I have a new piece up on the Blowfish Blog. It’s a Year in Review piece, summing up the things I learned about sex (or was reminded of about sex) from writing my column on the Blowfish Blog. It’s titled What I Learned About Sex in 2008, and here’s the teaser:
I learned that sadomasochism is starting — just starting — to be a no- big- deal part of the sexual landscape… at least as depicted in popular culture. Ditto gay sex, sex work, and — to a lesser extent — non-monogamy.
And I learned that, despite all that, mass culture can still have a pretty retrograde idea of what constitutes sexual liberation.
I learned that figuring out what kind of sex you do and don’t like is an ongoing process that lasts a lifetime… because your sexuality can change over time, so you’re trying to hit a moving target.
I learned — or was reminded — that the way people define sex and use language about it can have a huge impact on how they practice it.
I learned that working out is hot.
To read more, read the rest of the piece. Enjoy!