Content note: Misogyny, violence against women and girls, trivialization of same.
Just posted these to Twitter.
#YesAllWomen The two boys in third grade who pinned me down and pulled down my pants so they could get a look…
#YesAllWomen … and the fact that I didn’t tell anyone, because *I* felt ashamed.
#YesAllWomen The college boyfriend who hit me twice and choked me once…
#YesAllWomen … the friends who saw one of the times he hit me, and still tried to help me work things out with him..
#YesAllWomen … & the fact that I didn’t tell anyone, because *I* felt ashamed.
#YesAllWomen Man who said when we were breaking up “You don’t have to stay w/ friends, stay here,” then spent the night screaming at me…
#YesAllWomen … and the fact that again, I didn’t tell anyone, because *I* felt ashamed.
#YesAllWomen Man who followed me for a block & a half leering and “Hey baby”ing, didn’t stop when I ignored him & said “No” & “Fuck off”…
#YesAllWomen … who didn’t stop til I ripped chain off my leather jacket & shook it in his face & screamed. And who then called me a bitch.
#YesAllWomen The man who responded to a Facebook argument by saying he wanted to “slap the bitch” and kick my blog readers in the cunt.
#YesAllWomen Organization leader who I emailed about this, who said “Nothing excuses threats of violence” then excused it for 3 paragraphs.
#YesAllWomen The man who commented on a blog post about Internet misogyny, “You’re a CUNT… a whining, annoying, cunt.”
#YesAllWomen The man who commented on a blog post about Internet misogyny, “Go fuck yourself with a knife you irrational cunt.”
#YesAllWomen Men who insist that their free speech right to call women cunts is violated by women saying it’s sexist & asking them not to.
#YesAllWomen The man who commented on a blog post about my depression, “goddamn you are fucking ugly. Kill yourself.”
#YesAllWomen The Internet harassers I never blogged about, b/c I was told they’d been unusually scary & persistent towards other women.
#YesAllWomen The anti-feminist man who hacked into the private email backchannel of my blogging network, and publicly posted emails from it.
#YesAllWomen The fact that at conferences, I never, ever, EVER say my hotel room number out loud.
#YesAllWomen The fact that I don’t post my location on Facebook unless it’s a big public event with lots of people.
#YesAllWomen The fact that I ask friends not to Facebook about where we are unless it’s a big public event with lots of people.
#YesAllWomen The fact that I get 10x more threats from men who hate me b/c I’m a feminist than believers who hate me b/c I’m an atheist.
#YesAllWomen The fact that all of this is only what I remember offhand.
#YesAllWomen The fact that all this is only the worst of it, there are hundreds of little gropes & threats & invasions I didn’t bother with.
#YesAllWomen The fact that I’m not even mentioning assaults on reproductive rights, the glass ceiling, slut shaming, body policing…
#YesAllWomen … inappopriate sexualization, enforcement of rigid gender roles, rigid & impossible beauty standards, Madonna/whore trope…
#YesAllWomen … under-representation of women in media, sexist representations of women in media, Hollywood boys’ club, the Bechdel test…
#YesAllWomen … or a thousand other forms of sexism that aren’t misogynist violence, or support/ tolerance of misogynist violence.
#YesAllWomen The fact that despite all this,I tend not to think of myself as victim of violence against women,b/c other women have it worse.
#YesAllWomen The fact that I tend not to think of myself as a victim of violence against women, b/c it was only physically bad a few times.
#YesAllWomen The fact that despite all this, I tend not to think of myself as a victim of violence against women, b/c it just seems normal.