Advice to geeks planning on getting married

(Originally posted by Jason on Aug 7, 2009)

There’s a post up on Slashdot regarding how to navigate a geek marriage. One of my favorite comments on the thread:

In geek terms (Score:5, Insightful)

by cybereal (621599) on Wednesday August 05, @05:49AM (#28954017) Homepage

Marriage is like a static group in any RPG. The same basic facts apply.

1. You need goals to achieve anything. You need to achieve things to be happy. If one or more of your group is unhappy, the result will inevitably be dissolution of the group. Set goals early, set them often.

2. Whenever undertaking any task it is important to understand each group member’s role. Though not strictly necessary, it is good to have a leadership position to orchestrate any support roles. This position may be shifted around the group based on whatever the scenario requires.

3. Eventually you will reach conflict, it’s inevitable. Practice care in participating in conflicts. Attempt to understand all party’s grievances and complaints and effect a useful resolution. Submit the proposed resolution to the group and hope for a diplomatic reception.

4. Keep the channels of communication open. Be sure all group members understand and approve of any actions prior to taking them. Nobody wants a Leeroy Jenkins in their group!

5. When you wish for your group to grow, the most important prerequisite is always preparation.

6. As your group grows in numbers, avoid favoritism. All members should be treated with respect and given the assistance they need to become fully useful participants.

7. Members of your group are unlikely to be so exclusively! They may still have close ties to the group or groups that nurtured them. Be sure to respect those ties and even assist in maintaining them.

8. That said, members of the group must understand their priorities. Most successful groups have prioritized with their own goals in mind.

9. Finally, you are not the group. And the group is not you. Sometimes you must focus on your own goals. Always take time to solo and be understanding of the need of others to do the same.

Those are just a few tips on successful grouping in World of Wedcraft. Good luck!

There’s also another one recommending lots of sex. I highly endorse this, but I haven’t checked in with the rest of the guild yet.

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