I have a new piece up on the Blowfish Blog. It’s about a particular form of jealousy, one that I find baffling and am trying to figure out: namely, the jealousy some people feel about their partner masturbating. It’s titled My Partner Cheated On Me With Their Right Hand, and here’s the teaser:
Letâs take a closer look at jealousy for a moment. We tend to think of jealousy as a single emotion. But I donât think thatâs so. I think itâs more accurate to think of jealousy as a stew of different emotions. Itâs part fear â fear that your partner will leave you for someone else. Itâs part insecurity â insecurity about your own value and desirability in comparison to someone else. Itâs part hurt feelings â hurt feelings of being unwanted, rejected, left out. And itâs part just flat-out controlling possessiveness â the feeling that your partnerâs sexuality belongs to you now, and that they shouldnât have any sexual feelings or experiences that donât involve you.
Which of these feelings have anything at all to do with a partner masturbating?
To find out which of these feelings I think is the key to masturbation jealousy — and why I’m still so baffled by it — read the rest of the piece. Enjoy! And if you’re inspired to comment on this piece on this blog, please consider cross- posting your comment to the Blowfish Blog as well. They like comments there, too.
Oh, and BTW: Sorry I haven’t been blogging for a couple of days. I’ve been laid up with a stomach bug (no, it’s not the swine flu), so I’ve been horizontal on the sofa pretty much since Wednesday night. Am feeling much better now, though, and should have a proper new post up in a couple/ few days.