Please note: This post, and the post it links to, discusses many different aspects of my personal sex life, in a certain amount of detail. Family members and others who don’t want to read that, please don’t.
I have a new piece up on the Blowfish Blog. A two parter, actually. In the piece, I take an online test designed to determine whether I’m a sex addict… and I go after it with my laptop in one hand and a bayonet in the other, pointing out all the ways that the test pathologizes (a) unconventional sex, (b) sex that other people are shocked or upset by — regardless of whether they have any right to be, and (c) people who make sex a high priority in their lives.
Are you a sex addict?
I seem to be.
Via Dr. Marty Kleinâs excellent Sexual Intelligence blog comes news of this Sexual Addiction Screening Test from SexHelp.com, a site designed “to help those affected by sexual addiction and compulsivity.” The site was created by Dr. Patrick Carnes: inventor of the term “sex addiction,” founder and designer of multiple treatment programs for sex addiction, and author of several books on sex addiction.
According to Dr. Klein, Dr. Carnes admits he has no training in human sexuality. But let’s not focus on that just now.
Because according to this test, I have a problem.
Which is a bit odd. My life is good; my sex life is great. Things in my life are stable and flourishing, and sex is a happy part of that.
So I don’t actually think I have a problem.
I think this test has a problem.
To find out more about which questions I answered “yes” to on this test — and why I think the questions are the problem, not my answers — read the rest of the piece. Enjoy! (And if you take the test yourself, please let me know how you scored!)