This should not be a surprise


Any other fans of the facebook page, “I fucking love science”“? Probably. There’s over 4 million of us, there must be a little overlap.

The author of that website casually ‘revealed’ her identity on twitter recently (in quotes, because she hadn’t hidden it and didn’t consider it a major issue), when a whole bunch of her fans suddenly noticed…hey, she’s a woman!

Elise Andrew, an English blogger living in Canada, posted a link promoting her Twitter feed on her I Fucking Love Science Facebook page, which has more than 4.2m fans.

"I got Twitter! I figured it’s about time I started exploring other social media. If you’re on there, can you Tweet me some science people worth following?" Andrew said.

The post provoked an onslaught of comments discussing her gender and looks. "F.ck me! This is a babe ?!!" wrote commenter Can Durace. "holy hell, youre a HOTTIE!" wrote Douglas Pistone Linares.

Lou Forbes said: "you mean you’re a girl, AND you’re beautiful? wow, i just liked science a lil bit more today ^^"

You know, where I work (in Science!) well more than half the students are women, and with our recent new hire, more than half the biology faculty are women. Heck, a majority of the computer science faculty are women. We picked every single one of them on the basis of brains and talent, and that’s what deserves notability, which is also the case of Elise Andrew.

Why should anyone be surprised when a science enthusiastic turns out to be a woman? Those comments say a lot about the biases of the commenters, that they assume it would be unusual for a scientist to be female, and that somehow their ‘hotness’ should be a factor in the appreciation of science.

Comments

  1. Brandon says

    If I’m trying to find a bright side, it’s that this exposes a lot of people to the “new face of science”, wherein scientists aren’t just old white men in labcoats with crazy hair (although they can be that too). Yes, there’s a lot of dopily sexist comments, but hopefully on some level, people are taking in that enthusiasm for science isn’t exclusive to one type of person.

    In case it’s not clear, I’m not in any way endorsing the sexism, but rather hoping that something sinks in with some of the commenters on some level.

  2. says

    Yeah, I think I sorta knew all along a woman was behind that Facebook page… but no big deal. There are a lot of science pages on FB run by women. I think ‘Drunken Science’ is, too (which is mostly about the science behind fermentation). A lot of women certainly post to it!

  3. harvardmba says

    “You know, where I work (in Science!) well more than half the students are women.”

    No, you don’t “work in science” P Zed. You work in the ivory tower, nice and safe from the realities the rest of us face daily. You know, like accountability.

  4. says

    I find myself wondering — curmudgeon that I am with low expectations of my fellow humans — how many of those 4.2 million fans will unlike the page over this. Because, you know, she’s obviously been lying when she shared out all those fantastic pictures that everyone thought at the time were awesome and amazing.

    (I’ve been a fan for a while, and have every intention of staying: I still think those posts and pcitures are awesome and amazing and look forward to many more.)

  5. blf says

    [W]ith our recent new hire, more than half the biology faculty are women.

    Ah, so instead of poopyhead we should now call you cootie-oppressed? (Cootietrod?)

  6. seitanist says

    Point well taken, and I appreciate your passion on valuing all people equally. Regarding: “and that somehow their ‘hotness’ should be a factor in the appreciation of science”: I’m sort of thinking that the poster meant that in a positive way, as sort of a joke. Biases are bad, but Ms Andrew is doing us all a favor by helping to break down those stereotypes, and presumably it’s working. And I’m inclined to cut this poster some slack.

  7. w00dview says

    harvardmba,

    What exactly are you upset with PZ about? What actions is PZ avoiding accountability for? This just seems to come out of nowhere.

  8. Beatrice (looking for a happy thought) says

    seitanist,

    Biases are bad and there’s no but there.
    Cutting this guy some slack isn’t helping in breaking them.

  9. Lyle says

    Heck, a majority of the computer science faculty are women.

    I just looked at the faculty directory for my computer science department, and there are three women. Out of 25 full-time and adjunct faculty… only three are women. That’s not at all surprising to me, but it’s more than a little disappointing.

    The More You Know…

  10. a_ray_in_dilbert_space says

    Haaahvaaaad MBA is a driveby assclown. He won’t have the guts to reply to anyone. Can you imagine taking pride in the same degree from the same institution as George W. Bush?

  11. glodson says

    Oh just goddamnit.

    Also…

    Point well taken, and I appreciate your passion on valuing all people equally. Regarding: “and that somehow their ‘hotness’ should be a factor in the appreciation of science”: I’m sort of thinking that the poster meant that in a positive way, as sort of a joke. Biases are bad, but Ms Andrew is doing us all a favor by helping to break down those stereotypes, and presumably it’s working. And I’m inclined to cut this poster some slack.

    Biases are bad and Ms Andrew isn’t the problem. So there’s no need for a but…. Why do you assume it is a joke? A joke on what? Making fun of the sexist attitudes? Doubt that.

    It seems this guy wanted to be cute and flirty, and it comes off as a complete asshat.

    She had a simple request, and looked to expand her social media exposure. And the response? Assholes. Biases are bad, and these people acted like brain-dead sexist jackasses.

  12. PatrickG says

    I was going to make a snarky comment… but after harvardmba’s display there really isn’t a sarcasm tag big enough to make it work.

    Sweet Jesus on a Cracker, what a loon.

  13. carlie says

    There also people in the world who think women (nice ones, at least), don’t fucking swear.

  14. says

    I haven’t looked at the entire faculty at my university where I just started my BSc to see the gender ratio, but I can certainly say the students are definitely more women than men, at least in the subjects I’m doing (though I’ve heard there’s something like 2 females in the geology class total)

  15. Asher Kay says

    I’m sort of thinking that the poster meant that in a positive way, as sort of a joke.

    Reminds me of, “but it’s a compliment!” (a response she got as well on Twitter when she pointed out the focus on her appearance).

    But the desire to cut some slack means you can see how it’s wrong.

  16. IslandBrewer says

    harvardmba, I agree. PZ is one of them cultural elites who are out of touch with the common little peoples, like Mitt Romney, Herman Cain, the Koch brother, and those poor poor investment bankers. *wipes tear from monocle with a peasant*

    Back on topic, wow, the 50% of the population on THAT side of the line can do things that the 50% of the population on THIS side of the line can do? That unpossible! It’s almost as if my penis doesn’t actually help me do any science!

    /douchebag

  17. thumper1990 says

    Shorter HarvardMBA:

    “WaaaaaaAAAAAHHH! I don’t like PZ! Pay attention to meeeeeeeeeee!!11eleventy11!!!”

  18. Marcus Hill (mysterious and nefarious) says

    There’s a bizarre disjoint between the public perception of “scientists” (and engineers and mathematicians) and the reality. An exercise I do with new trainee teachers every year is to ask them to draw a picture of a maths teacher. Bear in mind that these groups are almost invariably 50 -60% female, that the people who taught them maths in school were (statistically) 60% female and the people who taught them maths in primary school were over 85% female. Despite all this, the overwhelming majority of these trainees (of both genders) will draw a man.

  19. mythbri says

    @carlie

    There also people in the world who think women (nice ones, at least), don’t fucking swear.

    *GASP!* I thought you were nice!

    ….

    For those of you who are willing to cut some slack to the responses she got that were “complimenting” Elise on her looks: I seriously doubt that you’d do the same if the responses were commenting on how “ugly” she is. To paraphrase John Cleese, “Appearance don’t enter into it.”

    As it is, her love of science has taken a back-seat to her appearance. Those “compliments” will turn sour right quick as soon as she says something that they don’t like, like say, I don’t know, “Hey, guys – your comments make me uncomfortable and I want you to stop” or something similar.

    Pretty sure I’ve seen that happen before….

  20. Caveat Imperator says

    And as more and more women become prominent in science, sooner or later one will be involved in a high profile academic scandal.
    I bet dollars to donuts that the idiots of this dog forsaken earth will argue that this will be evidence that women can’t do science.

  21. Kevin Dugan says

    I love IFLS. She keeps me rocking on what’s new and exciting, and it’s a great source for sharing how science is alive and kicking down misconceptions every day. I honestly thought, as often as IFLS posts, that it was run by a consortium. Elise is a hero!

  22. says

    What is the gender ratio for your computer science majors? At many schools, that trend has been pretty bleak in recent years.

  23. Nerd of Redhead, Dances OM Trolls says

    Harvardmbray

    No, you don’t “work in science” P Zed. You work in the ivory tower, nice and safe from the realities the rest of us face daily. You know, like accountability.

    Funny how you, who are accountable, wouldn’t last one year in his job at his pay scale. When I went from academics to private industry, my pay went up by half, and my hours dropped by a third. Which is why you sound illogical with your sniping. Why don’t you show some accountability, and stop trolling those who are actually doing something, unlike you, who can only complain. Must be a character fault.

  24. seitanist says

    I’m not sure how someone can say “Once again we see that women are only valued for their beauty.” This guy was reading the blog anyway, which obviously means he found it of value. And probably considerable value, because there’s only so much time in the day and we all chose what we read. That was when, given his attitude, we have to presume he assumed the author was a man. I will agree that saying “and your beautiful” WAS over the top. I know I wouldn’t consider saying that. This guy did show that he had a bias that a good science writer would be a guy, or in any case he clearly communicated that. I totally get that. Perhaps he shouldn’t have said anything, although to the extent that his comment draws attention to Ms Andrew’s blog and the fact that it IS written by a woman, that’s a plus towards breaking down the stereotypes. (I’m going to check it out, and I like guys so I’m guessing her appearance won’t have a lot of influence on me.) The gay rights movement discovered long ago that visibility breaks down the stereotypes. The more people come out, the more people realize that, hey, there are lots of gay and transgendered people, women, people of color, etc who happen to be great at X. Coming out is surprisingly important for progress to be made.
    I guess there’s a couple things to consider: intent and “damaging but not intended effects.” This one did the later, for sure. And obviously we should all be aware of things we do that have that effect, and I’m all in favor of striving for not doing that. This guy doesn’t strike me as an elevator rapist, though. I just think it’s best to pick your battles, and not worry about everything that gets sent out in an impulsive internet comment.
    I think this guy sort of meant to say “I read your blog, but didn’t know you were a woman. Now that I know that: cool.” He used sexist language, and that’s not appropriate. So yeah, not good, but given it’s overall rank on the scale of evil, there’s probably other battles more worthy of fighting.
    As a gay guy, I’ve heard lots of things that are inappropriate. And while it’s good to work for eliminating those in society because they do have hurtful influences on young minds, I think it is worth considering whether the person’s heart is basically in the right place and not overreact.
    On the other hand, I think PZ’s post does point out the “damaging secondary effects” issue. I do keep that very much in mind in my daily life. And it’s good that we all strive to.

  25. roro80 says

    Does anyone know if that is common among biology departments these days, or if PZ’s U makes a special effort to hire and promote women? (Different than hiring them or promoting them because they are women, of course.) I ask because while I know that the hard sciences are more gender balanced than my field (mechanical engineering is still somewhere in the teens for % women, which is an improvement over when I was in school), I didn’t realize it had achieved parity. I’m dubious, but if this is common, that’s amazing!

  26. mythbri says

    @seitanist

    This guy doesn’t strike me as an elevator rapist, though.

    What does this have to do with the price of eggs in China?

    Of all comments on this post thus far, you were the only one to use the word “rapist”.

    What is your definition of “overreact”? Is it a reaction greater than zero?

  27. glodson says

    This guy doesn’t strike me as an elevator rapist, though.

    Yea, he doesn’t. He sounds like a sexist jackass trying to hit on a woman.

    He used sexist language, and that’s not appropriate. So yeah, not good, but given it’s overall rank on the scale of evil, there’s probably other battles more worthy of fighting.

    First, I’m not worried about him. He acted like a jackass, but I don’t know the guy. However, his jackass comment is related to our culture, the culture in which woman’s worth is tied into her looks, where people are comfortable making sexist statements. The problem isn’t him. We aren’t fighting him, we are trying to talk about how women are often reduced to their looks.

    As a gay guy, I’ve heard lots of things that are inappropriate. And while it’s good to work for eliminating those in society because they do have hurtful influences on young minds, I think it is worth considering whether the person’s heart is basically in the right place and not overreact.

    Intent isn’t magic. I don’t know if a person’s heart is in the right place or not. It can matter as it might lead to them learning. But they won’t learn if we stay silent. I’m not saying we jump down every person’s throat when they fuck up, but I am saying that we call it out. Which is why I think these guys acted like a bunch of jackasses. I don’t think they were trying to be sexist assholes, but

  28. osmosis says

    The thing is, I do believe that “hot” girls are generally less interested in science. Here’s why:
    Once the girl becomes considered “hot” by the males, those males will do everything in their power to get in her pants. Before long she spends all her time turning down invitations and scraping various bits of shit off her shoes, and therefore has no time to learn science. She might have been the next Einstein but we’ll never know.

  29. Caveat Imperator says

    Even if someone’s intent is good, it’s important for that person to understand that the effects of his or her words are not what the person had in mind. How to do that other than speaking up against inappropriate comments?

  30. Asher Kay says

    This guy doesn’t strike me as an elevator rapist, though. I just think it’s best to pick your battles, and not worry about everything that gets sent out in an impulsive internet comment.

    But you picked the battle of defending him.

  31. roro80 says

    I do believe that “hot” girls are generally less interested in science.

    You are wrong.

  32. teejaykay says

    I’ll just summarise my feelings on the story and the links by saying:

    Holy shit, seriously? The moment you realise it’s a girl, you start complimenting her looks and throw all that serious science awesomeness away? I hate to ask, but are you geeks that have suddenly fallen in love and forgotten that the content is more valuable than who writes it? Now, don’t get me wrong, compliments are compliments, but is that really what you all ought to be focussing on?

    …ahem.

    That said, I’ve a (barely) comparable experience related to this. Back in the day I had long hair and was often mistaken for my mother (I have since grown a beard and lost my hair), and the worse (yes, not worst) part was that as my first name is generally thought of as a girl’s name in English-speaking countries, I got some flirty emails… from a site where you could post your own sci-fi/fantasy stories. The worst part was realising they were judging by the looks, not how good the stories were. I suppose a part of me should also be offended by how they started calling me a fag. Obviously I misled them.

  33. glodson says

    The thing is, I do believe that “hot” girls are generally less interested in science. Here’s why:
    Once the girl becomes considered “hot” by the males, those males will do everything in their power to get in her pants. Before long she spends all her time turning down invitations and scraping various bits of shit off her shoes, and therefore has no time to learn science. She might have been the next Einstein but we’ll never know.

    The fuck?

    Yea… way to paint both men and women in a negative light.

  34. mythbri says

    @osmosis

    those males will do everything in their power to get in her pants

    Why do you have such a low opinion of men, osmosis?

  35. doublereed says

    I was under the impression that Biology has been dominated by women for awhile now.

    This isn’t a science thing to me. This is an internet thing. People are still getting over the fact that women are on the internet.

  36. Asher Kay says

    The thing is, I do believe that “hot” girls are generally less interested in science.

    I do believe that people who make up random offensive shit are more likely to post it on a comments thread. Here’s why: when they make up random shit in real life, everyone walks away from them in disgust, and so they have a lot of time and nobody to talk to.

  37. says

    @seitanist:

    Imagine, for a moment, that the woman was not conventionally attractive in some way. I don’t care much for the idea, and I find it frankly offensive, but it’s true that society values a certain body type, facial structure, hair color/length/style, and so on over others.

    The responses to her wouldn’t be “oh, it’s neat she’s a woman scientist” or stuff of that sort. The responses wouldn’t be “hurr, she’s hot” or god forbid some kind of rapey chatter.

    The responses to her would be “it makes sense that you’re so ugly” or “nerdy girls are ugly” or some other vile thing like that. There is a horrible double standard when it comes to women – it doesn’t matter what they do, as long as they’re pretty while they do it. And in almost a worse thing, if she is a conventionally attractive woman, she better damned well be pretty all the fucking time or she’ll get harrassed and insulted over that (see: Beyonce at the Super Bowl photos, “beach body” tabloid pics, and such things.)

  38. teejaykay says

    @46:

    Let me add to the craziness of that double standard. According to my wife, males are still considered sexy even when they’ve reached fifty or so. Something to do with the wrinkles and grey beards. Men are obviously sexy even when they gain a few pounds and some wrinkles and start looking like Santa Claus.
    Her words, not mine. I don’t subscribe to that idea, but she stresses constantly about her appearance, taking time to look as pretty as possible for the outside world via make-up, well-fitting clothes and a fashionable haircut. Somehow that double standard has been ingrained into modern Western culture so badly it hurts my brain.

  39. imkindaokay says

    I thought this came out a while ago…

    I was surprised, but only because it was one person instead of many. I didn’t really pay it much mind, but I suppose it’s better that it’s a woman than a man because the people that follow the posts, hopefully, if they have any, will have their biases challenged. That’s good.

  40. Caveat Imperator says

    @teejaykay,
    If I may generalize further, I would say Western society, or at least mainstream US society (however we choose to define it) is far more accepting of the idea that men of different ages, body types, coloring, and so forth are attractive or different reasons. It’s far rarer to see the same claim made about women. Young men can be perceived as attractive whether they are muscular or not, because popular culture accepts that both tr bulky, athletic look and the slender, “pretty boy” look are attractive to different people. Athletic women, especially for sports that are dependent on a lot of muscle mass, are derided as “butch” or “manly”, as though it is a bad thing for a woman to be like a man.
     
    This manifests a bit differently for middle aged men and women. A middle aged man can be described as attractive in a dignified manner. Female politicians, for example, are regularly mocked for their perceived ugliness.

  41. teejaykay says

    @49

    Hear hear. I remember from a couple of years back a young tennis star player who decided to have a breast reduction because it hurt to play — she was good even with that heavy mammary tissue, but the majority of pictures taken of her were… um, let’s say, concentrated on said region. It was big news, apparently! So again, emphasis on her body and appearance — not on her skills.

  42. says

    It’s funny. I unsubbed “I fucking love science” on FB because the admins got all belligerent when some people objected to sexist fat-shaming jokes they posted.

  43. duce7999 says

    I wouldn’t say I am surprised that it is run by a female, but I am delighted to learn that. It actually makes me like it more.

  44. says

    This is something that used to drive me nuts in comments on Jesus and Mo. Various male commenters would comment on toons that featured the barmaid by saying she’s hot, they lust after her, she must have long red hair, etc etc – a character who is never visible at all, but is just a speech balloon. Sigh.

  45. noastronomer says

    That’s a really nice idea for a website; too bad I Fucking Hate Facebook.

    @Lyle #12

    Curiously enough, over my 20+ year career working in IT I have noticed more and more women. Over 50% of of my department’s regular employees are female. However, all of the consultants are male.

    Mike.

  46. osmosis says

    Why do you have such a low opinion of men, osmosis?

    I don’t, really. I must admit to having a low opinion of boys, however, especially during the years 13-23. Too much hormone, too little brain. Ironically, I was no exception.

  47. marinerachel says

    I guess I should be grateful I’m not hot. I never would have invested in myself and, in doing so, made valuable contributions to the world of science if the doodz had been asking me on dates I had to decline the whole time!

    (That’s me being sarcastic. I actually think I’m pretty hot. Being a scientist doesn’t appear to have had any bearing on men pursuing me nor has time spent saying “No thanks” or “Sure” prevented me from working and studying effectively.)

  48. Moggie says

    Ophelia Benson:

    This is something that used to drive me nuts in comments on Jesus and Mo. Various male commenters would comment on toons that featured the barmaid by saying she’s hot, they lust after her, she must have long red hair, etc etc – a character who is never visible at all, but is just a speech balloon. Sigh.

    Good grief, they do? So, someone finds her hot for her mind, and their reaction is “I want to see a crudely-drawn cartoon of this non-existent woman, to validate my boner”. The human psyche is a strange, strange thing.

  49. colonelzen says

    This is an insensitive idiotic “but(t) post” that probably shouldn’t be made but sometimes we just have to just because.

    I totally and completely agree with pretty much ***everything*** about the feminist movement. And I ***know*** I am an I’m as much an insensitive clod as apt to unthinking, unreflected privleged sexism as anyone else. And I confess I haven’t read the thread as I really don’t read comments here very much. Tedious really, for the most part.

    But isn’t it about time that when women, especially in the once more male dominated professions, get these remarks, that they just kick the guy in the balls and be done with it?

    — TWZ

  50. John Morales says

    colonelzen:

    I totally and completely agree with pretty much ***everything*** about the feminist movement.

    But nonetheless you are about to pontificate on what a feminist woman has done wrong.

    But isn’t it about time that when women, especially in the once more male dominated professions, get these remarks, that they just kick the guy in the balls and be done with it?

    Leaving aside it wasn’t “the guy”, it was “a whole bunch” of them, the OP is what it reveals about them as a symptom of cultural sexism — much like what your comment reveals about you.

    (Why do you focus on the reaction rather than on the action?)

  51. throwaway, extra beefy super queasy says

    HA! When this post went up, I confirmed that IFLS had 4.2 million likes. It is now up to 4.3 million.

    Take THAT, haters.

    I am one of those who’ve “liked” the page since PZ mentioned it. I’d always seen shares of it. I think I suffered partly from what carlie mentioned up above in #19, and attributed it to a man or group of men rather than a woman/women. And ashamedly I may have also thought at a deeper level it was a man’s doing because of the passion evinced by such emotive language. Damn, these biases are harder to check internally alone, and that is part of the good coming from it. I’m hoping I’m not rare in this and that there were quite a few more who mindfully examined the reason for their ‘shock’ rather than just mindlessly skipping over it.

  52. throwaway, extra beefy super queasy says

    colonelzen

    Tedious really…

    I assure you, the feeling was more than mutual.

  53. beergoggles says

    I follow “I Fucking Love Science” on FB and always thought it was more than one person posting – never much paid attention to their gender which on reflection is probably because she never posted pictures of hot beary guys. I do think it’s important for the progress of women in science to come out for visibility sake. But just like any coming out scenario, please do so in a safe manner because there are so many a-holes around.

  54. crocodoc says

    OK, some comments show a bias. But then, not all beautiful women are smart. Not all smart women are beautiful. Theses are two different things. So, if you want to express your appreciation of a woman’s beauty and her wits, what choice do you have other than mentioning both? I don’t see anything wrong with it. Many comments are very friendly, seemingly more expressing a “See, a woman can be smart and hot, told you so all the time” attitude than surprise.

  55. scimaths says

    if you want to express your appreciation of a woman’s beauty and her wits

    Why would she be interested in your assesment of her value ? Why does she or anyone else have to be subject to your opinion about her worth to you for either her “beauty” (read: fuckability) or “wit” (read: look at me being all enlightened and deigning to recognise that some of the ladybrain creatures can actually string a sentence together !)

    what choice do you have other than mentioning both?

    Maybe you could not mention either ? Women are not livestock at market – nice shiny coat, good teeth and a placid temperament. And I’m willing to bet good money that you don’t go around expressing your “appreciation” of the beauty and wit of your male colleagues and aquaintances in this way.

    I don’t see anything wrong with it

    Clearly not.

  56. Rey Fox says

    BrandonL

    If I’m trying to find a bright side, it’s that this exposes a lot of people to the “new face of science”, wherein scientists aren’t just old white men in labcoats with crazy hair (although they can be that too).

    Jeez, is it still 1965 out there?

    harvardmba:

    You know, like accountability.

    That’s rich, coming from a drive-by troll. And one who proudly trumpets his degree as if he thought it said something about his intellectual acumen rather than marking him as a corporate tool.

    seitanist:

    This guy doesn’t strike me as an elevator rapist, though.

    Oh shut up.

    osmosis:

    Ironically, I was no exception.

    That’s not ironic.

  57. Rey Fox says

    Here’s the thing, folks. This post, and many others like it, are about systemic problems. They’re about multiple responses from multiple people and the aggregate effect thereof. They’re NOT about what ONE guy said, or the minutiae of how he said it, or what he really meant in his heart of heart of hearts. So speculating about whether or not someone is or isn’t an…I’m not going to say the e-word here or the r-word, is beside the point.

  58. says

    @throwaway #65 – I didn’t “like” for a while, because a lot of my friends were sharing the images. Then I started to wonder what was NOT being shared :)

  59. Emrysmyrddin says

    I too objected to some slut-shaming jokes on IFLS a while ago, and for a long time have seemed to only be able to ‘share’ subsequent posts, not ‘like’ or comment. I’m not sure if I’m on a moderation list, I don’t know how these things work.
    .
    As for the Elise being a WOman thing *gasp* – women don’t need you(generic) guys randomly coming up to them and expressing your admiration or disgust variously for their appearance. We just don’t care. Seriously. And you have the potential to really screw up our day because of that need to express your(generic)self. On a train, or walking down the street, or in the middle of a conversation with someone else, or while reading, or even just after delivering an academic lecture – your feels about our appearances either way, good or bad, are simply Not Relevant.

  60. David Marjanović says

    What exactly are you upset with PZ about? What actions is PZ avoiding accountability for? This just seems to come out of nowhere.

    Easy: harvardmba is envious of tenure and doesn’t know about comment 30.

    So, if you want to express your appreciation of a woman’s beauty

    Why would you, unless you’re really trying to get into her pants and/or into her life?

    Why? What does it help her to have such detailed information about your personal taste?

    I’m 30 years old, and I still haven’t understood that part of my own culture. I guess lots of people somehow assume their taste is everyone’s…

    Various male commenters would comment on toons that featured the barmaid by saying she’s hot, they lust after her, she must have long red hair

    *facepalm*

    So, someone finds her hot for her mind, and their reaction is “I want to see a crudely-drawn cartoon of this non-existent woman, to validate my boner”.

    Ah. That could explain it.

  61. roro80 says

    “That’s actually really fucking offensive, osmosis.”

    mmmK if you say so.

    I did, in fact, say so. Glad we’re in agreement.

  62. roro80 says

    David #73:

    Why? What does it help her to have such detailed information about your personal taste?

    I’ve heard this phenomenon called “notes from your boner” on a number of occasions.

  63. Illuminata, Genie in the Beer Bottle says

    crocodoc – absolutely no one cares about your boner’s opinion. When the topic of conversation is absolutely fucking nothing to do with physical appearance we don’t want your “compliments”; we don’t need your “compliments”; we don’t give the slightest damn about your boner’s opinion.

    You don’t actually need to say a thing out loud, just because your brain thought it out.