Autostraddle, an online news and culture magazine for queer women, recently solicited submissions by trans women on topics relevant to transness and queerdom. Today, I’m overjoyed to announce that they’ve published their first selection: my story of transitioning and falling in love with Heather. It’s a photo-essay-ish inside look at how I came to understand …
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Mar 02 2013
Guess who just got engaged?
For those of you who don’t know, my partner Heather and I have been together for almost two years now. It’s been a long and amazing and awesome journey so far, and last night, she decided to pop the question! It was just about the sweetest thing ever, and we agreed to upgrade from partners …
Jan 16 2013
From the other side
The person who figured out I was trans long before I did – over a year prior – has now offered her take on this rather unusual event. It provides a very complete picture of everything that went on, like our own personal Argument Without End. If you’ve ever wanted a genuine inside look at …
Jan 12 2013
Two years later: Notes from the future
First Rule: Never out someone to him/herself. You may not think this is possible, but it is. -A Straight Person’s Guide To Gay Etiquette After I started transitioning physically and discovered how well it worked for me, I often found myself wishing that I had started much sooner. Now that I knew it was so …
Jan 03 2013
You made it happen!
Last year, when I asked my readers for assistance with the legal and medical expenses associated with transitioning, you all came through for me with a generosity beyond anything I had expected. And today, I’m happy to say that thanks to your kindness and support, one major obstacle is finally out of the way. Six …
Dec 31 2012
2012: end-of-year review
2012 has been a pretty amazing year. Every year is interesting and full of stuff that happened, but this one was special in a lot of ways. Barack Obama was elected for the second time, we actually won in popular votes on marriage equality for the first time ever, and a bunch of people were …
Dec 28 2012
Well, don’t hold back or anything
“You will have the chance to prove that your soul truly belongs in hell.” – Lucifer, Constantine You can learn a lot about something by applying pressure to it. You get to see where its weakest points are, and where the first cracks form. You can find out what’s underneath it, what’s inside it all …
Dec 26 2012
It’s okay now
I conferred with my family at length today about whether to come out to my grandpa. It wasn’t encouraging. They told me there was no way they saw this ending well. They told me it would cause a rift. They told me I was putting them in a difficult position. And yet everyone here told …
Dec 23 2012
The last closet: Why I won’t be home for Christmas
“Just don’t tell grandpa.” It’s been my family’s constant refrain throughout the entirety of my out, public queerdom. It should be easy enough, right? We just… won’t tell him. But no matter how well you keep it, a secret won’t stay contained. It seeps from the black box where we tried to censor it out …
Dec 08 2012
Revising the self III: History, cistory
Zinnia hasn’t appeared in the top 1,000 American names for the past century. This makes it an excellent and recognizable “brand”, but for me, transitioning involved finding a name that blended in, didn’t draw the wrong kind of attention, and was appropriate for my age. – Revising the self: The names we use How do …






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