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May 23 2008

I Do — And Why: The Blowfish Blog

Ring_2Remember about a week ago, when the California Supreme Court same-sex ruling came out? I was all a-twitter with girlish glee and didn't know what to say, but said I'd say more later?

This is later.

I have a new piece up on the Blowfish Blog. It's about why we want to get married — not civil- unioned, not domestic- partnered, but married. It's about why we'd want that even if all the legal and financial and other practical questions were a moot point. And it's about what same-sex marriage in California will change for us… and what it won't. It's called I Do — And Why, and here's the teaser:

But I want to talk about something else today. I don't want to talk about the legal and practical benefits of marriage. I don't want to talk about hospital visitation rights, child custody rights, inheritance rights, tax benefits, all that good stuff. That's all important, but it's also well-covered ground.
I want to talk about something more intangible. I want to talk about why we're getting married… apart from all that.

To find out why, read the rest of the piece. Enjoy!

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    oldcola

    Congratulation!

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    Tracy Canfield

    I wish you both every happiness!

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    Bekah

    Now if only Angelina Jolie would come out and profess her love for me it would all be complete! I loved your article too…but I still love AJ..

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    Kit Whitfield

    Congratulations, and well said.
    From a heterosexual point of view, there’s a tremendous advantage to same-sex marriage being recognised as well. As long as Marriage Is Between A Man And A Woman, in effect, straight people are co-opted on the basis of their sexuality into an institution that’s being used to oppress their fellow-citizens. And that sucks. I like the idea of getting married, I don’t like the idea of treating gay people as not-full-citizens, and I don’t like to feel that by doing one, I’ll be tacitly participating in the other. (I’m not such a martyr that I’d refuse to marry until gay marriage is legalised all over – there are better ways to make your point, and that would inconvenience no one but me and my partner – but I’d be much happier if my gay friends could marry too. Then marriage could be one happy party for all of us.)
    Because, in the end, hetero-only marriage insults all of us. It insults gay people most, of course, but it’s insulting to heteros too. I want the right to marry because I’m an adult and a citizen, not because my personal tastes happen to tend towards a lifestyle of which traditionalists approve. I don’t want my rights to be dependent on my orientation. I want the right to marry a woman if I wish, even if I never avail myself of it; that recognises the free choice I make if I marry a man.
    Turning marriage into a let’s-exclude-the-queers club degrades it. It’s high time the law recognised that gay and bi people are citizens too.
    I wish you and your dear wife a long and happy marriage. :-)

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    xxx

    cool

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