Why Does God Play Hide and Seek?

This piece was originally published on AlterNet.

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If God exists… why isn’t his existence obvious?

And is “free will” a good answer to this question?

A few weeks ago, in this very publication, I posed the question, “Why did God create atheists?” If God reveals himself to religious believers, in visions or revelations or other spiritual experiences… why doesn’t he do it with everyone? Why are those revelations so contradictory — not to mention so suspiciously consistent with whatever the people having them already believe or want to believe? And why doesn’t everyone have them? If God is real, I asked — if religious believers are perceiving a real entity with a real effect on the world — why isn’t it just obvious?

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Why is God playing hide and seek?

When I wrote this piece, I addressed (and dismantled) two of the most common responses to this question: “God has revealed himself to you, you’ve just closed your heart to him,” and, “God doesn’t care if you’re an atheist — as long as you’re a good person, he doesn’t care if you believe in him.”

But I neglected to address one of the most common religious answers to this question:

Free will.

“God can’t reveal himself to us clearly,” this argument goes, “because he wants us to have free will. We have to be free to believe in him or not. If he revealed his presence to us, we’d be forced to believe in him — and our free will is a precious gift. It’s what makes us God’s unique creation.”

It’s a really, really bad argument.

I’m going to dismantle it today.

The Freedom of Information Act

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Imagine you’re on a jury. You’re asked to decide whether something is or is not real, whether it did or did not happen: whether the accused stole the diamonds, or set fire to their warehouse for the insurance, or shot a man in Reno just to watch him die. The prosecution doesn’t offer much evidence at the trial — it’s all circumstantial at best, third-hand hearsay at worst, with excessive appeals to emotion and fear, and arguments based on faulty logic. So you decide to acquit.

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And then, after you’ve reached your verdict, you’re told there’s a videotape, clearly showing the accused committing the crime.

You’re baffled. You’re outraged. You confront the prosecutor in the hallway, and ask, “Why didn’t you show us this evidence at the trial? Why show it to us now — when it’s too late to do anything about it?”

And the prosecutor replies, “Because you had to be free to decide for yourself. If we gave you that videotape, it would have made your choice too obvious. Free will is a precious gift, a crucial component of the justice system — and in order for the jury to have free will, we can’t make the right verdict too obvious. That would have forced your hand.”

Would you nod your head sagely in agreement? Would you think that was a sound and reasonable explanation?

Or would you think they were out of their gourd?

And if you’d think this was a ridiculous and outrageous explanation from the prosecutor — then why on earth would you think it’s a good argument when it comes to God?

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Having more information doesn’t make us less free to decide what’s real. It’s the exact opposite. The more information we have, the better able we are to make a free, independent conclusion about what is and isn’t true.

If God was real, but was playing hide and seek? If he was deliberately hiding himself from us? If he was leaving maddeningly frustrating and inconsistent hints about his existence, always staying one step ahead, always keeping carefully out of sight? That wouldn’t give us free will. That would make us pawns in his manipulative, passive-aggressive game. (Especially if he punished us at the end of the game with intolerable, permanent torture, just because we guessed wrong.)

And even if clearly revealing himself somehow “forced” us to recognize God’s existence… how would that force us to worship or obey him?

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I mean, I have no doubt whatsoever that the San Francisco Police Department exists. They have made their existence very clear indeed. But I still have a choice about whether to obey the laws they enforce. I have a choice about whether to jaywalk, hire prostitutes, drink beer on the street. I usually obey these laws; I occasionally disobey them. I sometimes make that decision based on my fear of the cops; I sometimes make it based on my own conscience or convenience. But my freedom to obey or disobey the law does not hinge on my ignorance of the fact that the SFPD exists, and has power to enforce these laws. My awareness that the police are real, that they are not mythical creatures, does not in any way eradicate my freedom.

Why would it work that way with God?

Now, some people will argue that God is a special case. They’ll argue that, because God’s power is absolute — which the SFPD’s clearly is not — revealing himself to us would be tantamount to coercion. It’d be like having the cops follow every one of us day and night… with the absolute power to put us in Abu Ghraib forever if we broke even the tiniest law.

But why would that have to be true? Couldn’t God clearly tell us all, “Hey, I exist — but I think you need to make your own moral decisions, so I’m not going to punish or reward you for good and bad behavior”? Or at least, “I’m going to make your punishments and rewards proportionate to your actions, and I’m going to clearly spell out those punishments and rewards ahead of time, so you can decide for yourself if it’s worth it”? There’s no reason free will couldn’t be consistent with knowing that God existed — or even with knowing that God was all-powerful, and could kick your ass from here to Saturn if he felt like it.

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It’s arguable, I’ll grant you, that while free will could be consistent with the clear, non- hide- and- seek revelation of this more open and moderate (albeit clearly non-existent) god, it wouldn’t be possible with the more common notions of permanent, perfectly blissful heaven and permanent, perfectly torturous hell. But if what God wants for us is our free will… how would that version of the afterlife help matters? To return to the jury analogy: How would it make the jury more free to deny them the videotape of the accused committing the crime… and then throw them in Abu Ghraib forever for giving the wrong verdict? If that’s the god you believe in… then with all due respect, your god is a capricious, sadistic jerk, who plays a cruel game of hide and seek with his most beloved creation, and then punishes us with intolerable, permanent torture when we lose. In which case, the only moral choice would be to reject him. (Which, supposedly, he made us free to do.)

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And even the idea of Heaven raises its own set of problems here. Namely: If our free will depends on God playing hide and seek — then how do people have free will in Heaven? In Heaven, God’s existence is supposed to be blindingly clear. We’re supposed to spend eternity basking in his presence. If knowing for sure that God exists eradicates our free will, then how do souls have free will in Heaven? And if souls don’t have free will in Heaven, doesn’t that undercut the idea of our freedom being the most precious and unique gift God could have given us?

It makes no sense. Again: When people are trying to make a decision, not just about what’s real but about how to act on it, denying us relevant information does not make us more free. It makes us less free. In every area of life other than religion, this is clearly understood. It’s the foundation of the principle of informed consent: when relevant information is denied us, our consent is impaired at best, and negated at worst. Having the best possible information about reality is essential to making good decisions about how to act in that reality.

Why is God an exception to that rule? Why is it that with everything else in our lives, having more information makes us better able to make a free choice… but with God — and only God — clearly revealing the simple fact that he exists and has power to enforce his rules would somehow turn us into his mindless robotic slaves?

How does that make any kind of sense?

Why Are There Special Snowflakes?

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So when believers argue that God can’t reveal himself to anybody without mysteriously eradicating our ability to make our own choices, that’s my response. But that’s not the only belief people hold about God and his supposed relationship to humanity. Some believers think that God reveals himself to some people, but not to others. Believers in the Bible, for instance, think that God used to reveal himself to people all the time: to Moses, to the prophets, and so on. Heck, the whole Adam and Eve story is based on the notion that they knew full well who God was and what he could do… and disobeyed him anyway.

And even people who don’t believe in the Bible’s literal truth still make an argument very much like this one. “Personal religious experience” — i.e., the belief that God communicates his existence and/or intentions to some people directly — is one of the most common reasons believers give for believing.

Which brings us back to the original question:

Why are there atheists?

Why does God reveal himself to some people, and not to others?

If it would eradicate my free will for God to make his existence obvious to me… why doesn’t it eradicate yours? Or your neighbor’s? Why doesn’t it eradicate your priest’s free will, your minister’s, your rabbi’s, your imam’s, your guru’s? Why didn’t it eradicate Paul’s, or Moses’, or Muhammad’s, or Adam and Eve’s, or that of any of the prophets and figures in religious texts who God supposedly spoke to?

If clear visions of God’s existence would eradicate our freedom to believe in him or not… why does anyone have them?

I’m not looking here at the problem of why God reveals himself in such wildly different and even completely contradictory ways to different people. I’m not even looking at the problem of the mind being a highly fallible instrument, prone to a wide assortment of cognitive errors, and so if you think God is talking to you, you really need to confirm that hypothesis with external corroborating evidence.

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I’m talking here strictly about the problem of free will. And I’m talking about the glaring contradiction in so many religious beliefs: the idea that, on the one hand, God reveals himself directly to some people and has done so many times in the past… and that, on the other hand, God can’t reveal his existence to everyone, because doing so would somehow make us not free. I’m asking the question: Why are some people special snowflakes, able to communicate with God without it impairing their freedom to believe and obey him… while the rest of us aren’t?

You can’t have it both ways. Either God revealing his existence would undercut our free will — or it wouldn’t. If it would undercut our free will, then God must not be revealing himself to anybody… which means you can’t count personal religious experience — yours, or anyone else’s, including the prophets who wrote your holy book — as evidence of his existence. And if it wouldn’t undercut our free will, then we’re back to the question: Why isn’t God making his existence clear?

Why does every religious believer have a different understanding of him, many of which are totally contradictory?

And why do some of us — more of us every day — not believe at all?

Why Are We Even Having This Conversation?

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I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: If God existed, we wouldn’t even be having this conversation. If God existed, it would just be obvious. If God existed, there’d be no reason for him to keep his existence a secret. There’d be no reason for him to create life, and yet somehow make that life look exactly like it would have if it had evolved naturally… right down to the inefficiencies, jury-rigs, superfluities, mind-numbing brutality, and other glaring flaws in life’s supposed “design.” There’d be no reason for him to animate conscious beings with immaterial souls, and yet somehow make those souls look exactly like they would have if they were biological products of the brain…. right down to the radical changes in people’s consciousness and character that happen when our brains change. There’d be no reason for him to hide.

So why don’t we see him?

Doesn’t it seem likely that the reason we don’t see him is that he doesn’t exist?

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The world does not look as if it was created by a supernatural being who intervenes with it on a regular basis. Or even on a semi-regular basis. There is not one scrap of good, solid evidence supporting this hypothesis. The world looks like physical matter and energy, governed by natural laws of cause and effect (and by that special version of cause and effect known as “randomness”). As Julia Sweeney says in her brilliant performance piece Letting Go of God, “The world behaves exactly as you expect it would, if there were no Supreme Being, no Supreme Consciousness, and no supernatural.”

Given that that’s true… which is the simplest, most plausible explanation?

That the world really has no Supreme Being?

Or that the world does have a Supreme Being, who created the world to look exactly as if he doesn’t exist… just so he can play a cruel game of hide and seek with his most precious creation?

If you think the latter is true… you’re certainly entitled to that belief. But if you care whether the things you believe are true, you’re going to need a really good answer for why this is.

And “free will” isn’t going to cut it.

(Inspired in large part by One More Burning Bush: The Argument from Divine Hiddenness, by Ebonmuse.)

Why Does God Play Hide and Seek?
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Atheist Meme of the Day: Atheists Feel Love

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Today’s Atheist Meme of the Day. Pass this on; or don’t; or edit it as you see fit; or make up your own. Enjoy!

Atheists feel love. We don’t see love as a supernatural force coming from God — we see it as a human emotion, part of our evolution as a social species — but that doesn’t make it less valuable. In fact, many of us are humbled and inspired by the idea that physical matter and energy could create compassion, empathy, and connection. Pass it on: if we say it enough times to enough people, it may get across.

Atheist Meme of the Day: Atheists Feel Love

Porn, Social Criticism, and the Marginalization of Kink

Please note: This piece discusses my personal sex life and sexual fantasies in a fair amount of detail. Family members and others who don’t want to read about that stuff, please skip this one. This piece was originally published on the Blowfish Blog.

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Is it valid to criticize rough-sex porn for perpetuating misogynist images of women?

Or, to look at the question from the other side: Is it possible to critique rough-sex porn without marginalizing kink?

If you’ve been around the porn wars, you’ve almost certainly run across a particular form of anti-porn critique. “Erotica may not be inherently bad… but look at how misogynistic so much commercial porn is! Look at how it portrays degradation and violence against women as sexually pleasurable! Women being slapped and treated roughly during sex! Women being called sluts and whores and sex toys! Women being given forceful deep-throat blowjobs that make them choke and gag! Is that a vision of women and sexuality we want to accept?”

I was reading one of these screeds the other day (somebody linked to it in a Facebook conversation)… and I started spewing out a seriously annoyed mini-manifesto/ rant.

You know who finds that imagery hot? You know who gets turned on by images of women being slapped and roughed-up? You know who gets turned on by images of women being called sluts and whores and sex toys? You know who gets turned on by images of women having hard cocks forced down their throats until they choke and gag and cry?

Me.

I do.

And I am bloody well done with being told that I’m a bad person, or a bad feminist, for finding this imagery hot.

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I am a kinky person. I am a consensual sadomasochist. And I am bloody well done with having my desire to see kinky imagery, consensually engaged in as an acted-out fantasy, treated as a desire for actual, real-world degradation and oppression of women. I am bloody well done with having kinky sexuality marginalized by well-meaning concern trolls who supposedly have my best interests at heart.

When critics point to rough or kinky sex in porn as evidence of its misogyny, I think they often fail to realize that they’re marginalizing kink, and people in the kink community. Including — need I say it? — women in the kink community. Kink is already seriously marginalized: plenty of people see it as sick and sad at best, abusive and destructive at worst, self-evidently and by its very nature. Kinky people are already made to feel ashamed and guilty about what we do and what we like to think about. And it troubles me greatly when progressive, feminist people — people who are normally sensitive to a fault about marginalized communities, people who would passionately decry any attempt to say that (for instance) gay and lesbian sexuality is inherently sick and sad — are this tone-deaf about how their ideas are contributing to the guilt and shame and demonization of yet another sexual minority.

(And yes — the fantasies depicted in rough and kinky porn are consensually acted out. The myth of people being forced into the porn industry is just that — a myth. There are plenty of people who are willing to do this work for money. There’s no earthly reason for porn producers to force anyone into it at gunpoint. Sheesh.)

Okay. So that’s the manifesto/ rant. Which I was all ready to make the focus of today’s column.

But then I started thinking. (Always a danger.) And I started asking myself, “Is it really that simple?”

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Here’s the conundrum.

I do, in fact, think it’s valid to critique popular culture — including porn — for the cultural messages it conveys, about gender or anything else. Regardless of whether those messages are being conveyed intentionally or unconsciously. Hell, I do it myself all the time. I criticize movies, TV shows, music videos, advertising, etc. — and porn — for perpetuating sexist and misogynistic imagery.

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For instance. As a film critic and social critic, I might point out that action movies commonly perpetuate some very common sexist tropes: e.g., weak helpless women who need rescuing by strong male heroes. Now, someone who likes action movies might reply, “Hey, it’s just a fantasy that I enjoy. I’m not saying that I want a world in which strong men rescue weak helpless women, or that the world is really like that. It’s just an escapist fantasy.” And yet I think it’s valid for me to critique this trope and how common it is — even though it is just a fantasy, consensually participated in by the actors as well as the audience. The fantasy is exactly what I’m critiquing — that, and how ubiquitous it is.

So how is that different from someone critiquing rough or kinky porn for perpetuating sexist imagery of women?

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Or similarly, as a film critic and social critic, I might criticize the “Sex and the City” movie for depicting women as vapid consumers whose emotional lives center on possessions. But someone who likes that movie might say, again, that it’s just a fun fantasy that doesn’t imply anything about the people who made it or the people who enjoy it. Why is it valid for me to critique these depictions of women in “Sex and the City”… but it’s not valid for someone to critique, say, “Rocco: Animal Trainer 5” for depicting women as subjugated sex toys who exist to be used roughly by men and have cocks forced down their throats until they gag?

So if I’m going to defend my social criticism of the fantasy images depicted in action movies or “Sex and the City” — even if those images aren’t meant to say, “This is how the world ought to be,” or even, ‘This is how the world really is,” even if those images are simply saying, “This is a fun and entertaining thing to think about as a distraction” — why is it not valid for someone else to critique the fantasy images depicted in rough or kinky porn?

I want to be very rigorous here. I want to be sure I don’t reach my conclusion first and then contort my ethical thinking so I can get there from here. I don’t want to have my rationale be, “I like kinky porn, therefore it’s okay; I don’t like “Sex in the City,” therefore it’s not.” I don’t want my ethical thinking to just be a rationalization of my personal likes and dislikes.

So I’ve been thinking about this carefully and at length. And here’s what finally occurred to me. (Or, to be more accurate: Here’s what finally occurred to Ingrid. I chewed over this idea in my head for days without a solution; I ran it by nearly a dozen people who all came up with interesting questions and thoughts, none of which actually resolved the conundrum… and Ingrid thought about it for ten minutes and came up with the answer. I love being married to a philosophy major.)

Here’s what it is.

The problem isn’t with critiquing kinky or rough-sex porn for perpetuating misogyny.

The problem is with critiquing rough-sex or kinky porn for perpetuating misogyny… simply because it’s rough or kinky.

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The problem with the “rough or kinky porn perpetuates imagery of women as sexual victims” trope is that it shows absolutely no awareness of consensual kink. It shows no awareness of kink as a consented-to activity among equals, in which fantasies of inequality or non-consent are played out with the willing and enthusiastic agreement of everyone. It shows no awareness of the complex layers and meta-layers of kinky fantasy and the acting-out of fantasy: the ways that kinky people can experience themselves simultaneously as victims/ perpetrators and as caring, affectionate partners giving each other what we most dearly want… and the fact that we often enjoy porn which acknowledges that experience and caters to it. It shows no awareness of the fact that there’s oodles of rough and kinky porn in which women dominate men. (Not to mention rough and kinky gay male porn — Loki knows there’s plenty of that — and by-lesbians-for-lesbians porn — there’s not a ton of that these days, but the rough stuff definitely makes up a solid chunk of what there is.) It shows no awareness of the fact that plenty of women enjoy these fantasies every bit as much as men… and that while men are more likely to be consumers of video porn, including rough or kinky video porn, women are avid consumers of these fantasies in other media. (Most notably fiction — especially in the blurry and increasingly non-existent line between romance novels and erotica.)

And it shows no awareness of how this reflexive criticism of rough and kinky porn plays into the marginalization of kinky people.

If people want to critique sexism in porn, I’m all for it. I’ve done it myself, more than once. And if people want to critique sexism in rough or kinky porn, I’m all for that as well. But the critique needs to be better-informed, and more nuanced, than just, “Look! Women being dominated and humiliated and slapped around! It’s so sexist!” It needs to not just reflexively say that any depiction of rough or kinky sex in which women are the bottoms is sexist… simply because it is rough or kinky sex in which women are the bottoms, purely on that basis alone.

Thanks to Ingrid, Ben, and the folks at the Center for Sex and Culture salon for helping me think this one through. This was a tough one, and I couldn’t have gotten here alone.

Porn, Social Criticism, and the Marginalization of Kink

Video! Greta's Keynote Address at Secular Student Alliance Conference: "What Atheists Can Learn from the LGBT Movement "

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There’s video! For those of you who wanted to hear my keynote speech at the Secular Student Alliance conference last month on What Atheists Can Learn from the LGBT Movement — here it is, in glorious digital video!

In this talk, I discuss the importance of coming out, about making atheism a safer place to come out into, letting firebrands be firebrands and diplomats be diplomats, not wasting our time squabbling about language, making our movement more diverse, and preparing for atheism to become mainstream. Have fun! And enormous thanks again to the Secular Student Alliance for inviting me to be the keynote speaker at this event. This is an amazing organization, and I am ridiculously proud to be part of it.

(Video after the jump, since putting it before the jump screws up my archives. Or, if you prefer, here’s a direct link to YouTube.)

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Atheist Meme of the Day: Put Up or Shut Up

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Today’s Atheist Meme of the Day. Pass this on; or don’t; or edit it as you see fit; or make up your own. Enjoy!

If you care whether the things you believe are true — including religious beliefs — you ought to be willing to subject your beliefs to rigorous testing, and to let go of them if a solid body of evidence contradicts them. And if you don’t care whether the things you believe are true, then don’t try to defend those beliefs to atheists. Pass it on: if we say it enough times to enough people, it may get across.

Atheist Meme of the Day: Put Up or Shut Up

Why Near-Death Experiences Are a Flimsy Justification for the Idea That We Have Immortal Souls

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“But when people are near death, they have out- of- body experiences. Some of them, anyway. Doesn’t this prove that there’s an immaterial soul, separate from the body, that leaves the body and survives when we die?”

As I’ve written before: Most arguments for spiritual belief that I encounter are so bad, they don’t even count as arguments. But some believers in religion or spirituality do try to make real arguments for their beliefs, and try to defend them with evidence and logic. This evidence and logic are never very good… but they are sincere attempts to engage with reality instead of ignoring it. So I want to do these argumemts the honor of taking them seriously… and pointing out how they’re completely mistaken.

Today, I’m taking on, not an argument for God, but for some sort of soul, separate from the brain and the body, that sparks consciousness, animates life, and survives death. More specifically, I’m taking on the argument that near- death experiences are evidence of this immortal soul.

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Thus begins my new piece on AlterNet, Why Near-Death Experiences Are a Flimsy Justification for the Idea That We Have Immortal Souls. To find out why, exactly. this supposed piece of “evidence” for the immortal soul doesn’t hold water, read the rest of the piece. Enjoy!

Why Near-Death Experiences Are a Flimsy Justification for the Idea That We Have Immortal Souls

Greta at Skepticon 3, Nov. 19-21!

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Good news, everybody! Skepticon — the totally awesome, free- of- charge atheism/ skepticism conference — got the bigger venue they were working on. Which means they have room for more speakers. Which means I’m going to be speaking!

Hosted by the MSU Chapter of the Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster, Skepticon 3 will be happening Friday November 19 through Sunday November 21, at the Springfield Expo Center in Springfield, Missouri. Other speakers include PZ Myers, Amanda Marcotte, James Randi, Debbie Goddard, Dan Barker, D.J. Grothe, Rebecca Watson, Victor Stenger, Joe Nickell, and more. (Here’s the complete speakers’ list. I am so proud to be on that list and in that company, I can barely stop wriggling.) Registration is free — did I mention that this conference is free? — but you’re advised to register in advance, since it may be a full house. There’s pretty cheap lodging available as well, in the Universal Plaza Hotel right next to the conference center, at the special Skeptical Rate of just $79 a night.

I don’t yet know what date and time I’ll be speaking, or what exact topic I’ll be speaking about. I’ll let you know as soon as I do. In the meantime — wa-hoo! Come join me in beautiful Springfield, Missouri, buckle of the Bible Belt, and raise some non-existent hell with your fellow non-believers!

Greta at Skepticon 3, Nov. 19-21!

Atheist Meme of the Day: Atheists Value Life

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Today’s Atheist Meme of the Day. Pass this on; or don’t; or edit it as you see fit; or make up your own. Enjoy!

Atheists see meaning, value, and joy in life. In fact, many atheists treasure life more after letting go of our religious beliefs — since we see life as temporary, we want to experience the short time we have as richly as we can, and to make it better for others to the best of our ability. Pass it on: if we say it enough times to enough people, it may get across.

Atheist Meme of the Day: Atheists Value Life

Atheist Meme of the Day: The Comfort of Reality

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Today’s Atheist Meme of the Day. Pass this on; or don’t; or edit it as you see fit; or make up your own. Enjoy!

Atheism does have comfort to offer in the face of death and suffering. Among other things, it offers the knowledge that our philosophies and coping mechanisms are based in reality, on a solid foundation of evidence and reason — not on wishful thinking. Pass it on: if we say it enough times to enough people, it may get across.

Atheist Meme of the Day: The Comfort of Reality