Only Losers Dine At Le Cirque: The Stigma on Sex Work Customers: The Blowfish Blog


PayingcoverbigA recent letter to the Savage Love sex advice column reminded me of a rant I’ve been wanting to make for a while; ever since I put together Paying For It, really. It has to do with the stigma on sex work customers, and the idea that “having to pay for it” makes you a pathetic loser. Oddly enough, even in the sex-positive community that embraces and celebrates sex workers, this scornful attitude towards sex work customers often persists.

So I’ve ranted about it over at the Blowfish Blog, in a piece called Only Losers Dine At Le Cirque: The Stigma on Sex Work Customers. Here’s the teaser:

Does paying a restaurant to feed you a meal make you a loser? Whether you eat out every night or only do it as an occasional treat; whether you’re looking for a special meal you can’t get elsewhere or simply want the convenience of getting dinner without any hassle… does it make you a loser? A pathetic nobody who can only get fed if he pays someone to do it?

For more, read the rest of the piece. Enjoy!

Comments

  1. says

    Thank you for this great article.
    I just returned from Chicago teaching a BDSM Intensive for pros where many issues around sex work were discussed.
    I use the negotiation piece I wrote for” Paying for it” in my course. Thanks for doing the book.
    Cleo

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