fast indeed and, yes, even potentially end in Civil War.
    I hope not. I fear so.

  12. says

    Yeah, i think this is the last chance for the USA for many, many years. I really can’t do with the people who are “but Biden…”. I don’t think I know any US leftist who is “Yay, Biden”, but having the choice between some milquetoast classic (neo)liberal and a fully fledged fascist, the right thing to do should be as obvious as the mask in your face. Oh, wait…

    Family life in Covid times.
    I’m doing the shopping for my parents again.
    My mum sends me a shopping list via WhatsApp.
    I dutifully buy everything on the list.
    My flip-phone dad leaves a message on my answering machine where the pizza is, that was not on the shopping list…

    Good for you and Emily. I don’t understand Paul either…

  13. says

    Giliell, all the hugs. I did a lot of shopping for my mum after my dad died -- she made up cutesy-poo names for things and I had to guess what she meant. Also, there was always at least one very important thing she didn’t put on the list, but I still should’ve known she needed it.

    As for Paul, well, he’s the family extrovert. He loves going to crowded places and people-watching and talking to random strangers he’s in line with. Kitty gave me her sealed ballot; I’ll drop it off when I go out tomorrow.

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