Ask me anything, tell me anything, ignore me if you like. Friday open thread

The moderators of the Men’s Lib sub on Reddit asked me if I’d be willing to do an Ask Me Anything thread for them, and I was happy to agree.

I’m assuming I’ll be fielding questions about my thoughts on gender politics, activism & theory and I’ll be disappointed if there’s not at least one about fighting a hundred duck-sized horses.

The Men’s Lib Reddit, in case you’re confused, is not the same as the notorious Men’s Rights Reddit It describes itself as follow: [Read more…]

Open thread: Normal service shall resume shortly

Hello strangers!

Happy to confirm that I have not fallen off a cliff, and that with kids returning to school and some kind of long-forgotten routine casually sidling up to me on the sofa, normal HetPat service shall resume shortly.

I have a couple of issues just bubbling up to the surface for proper blog posts, but in the meantime, I thought I’d welcome in the season of mist and mellow fruitfulness with a quick open thread.

To get you started, here’s a comment that sonofrojblake just left under my previous post. [Read more…]

Let’s Have an It’s Not-Even-Friday Open Thread

Had planned to put make a new place for you to play last night but got distracted by football and beer. So have a Saturday open thread instead.

It seems to have been several millennia since I last invited you to rant and ramble without frontiers. I’ve lost track of all the fascinating nuggets that have slipped past unremarked, but this week alone I have mostly been laughing like a drain, firstly at the hilarious bit of trolling published by the Independent yesterday and secondly at all the po-faced dudes being affronted and outraged about it all over the Internet. I’m reliably informed it was commissioned and posted by a departing staff editor on his last afternoon before leaving, which I think brings everything into sharp focus.

Now spill yer branez below folks, and remember, no cultural appropriation and jazz hands only please.


UPDATE: The Independent appears to have deleted the article above. At present there is not even a statement, it has simply vanished. Praise be to the Wayback Machine!

(The f’ckin hell its two fousand fifteen and we haven’t even had a) Friday Open Thread

Hello strangers


You may have noticed I’ve had a blogpost up this week. You might even have noticed that I haven’t had a blogpost up in bloody ages before that.

Was never really planned like that, just found myself a bit busy for a few weeks and when I went to look at the blog I realised I was quite enjoying having a break, and just kind of let it slip.

But yes, I’m back, so happy new year and all of that.  [Read more…]

A freshened up, fashion-free Friday open thread

Evening all.

Sorry for the general lack of activity on this blog over the past week or two. I’ve been doing some office-based contract work and C has been away this week leaving me as a temporary single parent on top. As if you care, but hey.

I thought I would start a new open thread though, as the last one is getting a bit long and unwieldy. Do please carry on your conversations here (I’ll be mean and close the other one whether you like it or not).

I also wanted a quick post to point you all towards a piece I have up at the Guardian today, which is in the HetPat ballpark. It’s a reaction to Grayson Perry’s essay in the New Statesman this week which, although I had a few issues with it, I think contains many really interesting and important insights. I addressed just one or two of them in my blog.

As a general rule I try not to grumble about editing and titling but I’ll quietly cohfess my heart did sink a little when I saw the headline. I thought I had written a forensic theoretical investigation into the mechanics of hegemony and the role of performative gender in sustaining structural authority in a world which maintains the illusion of transient adaptability while, in actuality, the locus of economic and social power remains stubbornly, persistently in situ.

But it got the title: “A man in a floral shirt is trying too hard.” 

Unsurprisingly, most of the comments are about floral shirts. Which I guess is fair enough.

Anyway, I’d be interested in the thoughts of you chaps and chappesses about either of the articles or, since it is Friday, anything else that is floating by your transom.

What’s up folks?

The fairly friendly Friday open thread

The past couple of weeks have seen a couple of the busiest and perhaps most passionately argued blogs I’ve ever had here at HetPat, and I don’t know about you but I’m feeling a bit drunk. And if you like the sound of that, as Douglas Adams  famously noted, you wouldn’t if you were a glass of water.

If you’re new around here, every couple of weeks I start a new open thread, which has no on- or -off topic, everything is of interest, and occasionally I send people here when they’ve got too much to say on a topic thread.

Anyone following the golf? It’s not my favourite sport, but I usually get into the Ryder Cup. Might try to keep up over the weekend. I like to imagine it is all like Caddyshack and always keep an eye out for gophers.

This week I have mostly been twisting my melon with Aphex Twin’s new album. Proper old school electronica with added bubblapeepboSKWONK. Some of it is so good it makes me literally laugh with astonishment.

Oh, and there’s news and wars and bombs and diseases and OH MY GOD X FACTOR IS ON!

What are your bread and circuses, folks?



A Finely Flavoured Friday Open Thread

I’ve got the Great British Bake-Off playing on the catch-up TV widget. Officially it is my sweet significant other who is watching it but, hmmm I’m hungry.

I’ll confess I got interested in it when #Bingate erupted in the last week or two. For foreigners and Martians, this involved some old woman doing something with a young man’s ice cream in her freezer compartment (these are not euphemisms, by the way) and he ended up throwing his own baked Alaska in the bin and getting thrown off the contest.

Then, just a week later, the older woman responsible suddenly had to withdraw from the contest on medical reasons after “falling and hitting her head on a hard floor in a restaurant” causing neurological damage that temporarily disabled her sense of taste and smell, according to the BBC. Yeah right. Do those people think we have never seen Midsomer Murders?   One of the other contestants brained her with a jellyspoon, it’s a given.

Anyway, it is officially the most British scandal in the history of Britain.

Talking of which, a lot of my attention is being taken up by the Scottish independence referendum. As an expat Scot in England, it’s kind of freaky that my family could be foreigners by this time next week. (Shut up, constitutional law geeks). I’ve been keeping my counsel, as I don’t have a vote and I don’t really feel comfortable opining when I don’t have to live with the consequences. Broadly, my head says no and my heart says yes, but the honest truth is I won’t be devastated with either result next week.

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The Frankly Forgettable Friday Open Thread

Evening all.

I’ve been fairly conspicuous by my absence over the past couple of weeks thanks to one thing or another, and truth be told it’s likelyto stay that way for another week or so before normal service resumes.

In the meantime I’ve been keeping half an eye on the sprawling conversations/arguments/ debates/ slanging matches which have kept  other threads lively, so I thought you might appreciate a shiny, clean new open thread to give you room to breathe and perhaps an excuse to change the subject. [Read more…]