Women-haters beat their wives. Patriarchal culture and customs allow wife beating. Almost all religions, monotheistic or polytheistic, advise women to be submissive.
In Muslim countries wife beating manuals have been always selling well. But recently an ordinary wife beating manual, ”A Gift For Muslim Couple” caught the attention of media because it was selling in Canada, where domestic violence is considered a crime.
It is a manual to control, restrain, scold, and beat wives into submission to create a happy, healthy, and satisfying marriage; a marriage to last a lifetime.The book says, research has shown men are looking for successful methods to achieve a happy satisfying life long marriage. Absolute control of and submission by their wives is the key.
‘There are many lessons in this book–
- The necessity “to restrain the wife with strength or even to threaten her.”
- “How the husband should treat the wife with kindness and love, even if she tends to be stupid and slow sometimes.”
- The absolute rights of the husband, which include his wife’s inability to leave “his house without his permission,” and that his wife must “fulfill his desires” and “not allow herself to be untidy … but should beautify herself for him. (‘She cannot leave the husband’s house without his permission./She should not refuse when he calls her for intercourse /She should not call him by his first name when calling him.’ page 45)
- How a husband should scold her, to use harsh words, “beat by hand or stick,” withhold money from her or “pull her by the ears,” but should “refrain from beating her excessively.”
People who demand banning of the books that criticize religion do not say a word against the book that advises men to beat their disobedient wives. The book advocates domestic violence in order to attain a life long happy marriage.
The book was a big seller in North America. Canada talks about the book.
Moderate Muslims are angry. They condemn the book for inciting violence against women. They even demand ban on the book.
The book is 100 years old. Maulavi Ashraf Ali Thanvi, the author of the book died in 1943. I like old books about prophets and religions written by early biographers and scholars. They did not try to whitewash the anti women or the anti science parts of religious scriptures or did not try to hide prophet’s dirty linen under the carpet. Today’s scholars or religious apologists interpret the ‘holy texts’ as if the author of the texts is a rational, modern,scientific and humane. They try hard to make god sounds like an advocate for equality and justice rather than an ignorant and misogynist. They do it because in the 21st century it is not politically correct to treat women as inferior beings or slaves. Religion and superstition remain where they were, only the tips and tricks for making people fool have been changing over time.
If people who believe in equality between men and women think that ”A gift for Muslim couple’ is 100 years old and it is out of time and out of place and it should be banned, then what about the book which is 1400 years old and which also asks men to beat their disobedient wives (Surah Nisa 4.34) and incite violence against women! Anybody thought of banning the Quran as well as other misogynistic religious scriptures?
I am against banning books. I want people to learn what really the religious scriptures say, how barbaric, inhuman, hateful and misogynistic those texts are! In the meantime let’s try to prevent the apologists of religion from whitewashing religion’s justification for domestic abuse and encourage people to have a scientific outlook.