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The Godless Perverts Social Club — Thursday August 21! Topic: “Is repression necessary for kink?”

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The Godless Perverts Social Club is meeting again this Thursday, August 21!

The Godless Perverts Social Club is the socializing/ hanging out branch of Godless Perverts. Community is one of the reasons we started Godless Perverts. There are few enough places to land when you decide that you’re an atheist; far fewer if you’re also LGBT, queer, kinky, poly, trans, or are just interested in sexuality. And the sex-positive/ alt-sex/ whatever- you- want- to- call- it community isn’t always the most welcoming place for non-believers. So please join us! We’re now meeting twice a month — first Tuesdays, and third Thursdays. We’re meeting again this Thursday, August 21.

We’re doing slightly different formats for the two clubs. Our Third Thursday Social Clubs are a little more structured — we pick a topic, let people know what it is ahead of time, have a moderator/ host who leads the discussion, maybe even get in special guests to guide discussions on particular topics. In August, that’ll be Thursday August 21.

The topic for August’s Topical Thursday: Is repression necessary for kink? Imagine a world in which there are no boundaries on what is considered normal consensual sexual expression, a world in which sexual practices are openly discussed and fully accepted as personal preference without shame or recrimination. In this imaginary utopia, would kink exist? Is kink a response to repression and, if so, how has repression formed the current ideas of what is or is not kink? Would we always find a path to kink, regardless of the enforced societal standards? We’ll discuss how repression, whether societal or religious, has shaped the idea of kink and how our personal experiences have defined our understanding of and preferences for kink. Come talk about religion’s role in shaping your kinky (or non-kinky) choices.

The first Tuesday Social Clubs are more loosely-structured casual affairs: we typically start with a check-in question and do a little moderating to make sure everyone gets to talk who wants to, but mostly we just nosh and sit around schmoozing about whatever topics happen to come up. On First Tuesdays, we’ll keep doing that. Our next First Tuesday: September 2.

All Social Clubs are at Wicked Grounds, San Francisco’s renowned BDSM-themed coffee house — 289 8th St in San Francisco, near Civic Center BART. All orientations, genders, and kinks (or lack thereof) welcome. 7:00 – 9:00 pm. There’s no admission, but we ask that you buy food and drink at the counter. (Their food is quite yummy, with both full dinners and lighter snacks/ beverages, and they have the best milkshakes in town.)

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Comments

  1. leftwingfox says

    I don’t see why kink and repression should be linked. There may be some specifically kinky acts which are tied up with societal expectations and subversions, but that doesn’t explain all kinks.

    Humans are an evolutionary mess of jury-rigged cognitive features and glandular secretions pulling multiple duties in the body’s regulatory system; those are going to get crossed up plenty of times, even if repression is taken out of the picture. The smell of your first crush’s leather jacket is a powerful memory trigger linked to those first romantic and sexual feelings; there need be no repression to turn that association of leather into a fetish. The endorphins released after pain can drive people to spicy food and piercings , as well as to masochistic sex. The adrenaline thrill of a “safe” loss of control might find expression in roller-coasters, horror movies or skydiving, or expression in the bedroom through bondage or role play.

    I think even in a sexually open society, there will always be quirks, kinks and oddities unique to the individuals, shaped by personal and media experiences.

  2. Al Dente says

    Imagine a world in which there are no boundaries on what is considered normal consensual sexual expression, a world in which sexual practices are openly discussed and fully accepted as personal preference without shame or recrimination. In this imaginary utopia, would kink exist?

    Kink wouldn’t exist since any sexual behavior would not be kink since there would be no boundaries on normal consensual sexual expression. Even what here and now is considered the most outré sexual experiences would be acceptable as long as it was consensual. Rape is not a kink, it’s a sociopathic crime.

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