I have a new piece up on the Blowfish Blog. It’s a different take on the recent ruling upholding the Prop 8 ban on same-sex marriage in California. It’s about how the court ruling essentially gives me and Ingrid and about 18,000 same-sex couples in California “special rights”… and what a strange, icky feeling that is.
The piece is titled Special Rights, Not Equal Rights, and here’s the teaser:
For years, one of the mantras of the anti-gay right wing has been that LGBT activists want âspecial rights.â (Itâs a mantra that gets used a lot to defend bigotry â it was sounded frequently in the fight against civil rights in the â50s and â60s, and in fact was used to oppose interracial marriage â so please take note of that.) And for years, one of the mantras of the LGBT rights movement has been, âEqual rights, not special rights.â Weâre not asking for special rights: weâre asking for the same rights, and the same responsibilities, and the same opportunities to participate in and contribute to society, as everyone else.
And yet the weird-ass upshot of this court decision is that I, and Ingrid, and 18,000 other couples, have wound up with special rights.
That, my friends, is a strange position to be in.
To find out how and why this experience is so deeply bizarre and unsettling — and what I plan to do about it — read the rest of the piece. (And as always, if you feel inspired to comment on this blog, please consider cross- posting your comment to the Blowfish Blog. They like comments there, too.) Enjoy!