Aug 23 2007

Only Losers Dine At Le Cirque: The Stigma on Sex Work Customers: The Blowfish Blog

PayingcoverbigA recent letter to the Savage Love sex advice column reminded me of a rant I’ve been wanting to make for a while; ever since I put together Paying For It, really. It has to do with the stigma on sex work customers, and the idea that “having to pay for it” makes you a pathetic loser. Oddly enough, even in the sex-positive community that embraces and celebrates sex workers, this scornful attitude towards sex work customers often persists.

So I’ve ranted about it over at the Blowfish Blog, in a piece called Only Losers Dine At Le Cirque: The Stigma on Sex Work Customers. Here’s the teaser:

Does paying a restaurant to feed you a meal make you a loser? Whether you eat out every night or only do it as an occasional treat; whether you’re looking for a special meal you can’t get elsewhere or simply want the convenience of getting dinner without any hassle… does it make you a loser? A pathetic nobody who can only get fed if he pays someone to do it?

For more, read the rest of the piece. Enjoy!


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    Ryan J.

    I just stumbled upon your blog, and I really like your take on things. Awesome stuff.

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    Cleo Dubois

    Thank you for this great article.
    I just returned from Chicago teaching a BDSM Intensive for pros where many issues around sex work were discussed.
    I use the negotiation piece I wrote for” Paying for it” in my course. Thanks for doing the book.

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