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Jan 10 2008

On Punishment, and the Lack Thereof: The Blowfish Blog

Note to family members and others who don’t want to read about my personal sex life: While the focus of this post is on sexual things that I don’t engage in rather than sexual things that I do, it still discusses my personal sex life, as well as my fantasy life, in quite a bit of detail. If you don’t want to read about that stuff, please don’t.

Crime_and_punishmentI have a new piece up on the Blowfish Blog. It’s a bit of a departure for me; instead of talking about sexual stuff that I have experience with, I talk about some sexual stuff that I’ve tended to stay away from… and why I find it both interesting and unsettling. It’s called On Punishment, and the Lack Thereof, and here’s the teaser:

It may seem strange, but although I’ve been practicing SM for about twenty years now, I have almost never done what is almost certainly the most common form of SM play. As a top, I’ve done punishment less than a handful of times… and I’ve done it as a bottom exactly never, except in a jokey, “wink-wink,” kidding around way.

It’s not that I haven’t done role-playing. But the role-playing I’ve done hasn’t been about, “You’ve been bad, so I’m going to punish you.” It’s been about, “I have power over you, so I’m going to do what I want with you.” Punishment has just never interested me.

No, more than that. Punishment has actively freaked me out.

Lately, however, punishment has been sneaking into my fantasies with increasing insistence, and increasing stubbornness.

So I want to look at what it is about punishment that freaks me out… and what it is about it that I’m beginning to find so compelling.

For more on why I find this form of play both compelling and freaky, read the rest of the piece. Enjoy!

1 comment

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    Wintermute

    I think that punishment is core to a lot of people’s spanking kink. You’ve been a naughty girl (or boy). Go to your room and remove your panties. You’re getting a hard spanking.
    I think that spankos tend to be type A people too. They hold themselves to high standards. Getting a hard spanking is one way to be absolved for not being perfect.

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